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hello everyone Karen Glasser here and
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welcome to life Uncorked aging like a
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fine wine and I am here with Alisa Klein
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she's the founder and CEO of one table
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welcome to the show how are you this
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morning I'm great Karen thanks for
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having me thank you for joining us today
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this whole program is spotlighting
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people that are doing extraordinary
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things in the next chapter of their life
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so let's just start out with your story
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and how did you end up where you are
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right now in your life tell us a little
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bit about yourself um I am a Jewish kid
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who grew up in Colorado Springs Colorado
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which is right at the base of Pikes Peak
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Mountain it's a very beautiful place
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it's a super odd place to grow up as a
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Jewish kid but I am uh the the child of
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a um Rabbi a congregational Rabbi and
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also a dancer and and so having an
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artist as a parent and a Biblical
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scholar and religious leader as a parent
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had a profound impact um it's really
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this interesting mix of um some
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scholarship and uh rootedness in history
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with creativity tell us a little bit
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about one table what is it sure one
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table is a um online platform like
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Airbnb so the way Airbnb works is that
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you have hosts who create a profile they
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open up their home to people who can
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visit you can rent a room a bed or the
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whole house H and then you have a guest
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profile who says I would love to um you
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know I'm traveling to Madrid and I want
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to stay in a beautiful home um we took
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the same concept of a host profile on a
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guest profile but we applied it to
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Shabbat dinner so it's called the social
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dining platform so we have now about
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20,000 people who are hosts these are
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volunteers who are willing to open up
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their home uh live out the value of
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hospitality and invite people in
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specifically for Friday night Shabbat
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dinner uh we started specifically with
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young adults in their 20s and 30s and
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are now expanding to people in their
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midlife and starting their next chapter
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um and we also support college students
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multiple different populations but the
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whole idea is uh to help people go
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online to go offline I love that and
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it's Community right it's all about
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creating that community that I think in
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this world that we're living in right
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now more than NE ever we need this right
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if you look at um people's sense of
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belonging and social connection
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throughout the week uh it es and flows
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and when you get to Friday night you
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have two possibilities one is the time
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to feel the most connected because you
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have a ritual that brings people
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together and the other is a time to feel
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the most socially isolated in other
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words if you do not have plans on a
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Friday night regardless of your life
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stage you might feel profoundly isolated
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uh or lonely um where as if you do if
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there is an invitation you know there is
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a place that you could go or the tools
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that you have to gather with others um
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we have research that shows that leads
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to remarkably higher senses of social
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connection so the fact that it happens
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Shabbat Friday night happens you know
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it's once a week there's always an
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opportunity to be aware of of who who is
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in your life and what those blessings
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are and then if you are looking to meet
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new people how to make that as easy as
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humanly possible with a reason to gather
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that bigger than just let's get together
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is actually rooted in this ancient
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tradition which can be very compelling
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so since one table started back in
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2014 we've hosted about 125,000 dinners
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we're roughly at a quarter million uh
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young adults who have participated um
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and we're in the early stages now of
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growing um to expand to other population
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so it's you know there are 30 college
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campuses that are powered by one table
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now uh and uh nent communities starting
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to grow people in their next chapter are
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starting to invite each other through
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the same resources so what keeps you
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going I mean this is I have to believe
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is a lot of hard work if this is not you
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just show up in the morning and Li d da
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what motivates you to keep doing
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this um I did not know anything about
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technology when I started this job I
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knew a lot about Shabbat and a lot about
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Community um but nothing about how you
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actually build a you know a social
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dining platform and what what does it
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mean to understand that so there's an an
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enormous learning curve for me which is
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just fascinating learning something new
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is always energizing I'm very kind of
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interested in um behavioral economics
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the way people make decisions what
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motivates somebody to um be inspired and
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to do something and then actually have
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the tools to to uh follow through right
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A lot of people have gym memberships
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that that sit unused right um and
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shabbats there every week we've got
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synagogues community centers all kinds
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of people but they're often empty and
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it's not because people don't want to do
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it what what gets in the way and so that
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to me is fascinating so the more I can
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understand the way people behave um and
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what are the barriers between them and
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com and being in fulfilling
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relationships for example and understand
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that that's exciting to me the world is
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a fraking mess polarization is I can't
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imagine it could be any higher but it is
