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Passing the Torch: Crafting Your Legacy So That It Endures 🎉
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Jan 3, 2024
How do you envision crafting your legacy? As we turn the pages on another year, our minds naturally ponder our past, present, and future. Crafting your legacy invokes a kaleidoscope of emotions, from pride and hope to the occasional twinge of regret and anxiety. No need for concern – we're here to guide you through this meaningful journey. This month, Life Uncorked unravels the secrets to imprinting your essence on the future. Whether it's wisdom, laughter, or stories, your legacy is a gift that you give to the ones you love. 👉 Episode 1: Engraving Your Essence on the Future What memories and values will you pass on? Discover how to distill the essence of your experiences into a legacy that touches hearts and inspires minds. Now is the perfect moment to reflect and act. Do it for yourself and those you care about. 👉 Episode 2: The Timeless Blueprint for Your Ethical Will Ever considered a message that outlives time? Uncover the power of an ethical will and how it can encapsulate your deepest values and life's lessons. Let us guide you through this thoughtful process and show you how it will enrich your life and the lives of your loved ones. 👉 Episode 3: Age with Zest – The Sheila Haisfield Story Is age just a number when it comes to new beginnings? Meet Sheila Haisfield, the dynamo behind Bally Girl, Inc., and the Bally Nana on Instagram. At 82, her life's pivot from the corporate world to building a successful business in Bali is nothing short of inspiring. Discover how she redefined her narrative. 👉 Episode 4: Seize the Day – How to Live Vibrantly Feeling the monotony of routine? How do you venture beyond the usual? It's about crafting a life brimming with excitement and purpose and stepping out of your comfort zone. Resolutions are passé – let's create lasting change. #newyear #legacy #ethicalwill #lifelessons #lifeuncorked Click https://www.uncorked.online/napa-guide for your complimentary copy of The Ultimate Napa Travel Guide Click to get your copy of the Ethical Will: https://www.everplans.com/articles/download-and-fill-out-your-ethical-will Subscribe to our YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@CarenGlasser Subscribe to our Spotify Channel: https://spoti.fi/3oXWCL3
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[Music] hi everybody Welcome Back to Life
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Uncorked and a very special happy New Year to you all karen how you doing I am
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doing great I am can you believe it's the New Year how did that happen don't we say that every week I say that every
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week well cheers cheers to the New Year cheers to the New Year we hope that you
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all had a beautiful holiday and are ready for this new year 2024 I it seems
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like it's out of an you know orwellian novel I know I know I know but it's
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going to be a great year and we're going to kick it off with a bang um because
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you know we we hate resolutions right we just totally hate their whole resol so when we were talking about what were we
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going to do you know we had this this Epiphany and that was how do we want to
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be remembered why don't we begin with the end in mind instead of saying what we want to do this year why don't we
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talk about how we want to be remembered so Mel I mean do you I I I think about
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this all the time I really do I think I do in terms
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of more not so much how I want to be remembered when I'm gone but how I hope
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I'm thought of now and I hope that carries through and and for me it's it's that I love my family yeah and that I'm
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always hopeful yeah I love that I love and hope
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is a really word right now right as as I'm positive yeah I mean I am you know
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I'm like my I think I've shared this previous episodes my kids gave my
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husband and I hashtags I'm proud mom he's no filters and my friends actually
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gave me one They carried it a step further and gave me the hashtag Silver
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Linings and I think it's because I write about that and I always do choose to find the positive and I hope that that
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that reflects in how I live my life and the Legacy I live behind that I chose the positive out Outlook that's that's
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beautiful that's beautiful how about you I you know I I want people at the end of the
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day and it does and let me rephrase that at the end of the day only thing that
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matters is what I how I remember how I think about myself because if I show up
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worrying about what everybody else is thinking about me then it's going to change how I show up and so with that as
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a caveat I'm hoping that somewhere after I'm long gone that when people think
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about me they think about how I showed up in service and that really my first
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question was always how can I support you and that is really who I feel I am
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at my core and I I I hope that people know that and realize that and have
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experienced that with me that's how I want to be remembered I that's beautiful and I think I can tell you that's how I
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think of you now when I need something you're there when I ask if you don't know the answer you find it you are
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always there to help and connect and offer yourself however you can to others
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it's beautiful thank you thank you and I you know and I hope that you know we have kids but we we both have kids and I
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hope that um I put that on them as well and that they in turn want to out and be
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of service and and maybe take a lead from me I don't know if that's easily done though right I mean because they're
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not me right they're not but I think you see you see it now we both have adult
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children and we see that the paths that they choose and the way that they conduct themselves and and there's no
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greater compliment that I get from the outside and I don't look for other people to approve or disapprove of of
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how I've raised my children but when people come to me and whether they knew knew them growing
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up or now as adults comment on what what incredible young men they are and kind
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and giving and gracious it warms my heart because I know that that I am
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leaving the world a little bit better in their hands for them to carry on you
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know I read an article that years and years from now we're
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going to we're going to be just like the great grandparents we don't remember right and and that we because we don't
