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May 14, 2018
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I know how to have it all but maybe not
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at the same time we'll stay tuned
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because that is the topic that we are
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discussing today on this episode of the
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little white lie hello everyone it's
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Karin Glasser and I am beyond excited
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about today's show because this is a
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show that actually got delayed from six
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weeks ago and we've got her back and I'm
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I'm going to say your name until we're
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ready to introduce her but before we do
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that this is the little white lie if
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the hashtag LW l stands for little white
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lie so today the question is how to have
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it all just maybe not at the same time
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and who better then my closest closest
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friend from over I wanting to say how
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many years oh my gosh I think it's like
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40 or 35 30 oh my gosh
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we're old but Joe Ryan she's amazing
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she's gonna be on the show today she is
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the winner of the Broadway world's
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cabaret artist of the year which is a
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huge huge honor her for octave range
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that means her voice she sings in 4
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octaves has led to numerous leading
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roles including Lana's and Little Shop
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of Horrors and Joseph and the Amazing
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Technicolor Dreamcoat and Foot Lowe's I
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mean literally the list goes on and on
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and you may have actually seen her for
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the many years that she was on Saved by
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the Bell she's played the the role of
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Judy Denmark ginger delmarco and also
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actually that doesn't that's not from
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the show that actually is from the Los
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Angeles production of rootless she was
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actually in the show she opened that
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show so in addition to that in addition
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to that you might have seen her in a
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most recent movie as Patricia from the
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feature film hot guys with guns yeah
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really hot guys with guns so without
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further ado I'm gonna go ahead and bring
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John Ryan and
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how are you hi I'm so excited to be here
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well I I don't know who's more excited
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you or me we've been talking about this
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for for a long long time and we really
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have known each other right for a lot of
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years a very long time I'd say a long
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time yeah look and we actually met
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singing and that is actually how we
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connected singing and then fast-forward
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many many many many years we reconnected
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again when I was singing at a synagogue
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as a cantor as a religious leader and
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you and I started singing again together
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and I mean the rest is history quite
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going right and and before we even go
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into the show I'm really excited to
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announce we have a song the theme song
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for the little white lie and recording
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this I cannot wait to be in the studio
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with you and we're gonna do some other
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recording - yes we're gonna be doing a
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lot of other recording so I'm really
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really excited that you're here on the
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show and what I like to do even before
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we start with the topic is to ask you
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John Ryan yeah is war little white lie
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well that Karen Glasser is a great
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question because I was thinking about
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that and I think my little white lie I I
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know that my little white lie was
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something that I actually told myself
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all the years that my children were
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growing up I would be auditioning for
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things in New York I live here in Los
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Angeles so I'd be auditioning for shows
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in New York and quite frankly I didn't
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really want a show in New York I was
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very happy with my career that way it
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was in LA so that I could raise my
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children and and I would kill myself for
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these auditions but I heard many years
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ago that if you don't have a result in a
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particular area then it's really not
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something you want right and the little
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road the little white light was really
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what I told myself is that I wanted this
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way bigger career and the truth was I
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knew that this time would come that my
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kids would be out of the house I'd be
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able to go do what I needed to do I
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always knew that but I think there was a
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part of me that was embarrassed to say
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that I love my family I love being a mom
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and I didn't want to go too far I
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totally understand yeah yeah and I
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really understand that but but speaking
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of somebody who understands your talent
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how amazing you really are and all the
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things that you've done i can i am
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excited for this next part of your life
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so I mean the question is can you have
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it all or do you should you wait til
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later what do you I think you can one
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can absolutely have it all I think we
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all have a pilot light inside of us
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whether it's to be a nurse or a
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performer I think whatever we wanted
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when we were little never really goes
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away
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we're Anna what I did is all that I did
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work the whole time my kids you know I
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did sing I did act but I didn't really
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take it to the heights that I thought I
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wanted when I was little ie New York so
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yes you can have it all but you have to
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do certain things I never stopped
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training I always kept myself together I
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kept my chops up I always worked and
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took care of myself so that when the