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and it's in it is within our American
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society the global Society between um
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Israel and the rest of the world within
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our within our community uh and within
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families um and I am really driven to
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see what it looks like to keep people at
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the table uh in a in a literal as well
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as figurative way and that is incredibly
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motivating to me I mean we always like
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to ask our guests you know how do you
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want to be remembered and I think you've
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just answered that in in what you just
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said I believe you said you want to be
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remembered as the person who brought
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people together yeah and kept them there
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right so there are so many pressures to
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uh and that is to me terrifying it
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somewhat an existential threat I think
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there's tremendous value in the ritual
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practice of coming together uh with a
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regular Cadence there's a humility built
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into that practice that I think people
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are very hungry for but don't always
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feel like it is for them or they have a
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sense of belonging and that's really
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been my life's work as to um sen of
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course is a seat for you at the table I
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just think what you're doing is just as
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I like freaking awesome I I really and
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the fact that um you know it started in
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2014 here we are in 2024 and we went
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through you know a crazy three four
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years um did you actually do virtual
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shabbats look the the the the impact of
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of the pandemic was absolutely profound
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there was a huge increase in people
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trying to think about homebased Jewish
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practice at higher levels than we had
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seen historically before we saw um we
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used to do about 200 dinners on a weekly
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basis it went up to 400 dinners now
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we're close to Six to 700 dinners on a
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weekly basis but really um within two
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months of the pandemic we doubled in
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terms of participation um we saw a lot
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of people um making virtual Shabbat
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dinners absolutely using Zoom especially
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to bring together people from multiple
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Generations I'm sure you may have
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participated in some of those um and
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some of that was incredibly valuable and
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Powerful some was terribly awkward um
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and as soon as honestly as soon as uh
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our primary population of young adults
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as soon as they could gather in person
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however they had gotten so used to uh
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very intimate dinners two people four
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people five people um that it took about
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a year and a half to rebuild the muscle
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memory of going back up to six people
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eight people 10 people before the
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pandemic our average was about 12 to 14
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young people would sort of pack into
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their homes and it really um altered the
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way they were connecting people just
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didn't feel safe Gathering um and didn't
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really have the muscle memory of how to
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have uh what does it mean to cook for 12
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people like they had just sort of
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forgotten that and it's over time it has
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been rebuilt now the average is about
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eight people at a dinner which if you're
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curious is actually the ideal size of a
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dinner party um you put your put your
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you put your most robust person the
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biggest conversationalist right in the
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middle of the table right um but there's
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that's enough where everybody meet
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somebody new and also really engage in
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meaningful conversation well this is
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awesome I have one last question for you
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and that's what's next for Lisa and one
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table what's next for you so in in the
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immediate future for 2024 um I really do
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think that there is a necessity for this
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focus on staying within in dialogue with
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people even within our own team where
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people are across the board in terms of
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their own political connections and um
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the way they are associating identifying
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as a Jewish right now specifically um
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and so we've done some real structured
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resources and conversational tools I'd
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like to bring that way Beyond um so that
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people can have the the invitation to be
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at the table and then the resources and
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tools in order to do that um look I
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think you know we I'd like us to be
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reaching well over 100,000 people per
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calendar year um we're also taking our
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technology and wh labeling it that means
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um other organizations can say I would
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like to do uh kind of DIY dinners for my
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population whether it's a congregation
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in uh in Arizona or it's young adults
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who've who've lost a person in their
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family um or retirees in Palm Springs um
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so that is a whole new product line for
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us is like really bringing that up to
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the world as a person uh I'm very lucky
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to still have my parents who are in
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their late 80s and I have uh children
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who are off to college and so I feel
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like I'm very much in between and really
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wanting to spend as much um time with
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all of them as I possibly can uh and as
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I think about what you know what may be
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next for me it's really um making sure
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that I have the time to be as present as
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I possibly can uh with the people that I
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love thank you thank you thank you Alisa
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for joining us today we've been talking
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to Alisa Klein she's the CEO founder of
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one table if you want more information
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make sure that you check it out on their
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website get together. one .org thank you
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for joining us thank all of you for
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joining us we know that you have a
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choice as to how to spend your time you
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chose to spend it today with Alisa and I
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go out give somebody an awesome day and
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we'll see you next time goodbye