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we don't talk about them as much and so the how we are remembered are by the people that are remembering us and and
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there there is a um when you do things without worrying about how it how it
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look makes you look and instead you do it just because you want to do it um
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people remember that and you know I I try to remember the relatives in my family that some of them I never met and
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so I actually know them through pictures or stories and so I hope as I continue
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on that my kids will tell stories about well nice stories hopefully they'll tell good stories about me um and in turn F
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right I mean and and obviously I mean I know in your family with your kids having been with you in and the re empty
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nest that you're now in an empty nest again but they were with you and they were they were you were creating all of
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these memories with them and so if you were to ask them how they remember their nana right
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I yeah I think that um I think it's a beautiful thing and I think whether you
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can be there be with your family physically or via Zoom now we're fortunate to have the electronic
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communications that we didn't um you know FaceTime we can be connected in
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such a a more personal way than in past our abilities to remember that however
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you are present with them is what matters the most you know there's a there's a poem that I used to do when I
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did I did a lot of funerals I I officiated at funerals and there was a a poem that was called we will remember
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that's literally a poem we will remember in the rustling of the leaves we will remember in the the flowing stream we
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will remember and all those things will bring those memories back do you feel that there are things that will um tweak
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a memory about somebody in your in your family oh I do and I feel that even to this day as I'm cooking and I make my
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grandmother's spaghetti sauce which it takes me back to my teen years trying to
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get her to write down the recipe which as anyone out there who cooks but
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especially Little Italian grandmas they don't use a recipe and I literally followed behind her taking spices and
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things out of her hand to measure in a cup and to this day I now I don't use a recipe for it but all I have to do is
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think I'm going to make spaghetti and I am immediately transported to being in the kitchen with her learning how to
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make it so I think that that's a thing to carry on and those are Traditions not
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necessarily in the traditional sense of the word right right but they are such an intrical part of the fabric and
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they're woven so tightly that and beautifully that it creates a magnificent opportunity to carry them on
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through generations yeah I mean I was making uh potato pancakes the you know during the
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holiday season and my kids were telling me my my youngest my kids he's 38 was telling me he remembers making lotas
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with a a um shower cap on that's because you know the oil and
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the smell and you talked about that last month yeah I would stand there yeah I don't know if I want to be remembered
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for that but those are those are the memories right that that that we that we
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put together that become the whole uh totality of who we are and we are made
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up of all these memories I think yeah it's and I think that that is
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if we if we lean into the word legacy it's it's as much What We Leave Behind
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as what they carry forward because we are who we are we've done what we've done and what they take from that are
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are you know our Offspring and and the people that meant so much to us what
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they carry forward is the True Legacy of what we have left I think that's
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beautiful we hope that um you all start the year beautifully like we are um
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again it's 2024 and we wish you um a wonderful first week of the year wow
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gosh and and and we hope for continued peace excuse me and and light and cheers
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to 2024 cheers and don't forget check out down
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below in the copy we anything that we talked about where you can find us and all the different social check it out let you
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know let us know not don't let you know let us know how you want to be remembered we want to know how you want
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to be remembered let us know and um we will maybe share some of those thoughts
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if you haven't already picked up our Napa travel guide you want to make sure
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you pick it up the link is down below really great resources melan it really is the ultimate travel guide we spent a
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fair amount of time up there Karen lived there so we took opportunity to show you Napa like you have never seen it and
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you'll want to experience it check it out absolutely go out have a good day
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[Music]
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everyone Hi everybody Welcome Back to Life onc we're thrilled to be here I'm Greenberg and I'm Karen Glasser and it's
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time to drink cheers Che this is water and I'm not doing the
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whole dry January thing but I did make a promise to myself to drink more water as
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much as you think you you need especially in our living in the desert and dry climate in the winter you just
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you're not as inclined to drink water because it's cold and you feel it everywhere my my cases of dehydration in
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the desert in the winter than in the summer which kind of goes against the grain of yeah so I just made a promise just to
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keep drinking more water and wine and wine water and then wi maybe all
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together you know they say when you're drinking water well every sip right yes and I do do that do some water so this
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is cutting age stuff that we're talking about yeah this this week we're kind of excited to talk about something carrying
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on the idea of our Legacy and what we want to leave behind and I'm wondering
