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are welcoming Tara Bennett Smith she's
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the star of the new television series my
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sweet life we talked about getting busy
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and living our dreams we have a great
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things that empower us as super boomers
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and I always like to start the show with
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you know the super boomer pick of the
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week and today the super boomer pick of
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the week is luggage how many of you
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travel out there let us know that you're
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traveling put your comments down there I
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travel all the time and for me the most
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important thing is the ease of traveling
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I'm a little girl it's hard to schlep
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those things all over the place get them
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on rollers make sure they spin around
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you're gonna love it go check it out in
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the super boomer lifestyle store all
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right guys I told you we have a great
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show our guest today is awesome
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she's a producer-director actress
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singer-songwriter mom oh my god I'm
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exhausted lol she's the CEO CEO of the
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management and production company called
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royal one and she is also the co-creator
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and star of the new television series my
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sweet life and today we're blessed
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because we have her in the studio with
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us so we welcome Tara to the show right
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Tara hell are you thank you Karen this
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I miss at the past time when we got it
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worked out I know she's gonna say that
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with bated breath to get you on the show
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and we finally have you on the show and
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I'm thrilled you know we always like to
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talk about what a super boomer is and
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how you would describe a super boomer so
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I talked about super boomers by what
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they're not they're not defined by an
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age they're defined by the how they show
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up in life so Tara how do you describe a
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super boomer well I agree but what
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they're not but adding in someone cool
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like you said it's not defined by an
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agent who does not who does not allow
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themselves to live by what other people
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think when you get to that age in life
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where you no longer care what other
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people think well you have raised kids
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whether you're raise kids are not
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because what do you raise kids are not
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you've lived like you've raised
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somebody's kids you help someone you've
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mentored someone but you get to that
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place where it doesn't matter what you
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think of me I'm gonna do me
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that's right they're like a Super Bowl
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sometimes oh my gosh so true Joey
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Garrity says so glad you are on the show
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you already have fans out there I'm so
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glad you're on the show as well so
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today the topic is how we're getting
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busy and living our dream so if you're
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just tuning in right now we're here with
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Tara Bennett Smith and we're talking
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about just not living our lives and and
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living our dreams so the first question
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I have you Tara are you living your
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absolutely patootie padule-- I I have
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this saying that I heard someone say
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years ago but I've adopted it is is it
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it's mine that I woke up this morning
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everything else is perfect I don't care
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what it looks like I don't care what
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you're going through if you get another
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shot at this then you get another shot
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at this and then live it to the fullest
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like as if no other day matters and no
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other time nor the moment because
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nothing else actually matters when it's
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not here it's such a waste it is such a
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waste and to project so
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far ahead as to I don't know how this is
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gonna happen I don't know what's gonna
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house to me the acronym for house that
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my friend Linda logo says help is on the
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oh I love it once you set that in motion
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that I don't have to know the house I
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just have to put one foot in front of
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the other and keep going so it's all
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about waking up and finding the things
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that you love and that you're passionate
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about and starting them I don't care if
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you don't have the money unless you
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started something else happens it's like
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this universe just throws it snowballs
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you gotta stop absolutely just start
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sometimes you just have to start and
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that's sometimes the hardest thing
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because we get caught up as you said in
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the what-ifs you know we mentioned in
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the beginning that you have a new TV
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show that's coming out it's in
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production it's called my sweet life and
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I'm gonna go ahead and adjust this a
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little bit right there tell us a little
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bit about this this television show I've
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been reading your deck you know your PR
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and all this stuff and the real it
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sounds really really interesting tell us
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a little bit about what this TV show is
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gonna be about okay well it kind of came
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about with my friend and partner test
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Cacciatore who was doing a director's
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competition thing for something I don't
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really matter what and so I was just
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lonely getting back into acting cuz I
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stopped after I raised my kids and I was
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like I'm so sick of his business so I
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said hey I'll be the lead in it so I
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shot that and it never went anywhere for
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some reason it just didn't happen uh and
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then like a year later we were talking
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is why we turn this into something I
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don't know she said it'll I said and one
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of us said so then we sat down to
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co-create this project it kind of
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evolved into a woman who lost herself
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over the years a little bit you know
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yeah Eric now she's the kids have left
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and that she's divorced and she's just
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finally figuring out who she is she's
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always had a career but you know you you
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you when you stop feeling sexy you stop
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feeling pretty you stop feeling you just