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time came I would be ready and so now
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that my kids are gone ostensibly we're
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laughing because we know that they're
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not all gone they're not all gone they
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are home now and I am gone but isn't
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that interesting you you know you go
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into that empty nest syndrome and then
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the kids come home and who goes it's the
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mom and dad they leave right well it was
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very funny because my agents wanted me
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to come to New York this last October
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both of my children were going to be out
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of the house in September and in August
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they both called and asked that they
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could come home that they you know
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needed a little boost and could they
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come home and my husband I said of
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course so they're home and for a brief
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second I thought about maybe now is not
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the time and I have an amazing husband
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which helps and he said oh no you are
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going this is your dream it is your turn
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you are going so they sent me with notes
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in my suitcase to my little apartment in
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New York and they come and visit quite a
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bit so it's really been an incredible
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journey what an amazing experience
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though that here you are at a certain
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age you know no matter what the age is
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but now that now that you're embarking
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on this new journey that you're on it's
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part of an extension of the old journey
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but a new journey and
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any respects and I know that you have
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some exciting news that we're going to
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share this afternoon as well yeah you're
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gonna you have a concert that's
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scheduled in the middle of next year and
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I know you have a date and where is that
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concert gonna be Joni it just happens to
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be a Carnegie Hall the series of events
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I'm I decided that well I've got to
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speed things up if I'm going to New York
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now I don't really have a lot of time so
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I called friends of ours who are these
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incredible people that started an
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organization called Shane's inspiration
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that builds playgrounds for kids with
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disabilities
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all over the world Wow and there is not
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one in New York so I thought well this
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is the perfect opportunity we will do a
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wonderful benefit I'll bring in my
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celebrity friends we'll have a tiny
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little benefit and I'll be in it and
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voila voila when I brought it up to my
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friends they said well we just happened
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to be working with Carnegie Hall so what
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do you think about that both over April
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just said oh yeah just little old
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Carnegie Hall that's right so I love
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that I have those things that might not
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have happened had I not taken the risk
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right one of the things that I as I'm
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very well very very excited and we're
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just um solidifying who else is going to
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be in it it's gonna be an amazing event
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and it's May 21st more to come but and
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the end result will be that it's not
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just about me we're actually gonna raise
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the funds to build a playground in New
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York and that's where our founders are
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from oh I love that my daughter just
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chimed in yay mommy see I'm the luckiest
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we're just gonna put Kelsey up there
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yeah and mommy isn't this great though
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that's an example I mean here you are an
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example to all families you're a woman
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who has oh you're following your dream
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and your kids are supporting you you're
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young adult kids are not kids anymore
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but they're supporting this journey of
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you as well it is it is very very cool
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and it's Kelsey's that's my mom that is
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totally and and we've got April going
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this is that this is so so amazing and I
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know you guys so it this this
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organization Shane's inspiration
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inspiration do
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is this the first playground or they
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done a lot of different playgrounds or
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playgrounds the original story is I was
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pregnant with my now 24 year old
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daughter Kelly and I were friends with
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Katharine and Scott were pregnant at the
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same time and unfortunately when their
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baby was born the baby Shane passed away
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within two weeks of childbirth but they
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took their grief they're remarkable
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people along with Tiffany Harris who is
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also the founder rad Thornton is also
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the head of development they took this
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horrifying painful experience and they
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raised the money to build their first
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playground ah now there are over 60 I
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believe all over the world including
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Russia Israel Australia Oh
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Thank You Rebecca Barker Oh Thank You
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Dona your family are a dream I know and
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I attest to that yes they are and so
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there is not one in New York so it all
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works perfectly when I called them and
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they said em there's none in New York so
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what turned out to it with a little
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benefit because everything is working
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the way it should it's it's going to be
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you know and I think about it at night
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and I think about that I might have a
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part in having a playground for these
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amazing children that just makes it all
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worth it so excited about that and I
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want to bring this home I didn't want to
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say group though April having a
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special-needs child myself I thank you
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from the bottom of my heart and what you