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and you can please share in the notes um share with this are you familiar with an
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ethical will yeah you know we've heard about trusts we've heard about living trust we've heard about wills and things
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like that and ethical will um is such an interesting concept and I think it's maybe if possible more
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important I complely agree the will will I mean we all need the you know what
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the physical properties the the the trusts the this the that but this goes
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deeper on a much more beautiful level so first a quick definition of what an ethical will actually is it's a it's a
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document it's a it's a piece of paper that you write down and convey your values your beliefs your life lessons
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everything that you would like to impart on people that come after you and
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specifically your kids I mean very specifically your kids so that they know who you were and what you stood for so I
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know you have a great story oh but I was going to ask you like is it is it something that
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you can explain a little bit more is it do you really need it's not a formal legal document it's no it's not a formal
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legal doc kind of that you leave a love note to your family oh love yes it's a it's really a love note but it's but I I
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would say it's even deeper than that because it's a love note that says you are who you are because of the things
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that I hope I imparted onto you kind of that it's that kind of thing so you know
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in an ethical will you might want to talk about what's important to you like um that that your
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grandparents that that you've always honored your grandparents and the people that came before you and and why do you
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because their values also their ethical will was what brought you forward so for
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that I mean that's that would be one of those things you would share some stories things that happened in your past and I've shared my my story my mom
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passed away when I was quite young and and she actually left me long before this I even knew this was a thing a
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several written pages of who she was what she prayed for us go my brother and
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I going forward what she hoped for our lives what had been important to her and what she hoped she left us and instilled
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in us so honestly I I've been holding on to her ethical will without realizing it
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it had a formal name it was just beautifully and it was H what I loved it's handwritten so I have a a treasure
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of her writing still it's not typed and I think I would do that I because I'm
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going to do this I think it's a beautiful exercise and it's a precious
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gift to leave those you leave behind but I think I'm GNA handwrite it because that's also that's you it's a piece of
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it's like leaving a voicemail I mean it's something that you can I look to and I I picture her handwriting and and
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I can see her right sitting at a table writing so it's it's it's a beautiful thing I'm going to handw write mine you
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know and one of the other things you might want to include not you in particular but you do you're a chef you're a cook and there might be some
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those recipes that you were saying that brought you back in the past that's a great
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idea I love that oh yeah I mean put recipes in there uh the books that you love to read because the books you read
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really tell the people who you really are what kind of things you like these are out ofx you could almost carry the
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whole the W the the will aspect of it further and I just thought of this while you were saying that make almost a time
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capsule I love that for your children I
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really really like that and maybe it's it's a maybe it's you know like a pass to the Eiffel Tower because they know
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you loved Paris or you know something or something you did together as a family lift tickets from a family ski trip I
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little things that draw you together you know whatever the time caps but that would be kind of yeah and photographs
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and and the photog family you know all of that it's that it's the stuff to
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remember where you came from I mean I've recently gotten involved with my not gotten involved but I have a huge huge
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family that had lost touch with each other um throughout the years it used to be they would get together for picnics
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and they would get all I mean not just the immediate family but the extended family and then they stopped and I don't
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know why and so one of the things that I want to find out and pass on to my kids is is the Legacy from that experience
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and put together new events now for the families that are still here the new
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families you know the younger generation of right um well have you come across a
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site that you particularly like that offers the um explanation and perhaps templates for those out road so um one
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of the articles that we've both been reading is from a place called ever plans.com put it down in the copy and it
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talks about how to write an ethical will uh the different components but it also has um and the one that we happen to
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like but you can find them all over is how you can download it and actually fill out the form if you really have no
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sense of where to start because this is a New Concept for a lot of people right it's normally I'm leaving my money to
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such and such this is different well and sometimes having bullet points to start out to get you then you're on a roll
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right I mean some of the things might be like uh determine what you want to communicate consider what they might
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want to hear from you right um You might want to talk about your thoughts and your feelings your dreams your hopes
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your desires your your values and values is a very important word for me I think that I want my kids to have the same
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values that I have hopefully right well and I think that that doing this also
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helps it would likely help the connecting process because
