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today we welcome award-winning
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Elvis Oaks to the show today's topic is
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it takes a village if you are here on
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there today we have a great show as we
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always do my special guest is Alva sacks
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she's a former elementary school teacher
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of 16 years she holds a master's of
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Education degree she's wit written five
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award-winning children's picture books
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along with her illustrator patricia
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krebs as a board member of angels of the
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arts Alva helps title one schools to
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participate in live theater performances
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music and art appreciation and lastly
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but most importantly she has been
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associated with Reading Is Fundamental
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of Southern California for over ten
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and she's been the president for the
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past five years to help build home
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libraries which I love we'll talk about
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that for title one schools underserved
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areas and preschools in Los Angeles and
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Orange County and so without further ado
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we welcome out the sexes to the show
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come on in and join us how are you doing
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it's great I'm happy to be here with
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everybody a big hello to everybody out
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well I am absolutely delighted that
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we are going to be talking about it
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takes a village and it's such a great
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topic when we first started talking
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about this it was kind of just like okay
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that's what we're going to talk about
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because because it is so important in
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the fact that it's about children and
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it's about making sure that there is a
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future for our children
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before we jump into that I always like
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to ask the question how do you describe
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a super bloomer now I'm gonna describe
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it how I like to describe it and then
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I'm gonna turn it over to you out okay
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so I say that a super boomer is not
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defined by age it's how they show up in
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life and it's sort of like a fearless
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thing a fearless attitude with a just
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that's me I'm a super boomer how about
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you well that certainly does describe
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you I actually have a different vantage
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point only because I have been
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transplanted many times in my life and I
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also done many different things in my
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life and so I consider myself a bloomer
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instead of just a boomer I could be a
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bloomin boomer actually and I think it's
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important to realize just as a garden
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grows and new blooms come out all the
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time with the seasonal changes and I
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think that's just like your timeline in
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your life you really never know what's
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going to happen where you're gonna be or
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white what types of things that you'll
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be experiencing as you go through life
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and I think that's the most critical
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thing just learning how to bloom over
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and over again I love it when when you
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first sent me all your information and
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you said a super boomer is a super
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bloomer I love that and I love the
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analogy of growth and growing losing
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jacob says she loves this topic I do too
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Susan thank you for joining us we are
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delighted that you're here Alva is
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pretty special she's done a lot of great
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things so we're just gonna jump in right
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we're just going to right jump right
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into the topic and talk about it takes a
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village you know what does that mean
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when we say that it takes a village I
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know what I mean what do you mean when
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you say it takes a village I think the
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most important thing is to realize
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you're not in anything in life alone
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there's no if you think about Venn
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diagrams which I did a lot when I was
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going to my masters and teaching in
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you have until the center and you have
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all these other things that interact
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with you and they they interconnect so
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that maybe one time you're
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interconnecting with your children or
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your in-laws or your parents or the
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people you work with or your friends for
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instance that there's there's a coming
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dueling and and nobody can do something
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all alone I know we try and you know I
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know we trying we think we can and and
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we have to let people know that it's
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okay to have a village around you right
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a support system if you will never
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knowing you know when you might need
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that support system I certainly have had
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to need it many times in my life and
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yeah and in this day and age where that
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the family unit has has changed in so
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many different ways you know our
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children have come back to live with us
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our parents have we live with our kids
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all of these things are our schools our
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community it does take a village Susan
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Jacobs says it's her absolute favorite
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African proverb I did not know that that
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was an African proverb oh yeah I learn
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something every day thank you I did not
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know that well I really like that so
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first of all let's just congratulate us
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you are an award-winning children's
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author you have five award-winning
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children's books wow wow wow wow wow wow
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I'm gonna actually bring one right up
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into the show right now this is one of
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your books it's called I'm five oh my
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gosh I just love it I love the
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illustration Patricia is amazing she
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the story is amazing tell us a little
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bit about what this story is well thank
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you for mentioning Patricia I would have
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no book without her and she's in Buenos
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Aires right now and so we're kind of
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like a symphony together when we work
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you can't like separate anything from
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the other thing yeah this book literally
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I was in a writing conference with the
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SC BWI program out here I was taking
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notes and all of a sudden I wrote down
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the words I'm five okay it came out of
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and I still have the notebook with me
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and I started writing Wow and I said it
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and because I am an award-winning author