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are doing to bring happiness to special
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needs families and April thank you and I
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know how much that is heartfelt and she
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because she does have a special needs
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kids and and what you're doing is it's
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so wonderful besides the fact that so
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many people are gonna have the
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opportunity to hear your gorgeous voice
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and as well as the other talent that's
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that's going to be there so I guess what
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you're saying is is that we probably can
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have it all but not necessarily at the
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same time then you want me so what kind
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of hints or tricks or tips might you
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suggest who are viewing and listening
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audience maybe if they're thinking I've
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got a family I've got all these kids I
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have these dreams what am I supposed to
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do any any thoughts in terms of your
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journey that that could be helpful to
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others well I think first
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first and foremost is what is the most
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important to you first that's the first
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thing if the most important to you I
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know when I I wanted to have my kids to
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me that was the most important uh and I
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had a career at the time but I was
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willing to put my career on hold certain
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things you can't have at the same time
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you can't wait till you're 50 years old
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to have a baby so if that's your
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priority you have to do that knowing
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that the rest will follow but for me my
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kids and my family were my priority
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although I didn't just stay home for me
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and I needed to sing I needed to do I
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needed to act I needed to do that but
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when it came to going to a Halloween
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parade that was my priority I still
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appreciate that about you thank you so
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it's all about priorities it's not that
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it didn't sometimes you know it wasn't
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hard for me when I would do a show with
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all Tony winners but I said okay well
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you know for me so I think the first
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thing is one's priority what is your
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priority and sometimes you don't even
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have to in like I didn't know that I was
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really turning things down because I
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didn't want to leave somewhere and there
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there was that voice that's I'm actually
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laughing at this right now so I think
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that um Howard your hubby is what does
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Michelle sees Facebook that was from me
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Howard Howard we love you
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so you're here to tell us you're you're
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here to tell us that that that we can we
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can do this but then you have to say but
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you but in my case it really was knowing
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that in knowing that there would be a
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time that I would be able to do that
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knowing that there would be able to have
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so as I said before I trained I kept
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myself in shape I kept my voice in shape
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I didn't let it all fall apart
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however I still think that it's never
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too late cuz truthfully where are we
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going hopefully nowhere right now I'm
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gonna be the same age I am in ten years
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that I'm gonna be if I wasn't doing this
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does that make sense
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it's a Miley totally
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and that is part of what the little
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white lie is all about is that there are
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no limitations or there is no maximum or
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minimum date or age that you're supposed
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to do something other than maybe having
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a baby at 50 you may not want to do
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that's right
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ages and attitude age is not a limiting
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factor it is only that lie that we tell
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us that somehow we think that we can't
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do something right and that we can do
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what we want what we want and need and
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desire to do if we just stay focused and
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we just keep our eye on the endgame
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right yeah exactly and it's just about
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compartmentalizing like they right it's
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about compartmentalizing and if you
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compartmentalize then I mean I don't
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know that I could go to medical school
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right now because that takes too long
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and I would be 100 but no but this is
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doable
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it definitely is oh I'm just so I'm
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really excited so you got Carnegie Hall
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coming up which is I'm not making light
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of that that's huge Carnegie Hall and
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the date again is May 21st makers in the
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future but I will have my own show in
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New York
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I'm not exactly sure of the date but
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it's either the first or the second week
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in February all right so for our viewers
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well we'll make sure to put those data
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we'll make sure that people go and and
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if you're in New York and you want to go
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to Carnegie Hall make sure you put your
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calendar date in there right now May
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21st so when the tickets come out you
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know that you can go and not just
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support Joanie in this but support
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change the iteration as well because
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this is this is really a very cool cool
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thing that you're doing and I'm really
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I'm thrilled I'm thrilled for you
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so we talked a little bit about our
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history and we've sung together and
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we've recorded some things a night I'm
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laughing when you said well you really
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that you know you get a little singing
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here and there yeah you and I would sing
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at the High Holy Days we would we would
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do these beautiful songs to beautiful
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numbers together and we're going to be
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recording them because we want to put