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you're going to feel a different inner connection with your children that
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you're leaving behind going through this because you're going to really have to draw out what you want to say to them
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and values is a beautiful one that you a thread that you want to carry forward and I think it's important the most
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important thing is to express your gratitude and your love for those who you leave behind so they know how much
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you love them I it breaks my heart I hear stories of kids that don't kids
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adults the don't know that their parents love them and don't know that they had grandparents that Lov them I don't want
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to be that person right no and the smallest thing to you could seems
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completely insignificant when you leave it like this some you know a child grandchild great-grandchild may be
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reading through and whatever they're going through in their life at that time will really touch them and make a world
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of difference to them truly truly I I love this topic I really love this topic
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I hope that you guys like it too and that you maybe consider looking and doing an ethical will as I said we put
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we're going to put all the stuff down there so go check down there in the copy and check out ever plans because it it
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really spells it out and there are there are several sites you can just Google
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ethical will I was shocked at what came up because honestly until recently hadn't been familiar with that term and
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there's so much out there many resources and books and ideas to to get you
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started and it's a beautiful Legacy it really is and I think also at the end of the day when you can share it with those
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loved ones your kids and literally have a have a a nice um experience around it
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I'm giving I'm don't wait till you're dead is what I'm saying don't wait till you're dead for them to discover your ethical will sitting with the rest of
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the wills give it to give it to the people that matter yep I love that so
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we'll see you all next week have a good one take care
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[Music]
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hi everybody welcome to this week on life UNC we're so glad you're here with us joining me today to share her
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fabulous story of Aging like a fine wine is Sheila Hayfield she's the founder and
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president of B girl Inc and you may know her as the Bal Nana on Instagram Sheila
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welcome how are you doing right now just kind of what's going on everything's good um I'm still doing some physical
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therapy because I have back issues like you know talk about aging also fine wine
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right this minute but uh it's actually getting much better so oh good I know
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doesn't it seem like sometimes you wake up and you're fine and then with Within
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minutes it's like where did come from that's how I felt when I came back here I thought oh this is great you know I
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can do this and that and the other yeah it slowed me down a little bit but I just did a trunk show the other day so
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yeah I don't think much slows you down it would more than that yeah you're amazing in fact that's why you're here
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to share your incredible story you were approaching 60 one day and you just said to yourself I can't do this anymore well
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it was really what exactly what happened was vice president of a bank doing their marketing and you know pulling on the
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panty hose and putting on the suit and slipping into the faras and thinking oh my God I cannot do this the rest of my
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life and I can't afford to retire so I have to come up with an alternative retirement plan so I had visited Bali um
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10 years prior and it just resonated they had just gotten electric it was strung you know on a
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bamboo yeah through the rice fields and um I had one bare light bulb in the
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middle of the room and um hanging from the and no hot water and no flush
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toilet and it was a huge contrast and I felt at home so that inspired you to
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change directions and leave well it wasn't quite that easy I went back you
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know to see if it still resonated this was 10 years prior I had a cousin that had moved there um in 1991
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and I had been on a horse trk in New Zealand and looked at a map and thought oh he's only this far away I'll go see
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what Richard's up to but I came back and kept working and so when this happened at 60 I thought okay I've got to think
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of a five-year plan so I came back from that trip and thought this is it I'm
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going to put it all into place one thing led to another and I finally woke up another morning and thought you know
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what I'm going to turn 65 and say I should have done this five years ago did you find when you turned 6
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that you know because we've always celebrated the 10e Milestones 20th birth or 21st but 30 40 50 60 and then my
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husband and I went through that was like at 60 we're like we're gonna start celebrating the big ones every five years yeah because all of a sudden 10
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years you I don't know it seems a bit long you're right and and every 10 years I would picture myself 10 years you know
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in the future and it was never anything like that right you know um life happens
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and it does usually for the better um you know you just make it better you
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make I love that you make it better that's exactly right um so what drives
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you now and tell us a little bit about the company because it's a pretty drastic change from it was a from from
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bar from Bank marketing yeah well I did end up saying you know I have to do this
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sooner than later so the five months became you know instead of five years
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became the plan I moved there 22 years ago now I just turned 82 and I had no idea what I was going to
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do when I was there I he wanted me to join him in his business he had a clothing business but I said no I really
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wasn't GNA continue in business I thought okay let me just take it easy and travel a little bit and of all