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I can I use my kids in my first three
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books ah Julie's the star and I'm five
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and a lot of it at night parallel her
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life because she was a preemie and she
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was born early and she couldn't her
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birthday was the end of August and she
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had a way to start school and all that
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and so this is a fun story about Julie
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who has her five birthday party all her
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friends are there her mom and dad and
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they're singing and she looks up at her
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mom and she says I'm ready to go to
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school tomorrow and her mom is like okay
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how do I tell Julie that she can't go to
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school she also schools not ready for
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how could school not be ready for me you
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know so so what is this is this for five
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year olds or is this for I mean you'll
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need to do three three three to five or
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and I've even done it in second grade I
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look at the kids when I'm there and I go
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do you remember when you start a
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remember your teacher your friends and
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how excited you were so so guys I'll
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make sure to put a link in the comments
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so that you can go check this out and
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the other four books that are
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award-winning you just told me before
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the show you're working on a new book
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very exciting I'm not we're not gonna
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tell anybody what it is other than
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you're working on a new book they need
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to keep an eye out on it because
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hopefully by the end of this year you
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said it's gonna be out right well the
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other things being a teacher if I can
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interject is on my website I've got
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activities for parents or teachers or
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whatnot to extend the reading experience
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with vocabulary and thinking and that
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type of stuff and that's a good thing to
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realize that it gives parents who maybe
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not know what to do after they finished
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reading a book with their child word
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searches crossword puzzles coloring
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sheets write your own ending and I love
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that I love that so we put all this
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website up here so you can go check it
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out Alba Sachs come so that you can
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check out all this great great work that
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you're doing okay so we talked about
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group building home libraries first of
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all what's a home library is it exactly
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what it sounds like where you send books
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to the house or what's a home library
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reading it's fundamental of Southern
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California has been around for over 60
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years it started out in Washington DC we
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have mostly title one schools but there
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are more opportunities for schools to
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participate with a program fee and what
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it is is we get books donated brand new
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books we have an amazing warehouse here
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in Southern California that serves Los
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Angeles and Orange County as well as
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preschools and headstart schools and the
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books are donated they're brand new and
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they're all shelved by category and
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school districts have school sites that
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decide whether they want to enter or not
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because you know we lost all of our
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grant funding over the years yeah for
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books and schools and Head Start and all
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that right so we could get brand new
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book donations and then there's school
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site coordinators and they do a book
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distribution day and there's a table for
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first grade second grade third grade you
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know for reading letter levels and stuff
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like that how wonderful and I have it
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turns out to be like a special
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celebration you know the kids get to
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pick their books and so on and so forth
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we've had many sponsors over the years
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as well and there were book plates in
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there the LA Kings was a sponsor we've
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had some other sports organizations and
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sponsors we do a book mark contest these
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bookmarks what the kids do about reading
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they just blow you away you would think
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they were like 20 years old you're
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you're clearly passionate about this I
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mean you know you're an educator for
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many many many years you you have gotten
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involved in in so many organizations
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that helps to promote literacy and
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reading and all sorts of things like
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this we need you we need we need Alba
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facts to do this you might just say that
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the children are the eyes of the future
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let's discuss that because I believe at
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the end of the day everything that we're
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doing is for for the children that are
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going to be coming after us
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and our world is going to be there
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hopefully our world is going to be there
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for our children so when you say the
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children are the eyes to the future
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what are you meaning by that I was at a
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conference when I looked back in
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Overland Park Kansas and we had amazing
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people come to speak to teachers on our
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in-service days and I remember like
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yesterday this one woman was talking to
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us and she said our children are
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messengers to a time in place in our
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future that we will never see Tryon
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gives me goosebumps to say I just got
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goosebumps it's true and you think about
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it you know we hope to live a long time
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we hope to be there but we hope to be
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able to instill in our children those
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types of values that are compassionate
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empathetic accepting caring
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understanding kindness they're all very
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basic yeah some reason they keep getting
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lost and all the other things that are
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happening in our society today right now
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thinking about what type of country we
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are a type of country we were formed on
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and I love teaching all of that because
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I talked to if grade I did the American
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Revolution stuff and all that stuff with
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our children and the other thing is that
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babies are not born prejudiced they're
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not born racist they're just born into
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the world regardless of your religion