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them out there the music business is not
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the same as it used to be as neck errect
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that's right it's very different
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everything's downloadable um but to that
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what we talked about
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I could sing at the Staples Center in
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front of 10,000 people but singing which
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I did I used to sing the star-spangled
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banner for the lake
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but that was easier than singing with
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you at the High Holy Days in front of
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500 people yeah and I'm not exactly sure
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why but it was a whole different I might
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venture a guess on that and that is
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because when you look out into the
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congregation or the audience you
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actually know the people that are
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sitting there and so it's a different
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environment I mean you're actually
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singing to people that know you and I
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think there is a difference there when I
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sing in front of a bunch of people that
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I don't know yeah totally yes but there
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was a lot of people that I didn't know
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of people that I know because there's
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something about that connection and the
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relationship and is able to look right
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with somebody's eyes and know that
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you're touching them
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in a way that a stranger might not yes I
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think they're me more about singing with
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you that was scary at the at the
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beginning was that it's how I had grown
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up you know in how I had grown up in
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that environment so there was just being
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grown up about it I guess
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absolutely I'm gonna put up here I know
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that people are already destroyed I'm
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getting Texas and things wanting to know
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how do they find out more about you well
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first of all you can write a John Ryan
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site you can go to John Ryan calm very
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very clear and more importantly go check
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out our Facebook page at a John Ryan fan
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page and it's the official isn't it the
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official John Ryan on Ryan actually I
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don't know why that says that but it oh
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here it is we got it and it's the
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official John Ryan on Instagram the
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official John Ryan on Facebook and also
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on Twitter right you have a Twitter
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account Tom I do have a Twitter account
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I don't really use it I usually use
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Instagram and John Ryan I just haven't
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wrap my head around what is my Twitter I
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think it's the official John Ryan I - I
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believe John Ryan so I want to take the
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words the official John Ryan go into
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Facebook put it into search and you're
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because a lot of good stuff is coming
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Instagram as well she got right it's
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great great images that you've got out
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there any last-minute thoughts that
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you'd like to share with our audience
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about having it all you know I think it
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also has to do at the risk of sounding a
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little you know sappy I think it has to
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do with gratitude for we
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you are in the moment my mother always
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used to say be where you are where you
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are is where you're supposed to be and I
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think that II it's not that things don't
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happen and it's not that you don't have
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envy that oh my god I'm not where I am
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but when you get the gratitude about
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being where you are and you're very
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specific about where you want to go you
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know sometimes you have to give up who
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you were in order to become who you want
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to be that's oh my gosh yes absolutely
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you are a case in point can make I can
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point you through many lifetimes it's
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that you know we have we have been
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together and I think it's also a matter
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of being uncomfortable every so often
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and yeah stepping into that and being
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uncomfortable because only good comes
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out of it and I really do believe that I
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know a lot of people think well how
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could it be good if I'm uncomfortable or
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if it's it's it's makes me squirrely or
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whatever that's actually my gauge if I'm
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uncomfortable if I'm feeling kind of
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about it then I know I'm on the right
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track how where does that well I'll just
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tell you a quick funny story the first
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weekend I was in New York my whole
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family was here in LA I moved to New
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York and I'm in a hot sweltering
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apartment this big and I was hysterical
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crying on the telephone to my husband I
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said this is a mistake I do not belong
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here
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I left my home what am I doing here and
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he said agree that will take you a
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couple of days and he was right but that
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talk about uncomfortable I was miserable
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but and then and look what happened the
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rest happening Johnny thank you so much
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for taking time out of your busy
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schedule I know that you're taking off
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for New York in just a couple of weeks
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again and you're gonna be there and I'm
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just so happy that you could squeeze us
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in to be able to be on the show yours we
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know that you have a choice as to how to
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spend your time and we are eternally
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grateful that you decided to spend it
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with Joan and I today we really
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appreciate that and we thank you from
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the bottom of our hearts
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so go out have a great day and we'll see
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you next week on the next episode up the
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little white lie goodbye everybody
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thanks Terrence
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