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places Bali just relax and you're right exactly exactly I had been working for
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the first five years so anyway I hired one artist and we had a business of hand
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painting Cario songs and matching shirts was how I started the business with her
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and they were all on the cotton voil and beautiful and I sold them in the hotel
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boutiques like the Four Seasons the Ritz Carlton all the luxury hotels and I didn't want to compete with
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that business because we had a store she got the store I just you know right away
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and um so I ended up hiring one artist that wasn't working for us before that I
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lived in ubu so that's a artistic commun one of my favorite places I know it was
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it was fabulous yeah and if you're creative at all even if you're not you
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can't help but be creative I think there true just surrounded everything the balones do is Artistic from their
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offerings every morning to food that they present you know so I just am
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amazed I love process and I loved watching The Artisans work so I thought
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well I'll hire one guy and see what you know what one artist and see how that works out as it was I ended up going back to
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the states and the woman who had visited my home uh when I had the other business
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said that she wrote for copy for travel Smith catalog and did I have anything they were going
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to do a destination Vol catalog and did I have anything that I wanted to submit for consideration matter of
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fact and I sent a few things off to them one was I had asked this artist that I
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had hired to paint about just a huge piece of soap
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fabric I was one of aind calf dance but there wasn't time by the time I left so
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I split it down the middle and made two scarves out of it and I had them both with me and of
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course they like the hand painted one and ordered 250 so I had an order before
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I had a business so I went back to Bali hired 10
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artists all my neighbors um go and you
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know started my business and they sold out when they sent out the email with
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you know with the photos they sold out and back ordered so they asked me for
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250 more I had to hire 10 more artists because now now we're in a rush you know
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mode right and they were all all the artists were painting the same design
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and they're all hand painted so you know they did it and looked
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similar and then they sent out the print catalog the print catalog featured my scarf on the front cover and on the back
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cover and that started selling they ordered another you know 700 and we were
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just scrambling I practically had you know I had a studio next to my house and
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everybody kept shifting around and you know so that they could all fit in it was amazing it was so much fun I did the
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product for them every year for about four years and then I thought this is not why
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I'm here this is way I really want to do this in a more creative way so we we
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stopped that relationship and I started back again with the hotels and and with
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just scarves and then I started making bathing suits to go with the calf Tans whatever I wanted to wear I would make
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right because I love the process and I wanted to know how things were done there so your Five-Year Plan turned into
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a 20-year plan as we sit here today yes you're back in Florida do you still go
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back and forth to Bali um I haven't had a home here since
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2004 but I just did rent an apartment you know I have now children and
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grandchildren who are married and lots more Happening Here No and once you have
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grandchildren I think I find especially it changes your your thought about where you might like to spend so much of your
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time and and I like the spontaneity that I have when I'm here because you know
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for instance a granddaughter called me up one day and her brother was coming to visit she's working in Atlanta and her
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brother was my grandson was coming to visit that weekend with his girlfriend another granddaughter was going to be
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there that weekend for a wedding and she said and we're all having lunch together on Saturday we wish you were here so I
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got on a plane and I went oh wonderful I can't do that from Bali you know well not
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easily not by lunchtime that's for sure by lunch time um Shea you have an
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acronym that I absolutely love it's p i tell us all what that
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means this just EXA yeah I love it um my kids had this hat made the pib
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stands for play it by year and that's pretty much what I've done for the last 22 years it is and what a beautiful way
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to to make your way through your life and at your age you're you're thriving I want to know how you would like to be
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remembered the best thing I can tell you right now is I'd like for people to smile when they think of me and think of
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my smile because so I was with some friends last night and I told them about
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that question and they all said well we all think of you as smiling I I don't think
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I've ever seen you not smile and I said well I'm happy you know I have a wonderful life why shouldn't I be
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smiling all the time but um and I think the biggest compliment I ever got was a
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friend who told me that when she saw my name on the phone ID she started smiling and couldn't wait to answer and I
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thought you know I get that because we first spoke it's been a few years now
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and we don't know each other personally and when I hear your voice it you do I
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smile you you bring joy you bring joy thank you so glad to introduce you to