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your ethnicity or anything like that and
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to be able to raise a child to look at
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somebody who's just maybe a little
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different from them we're all different
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I think there was a story about somebody
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said that a bunch of cookies on a baking
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sheet and some stayed in longer than
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others so some are a little bit darker
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God knows I burnt cookies before and I
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was like well you know Albert it's
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interesting because I know if we teach
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our children this that the age the eyes
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of the future is to the future as our
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children ultimately they will teach
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their children because they hopefully
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they will have learned this it's learned
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behavior and it seems to me in this day
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that we live in that somehow we missed a
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generation there that we a lot of people
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I see that don't think about how it's
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generations to come the things that we
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do today and all you have to do is turn
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the TV on and I'm not even talking
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politics right now right and what you're
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willing to learn and what you're willing
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to pass pass around down to your
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children and I think that that maybe
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some parents are interrupted right
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bringing up conversation or bringing up
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a thing and I think that's one of the
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good things I think that social media
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has helped there's been wonderful
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inspiring stories of children who are in
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school together who are different
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ethnicities and come from different
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backgrounds and come from different
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monetary things what they can afford
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where they live where they can't live
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and how they're in a food program or not
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and and I think letting people know that
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wherever a child is at it's okay we
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don't have to make we don't have to
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stamp at every break exactly if if if
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you're a parent and I know you've done
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this with your son if you're a parent
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and you're caring compassionate and
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empathetic and you model that behavior
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but you know your child's gonna do that
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you know are they gonna go off the path
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maybe why can't they have to learn what
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types of feelings that they write and
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why it's okay why it's not okay and how
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to learn how to learn to understand it
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and why the feelings right happen so I
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and I think I think the most important
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thing that parents really need to do is
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to talk to their kids
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yes afraid don't don't think they're too
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young find that level of communication
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there and there's so many books out
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there that can help parenting with that
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or talk to your friends whose kids are
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older and say what did you do when this
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happened yeah that's your village
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village and we come back new it takes a
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village it's okay to say hey what did
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you do or I've noticed this about you
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know my child you know and it's okay
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Eddie's I mean I talked I actually have
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when when my son was growing my sons
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were growing up I would actually talk to
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my parents because I would say what did
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you do when we did this and and because
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I did want to learn from my parents and
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sometimes when were kids we only learn
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from the from the age that we can
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understand right but as we get older it
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has a deeper meaning so I totally get
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that and Susan was saying she just says
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every teacher needs to come and hear you
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speak wouldn't that be amazing
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I agree Susan you're gonna she'll come
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and we were just talking about this
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about doing a joint book club with
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children and parents so that so that
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parents can learn and grow with their
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kids and vice versa I totally totally
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love that so your tagline is serendipity
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what does that mean a happy accident
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you're a happy accident or what you're
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doing is a happiness has happened in my
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life it's almost like in Hebrew for sure
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that it was meant to happen it was a
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happy accident that I met my husband
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mm-hmm I wasn't supposed to all the odds
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were against me and that my illustrator
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I met her at a happy accident and many
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things in my life have happened along
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that course besides loving the movie
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serendipity I love that movie I love
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that man and that's where they have the
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frozen hot chocolate right oh my god and
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I think we all have the opportunity to
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have serendipity come into your life as
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a happy accident or something something
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occurs and you go like oh my gosh I
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never thought that could happen or right
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now that just slapped me silly or
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something like that but you have to you
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have to just allow yourself to be open
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right be accepting and I think that
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everything's got to follow a certain
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line or a certain path nice so I so so
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agree if you guys are just tuning in
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right now we're talking to Elvis acts
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we're talking about the topic it takes a
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she is a a five-time award-winning
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children's book author she has five
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books out we were talking about one of
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her books called im5 which you can check
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out I put a link in the comments already
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you can check that book and go check it
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out online and you'll see all the other
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books that she's done as well one of the
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things that I always like to ask my
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is what's one tip that you can share
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with our audience and you brought
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something back to me about it's not it's
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not about you right who's it about
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Elva it's about giving back I mean
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whether you have money of Education you
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of a house you've closed you new things
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you know those are tangible you know and
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they're great if you could have them and
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you can afford them but it's those
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intangible things in life and I tried to
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raise my children that way I have three
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yes I yes very proud of them they're
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in spite of me and my husband but they