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our community now for those that didn't know you how can they get in touch with you where can they see your your work
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what's your website well my website is still Breeze collection
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and get your credit card ready yeah get your credit card because everything's 60% off now oh my gosh I didn't needan
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to know that but now I do the I am actually trying to close
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down the business finally I think that it's kind of time that I do so I I sent
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a lot of things here to a warehouse and had to Pivot to go online and you know an Instagram and that's
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called it's a breeze which is perfect for you I have a feeling you I just my thoughts you're
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gonna shut that down and I don't think you're done I think no there's another chapter or
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two absolutely Sheila thank you so much for joining us today I'm thrilled to learn more of your story and and
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everyone out there isn't she amazing thank you so much take care thank you m I love talking to you anyway thank
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you it's been a magic life it really has been wonderful well and smile everybody
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it's a great advice and a beautiful way to end the day ciao
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ciao hi everybody Welcome Back to Life UNC I'm Mel Greenberg and I'm Karen
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Glasser we're glad you're here time to Cheers time for cheers hope you have had
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a fabulous January I can't believe it's almost over the days fly by um we have
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had a had a great run this month it's been wonderful have we have um and and we've been having a lot of fun
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introducing you to some of the phenomenal people in our our community our Network really they're they're just
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doing extraordinary things they're clearly not boring and you and I decided we don't want to be boring too right and
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I actually came across an article a while ago in the Wall Street Journal on this very subject and it really struck a
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chord with me that we get to this stage in our lives and a lot of times the
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reason we feel lost is because we're not doing anything new because we are
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whether whatever it is we're set setting our ways if you will and and there's that saying when you get older you know
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you're not going to change you're setting your ways and the way to get past that is to commit to doing things
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and experiencing things that are completely new and we you know you kind
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of you I want to think I never stopped learning and I never stopped being open but you do kind of get on that that
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hamster wheel of just doing what we did and we are who we are and this presented
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the idea that we don't have to settle for that we don't we don't you know um
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we were talking before we started doing the show today how I I actually think I'm boring these days and I'm going to
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have to like up my game because for the past how many years I've been sitting in my house not going out and now that we
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want to go out we don't have a clue as to what we're supposed to be doing I don't know Mikey what do you want to do
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I don't know Karen what do you want to do and it's that whole idea of we literally now have to decide how we're
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going to live this amazing life moving forward and not being boring for God's
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sake well I find too that I catch myself thinking it's too much I don't have the
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bandwidth I can't learn this I don't want to learn I don't want to take on something new because it's going to
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stress me out and I'm really happy I have a beautiful life and that's a good thing but by the same token you need to
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keep working that muscle our brains are muscles and we need to keep exercising them and that comes with really
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challenging yourself to learn new things Karen have you thought about what that
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might look like for you you said really want to step outside outside your house if outside my now that I'm gonna so we I
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already started when we started doing girls trips I have I that's to me is not
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being boring is is leaving my house going somewhere really really fun and
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doing with girlfriends and and doing something like that that's like on my list for next year well you're off to a
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good start because I got to share that with you and we did have a really good time on our trip to Napa and I can't
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wait to do it again I mean truly I can't wait to do it again why stop at one right A friend of mine was telling me
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all about these women who come together in their RVs and they they like hundreds
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and hundreds of them I'm not going to do that and I'm it just it sounded cool but not for me and they all gathered
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together in their RVs just a bunch of women and they just they they're just
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being women and being themselves and exploring and not being scared not being scared you know that's a scared is a big
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word and I think that that's at the heart of my kicking my heels or digging
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them in not to try new things because I find myself a little more apprehensive
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with each year to try new things and it really becomes more of a challenge like
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I'm getting to the point where I'm really happy here I'll just hang out at my house with my horses and my dogs and
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cook and take care of my family and and that's all good and it's not really good it's not enough but you I have really
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struggled with that and may I don't know if it started with covid a little bit the vulnerability and and you know you
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kind of don't know what's going to happen you get a little more nervous about being out there right but you don't it doesn't even have to involve
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traveling it has to involve just pushing yourself Beyond limits and not giving up on doing that so what are the what is
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something that you're going to do not to be boring next year well one thing I
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really want to and they're all kind of tied together I made a little list um but I would like to study French cooking
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um obviously I I am I think I'm pretty good at most cooking and an Italian comes naturally but I would really like
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to study and learn French cooking the cuisine is fabulous and there's such an
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art to the way that the French prepare their meals and embrace their Cuisine that I would really like to study that
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and you're going to invite me right absolutely for me and you bring the wine
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I'll bring the I I'll bring the wine and you're going to we'll bring French wine and do that you know we actually when we
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were putting our list together of things that we want we going to not be boring next year we actually had something in common we both said gardening and for me
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you know that that's a huge word for me I I always like to say a brown thumb which is not fair because I shouldn't
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really say that it's negative thinking I don't really have a brown thumb maybe it's like a a yellow thumb not all
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allive color yeah I mean like I'm killing plants left and right outside but that's not that hard to do in the
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climates we live in I mean be be give yourself some Grace okay I'll give but I
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am I'm really I want to plant flowers and I want to plant color in my backyard so that is gardening now you're you're
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of course much bigger than that you're you're what Master organic I want to
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master organic gardening and by that I don't want to become a master I just want to master the process because I
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want to be have my property more sustainable and get my vegetables and my
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fruits from my home I love and there's an art to it obviously and and there's a big learning curve and it's a little
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daunting so I'm gonna need to need some help but I'm gonna do it I love that you
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know one of the things that I I jumped into a little bit last year and I'm really have jumped into it this year and
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that's art um I'm a Zen tangler I love doing uh it's a pencil kind of drawing
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and you do these it's very fine art and you sit there and you focus and for me that's great gets me out of my head I'm
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going to do more of that and I have started I have a whole Art G like it's not a gallery got an art center with
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with drawers of pens and I have to use it but but they're sitting there so that's the first step right of not being
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I'm going to do more art and so that's one of the things I'm going to do what about you um I'm I want I'm a voracious
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reader I want to read more Memoirs I don't tend to read a lot of them and I have read a few this past year and there
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are so many fascinating in stories of good and not so good people through our
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history that that I want to read ad Memoirs to my list I okay so you know
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one of the things that we talked about in one of the previous shows I think it was two weeks ago was about um your
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ethical will and and I had talked about my family um uh that they used to do
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these reunions all the time and then they just stop so one this year I am
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coordinator a family reunion for all that's beautiful for the whole family and you
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know in the past we did it on zoom and online this is gonna be an in-person thing um and so that's a photo that you
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could add to your ethical will that's true photo true I'm excited about that
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I'm really excited I feel like it's my mission I have to do this I want to do this I have to do this what else one
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more thing I want to do that kind of ties into the gardening and and probably the French cooking because just wander
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out to my garden and grab some things to cook for the night is I want to build a chicken coop because I want to have eggs
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and I have a friend who did it and I mean she's from Tennessee she grew up on hundreds of acres in Tennessee and she
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builds everything in the backyard herself and I'm thinking I could do that I don't know how it'll turn out but I'm
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gonna try so that'll some reading and and you know educating myself on
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something I absolutely have no idea about and and that I think is going to
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give me a lot to talk about and laugh at myself about because I can just picture myself out there stuck in a chicken coop
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with chickens crawling all over all over the so that kind of begs the question
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what about you guys what do you want to do this year how are you going to step out of what you're doing right now um so
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that you're not going to be boring in this next stage what are you going to do we want to know because maybe we'll
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compile a list I think that would be great oh I like that because like you're you're you're artless I don't I don't
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I'm I can't paint you know God had a budget and he didn't give me that but to
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to take on something so creatively and learn something new is beautiful and I think that other people's ideas will
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inspire whatever it is you know maybe it's take blute lessons what you know whatever you're drawn to so I'm I'm
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thinking that what we'll do is that we want to know what you want to do and you guys already know we have an Instagram
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broadcast channel let us know um that you would like to participate in there
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as somebody who can write in there let us know and you can put your comments in there to let us know what you're going
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to do not to be boring we will compile them all and we'll put them out as a list I think that's a great and it can
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and it can be an Ever growing list yeah into it because we're not boring new
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things keep we're not boring we might be tired but we're not boring we're
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tired we're challenged but we're not don't forget check down in the copy we
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have all sorts of links there we have the we have everything in there so go check it and we'll see you next month oh
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my God oh my I know thank you so much for starting this new year with us we hope you enjoy January can't wait to see
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what we have in store for February ciao [Music]
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bye
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