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all work in the art of health insurance
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enough said no said that's that is but
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but when I look at them and I in like
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this when I when they were little when
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we go into quote-unquote Toys R Us and
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they they would never say mommy can I
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have this mommy can I have that if we
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were buying a birthday present I say
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this is not your day this is for your
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friend's birthday party and I would
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explain to them that giving giving to
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others you know as well as sadaqa
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through our religion and like that and
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it doesn't matter who you are if you can
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give back if you could give a hug if you
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can give a smile if you could give a
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like a warm embrace or say something in
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back of the grocery line or you walk
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down the street and you make I can't act
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with someone you say can I have a day
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just smile just open the door holding
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the door for someone or you know these
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things you know have been around forever
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I think if you model that behavior right
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it comes right back to you
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so it's true I mean whenever I go too
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fast through it let's say when I'm going
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through the Starbucks line I always ask
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the server how his day or her day is
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going how are you doing today
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and then I wish them a good day on my
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way out it doesn't take but one second
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to do that and I just made myself human
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and made myself a real person not just
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the person sitting in the car that's
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going to speed off and they to a person
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oh thank you for asking I made their day
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and how easy is that I encourage you
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guys to go out and do that so um Susan
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is asking have you ever spoken at a
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teachers professional development day
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and if not sad so Susan I'm gonna I'm
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going to task you with this maybe you
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can send us some some contact
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information so that because Susan was a
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teacher and so she's totally resonating
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with with what we're talking about right
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um and you know she's saying as a
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teacher we have unimaginable influence
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on our when you're in a classroom with
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35 to 40 kids I mean I had I had 40 kids
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in a classroom I taught fifth grade and
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I taught fourth grade and taught
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kindergarten through fifth as well right
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my experiences have been so great and
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and those those kids they walk into your
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classroom with baggage that you don't
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know about me right you know and if you
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can do something to know where they're
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coming from and have their day and
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better than it started or if you can be
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compassionate and let them know that's
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really really important and we're all
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learning we're all in school we're all
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in school every day of our lives we are
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we are and we continue and and I think
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as we get older we learn from our
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children oh that's good oh absolutely
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we're talking to all the sacs if you
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want to and I'm sure you do if you want
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to check out her website I encourage you
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to go over to Alvis ads.com Alva's also
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on twitter and you can check her out at
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Alice axe and she's also on Facebook and
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you can check her out at facebook.com
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forward slash alpha dot sex your your
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your your everywhere your everywhere it
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was just like that one line from one of
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the plays a little any name that you
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have to be everywhere I can't say the
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whole line but it's like they did it at
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Calabasas high school and took that's a
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great play if you ever want to get some
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really good good one-liners from that if
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you just it's it's like manure
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turn around you never know what's gonna
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grow because of what's in that you heard
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it first here it's like manure okay well
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there you go any last thoughts any last
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comments you want to share with our
22:21
audience if this has just been very
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instructive and I'm just thrilled that
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you've been here is there anything else
22:26
that you'd like to share with us today
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well I just think that I've known you a
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long time yes and what you're and in
22:33
many capacities yes you've always been
22:35
caring and supporting and loving and
22:37
understanding and that comes from your
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big heart and I think that what you're
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doing and hoping that it reaches and
22:44
resonates with people and I think if
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anybody needs a takeaway from it it's to
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realize that you know be yourself don't
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think I don't be embarrassed and you can
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learn from somebody else and sometimes
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it just feels so good to look at a
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stranger or look at somebody or
23:01
compliment somebody you know what you
23:02
did a really good job on that even if
23:04
it's an adult adults need this more than
23:06
children today the insecurities that are
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around adults today is very heavy very
23:12
heavy especially the millennial
23:14
generation I think they have to find
23:16
some way to know that it's okay to not
23:20
succeed pick yourself up and try again
23:22
that's one one foot in front of another
23:24
your hair I agree I totally agree
23:28
baby steps baby steps and younger never
23:31
too old to follow that I agree I agree
23:34
Alba I'm so happy that you took the time
23:36
today to come and join the show we've
23:39
been talking about doing this for a
23:40
while and I'm just delighted that you
23:43
were able to spend time with us today
23:44
thank you from the bottom of my heart I
23:48
hurt you back I'm gonna drop you into
23:50
the green room cuz we're getting ready
23:51
for the super boomer moment Wow
23:54
see ya so I'm gonna go ahead and talk
24:02
about the super boomer moment we do this
24:03
at the end of the show something that
24:05
struck a chord with me and actually I
24:06
thought I was going to talk about super
24:09
boomers being super bloomers because I
24:10
just love that visual but actually what
24:13
I do want it what my my super boomer
24:16
moment in this show is is that it's not
24:21
it's about what we can do for others put
24:23
a smile on your face say hello to
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somebody out there and in the checkout
24:27
line at the market when you go into a
24:29
restaurant be nice to the the hostess
24:32
the waitress it doesn't take much to do
24:34
that and you get it back in spades I
24:37
know that personally because I've done
24:39
that and I know that when you try doing
24:41
that it's gonna become second nature
24:43
so that was my super boomer moment of
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this show I'm just I'm always happy that
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you come and join us every single week
24:52
this is a labor of love for me I love
24:55
doing these shows I love the amazing
24:57
guests that come on from all around the
24:59
world next week we have a
25:01
cinematographer who's joining us in be
25:02
Saini she's unbelievable where do you
25:04
hear this show she's just fascinating
25:07
and it's all about us as super boomers
25:09
and that we are fearless we are going to
25:12
do anything and everything that we want
25:14
to do I want to thank all of you who are
25:16
here because we know that you have a
25:18
choice as to how you spend your time and
25:20
I want to thank you for spending your
25:22
time with Ulla and I today and go out
25:25
and give somebody an awesome day and
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we'll see you next week on the next
25:29
episode of the super boomer lifestyle
25:32
show goodbye everyone