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get in work mode raising kids mode and
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doing what you have to do to survive
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mode and then one day you wake up and
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you look in the mirror and everybody's
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gone to school got my own apartment you
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like Who am I I I and that's and that's
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why you're such a perfect guest for the
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show because of what this show is all
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about so what happens with I think her
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name is Celeste right so lets you just
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decided I'm gonna take a trip that was
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her first kind of out kids are out and
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so she goes abroad and she starts to
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rediscover herself she starts to be
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colorful sexiness and they don't on top
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of that there's some other fun stuff
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which I could share a little bit you
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know she starts to rediscover that you
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know sex ain't what it used to be back
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in the day you know the man is like whoa
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this is very different at this age range
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you know and so this all it covers every
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single thing that's real it covers so
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everything that's woman everything
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that's real and we also tackle a lot of
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social issues that you know we figure
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out a way to to infiltrate it into them
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into the storyline so that we're
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covering not just women's issues
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recovering mental illness recovering
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abuse recovering a whole bunch of other
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things it's about time actually if not
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time one of the things I'm fascinated
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about with this show is you actually
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have a talk show that's that I'm sorry
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yeah that's integrated right into this
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how does that work exactly
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well what it is relative talkback so
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whatever the issue is hypothetically
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we're covering something on abuse or one
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of the topics then at the the talk that
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would be we'd have specialists and
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things on covering that particular topic
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so we can get some more information
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about it you know so everybody can kind
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of chime in and we have an audience and
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all of that stuff so that's what it's
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yeah because you know the to have
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information or they have people talk
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about things and not really get deep
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rooted into it you really sometimes feel
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like you're not walking away with
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anything but being entertained and the
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purpose behind anything that I do my
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projects they have to have a purpose I
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don't like to just do things just to do
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it if it's not beating us all
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moving someone forward then what are we
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aye aye so agree and and do you feel
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that as as we have gotten a little bit
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older that are the dreams and the things
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that we are thinking about change as we
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get older different things become
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important our life transitions change
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our perspective would you agree
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absolutely totally totally I know that's
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how it was in my life you know I mean
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there was a time when all I wanted to do
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is be famous and then the closer I got
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to being famous I remember traveling
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when I was doing music and I realized I
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was on tour whose recording artist and I
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was on tour I really I can't do this I
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like to go home and I don't like to
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dress up all the time I like to look
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like a ragamuffin with a hat on that is
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those things don't go together you know
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what I mean and the more I realized I
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got to know who I am and it's got to
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then I have to make adjustments in my
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life to fit the major I was becoming and
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not the idea of what it looked like yeah
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I totally resonate with that I'm also a
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singer I also was on the road for many
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many years and at a certain point I just
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said why am I doing this you know why I
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need to redirect my attention I mean I
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sang at Carnegie Hall for God's sake you
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know and and now I don't know I sit in
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front of a computer screen in my live
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stream but transitions have made a huge
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difference in in my in my life if you're
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just tuning in we're talking about
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dreaming big and and how our lives are
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changing with transitions we have a
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let's see Joey says let's see what Joey
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says there was a time all I wanted to do
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was become famous this is your quote and
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I realized that I got to know who I am
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that is such a that is such a great
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comment yeah and you have said you know
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especially having children the priority
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of priorities shift you know and and the
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time because what it you know what can I
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just share something really cool that I
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know that asked me one day she said what
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because a lot of my friends who started
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out with me you know going on and they
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are very faint it's like aimless famous
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actors there well how does it feel not
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to have have become successful yeah yeah
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and that's the first the first thing you
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do is you go out and then you can wait
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and so I stopped for a moment and I
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thought and I said okay let's see I was
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on Broadway I was recording artists on
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RCA I did a lot of television I did a
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lot of commercials I've directed feature
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films I've directed commercials I've
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directed award-winning stage production
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I've had three amazing children who to
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this day have given me not one day of
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headache I have I just went down my list
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and then I looked at it I said I'm good
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well it's it's what is your definition
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of success right I had lived this
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journey and do the things that never
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backed away from someone offering me an
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opportunity because it was foreign to me
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oh oh I wasn't sure of how I was gonna
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so for me I'm successful because
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everything I said I wanted to do and was
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presented the opportunity I did it and
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if I if this was my last day I can say
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you did it and never gonna have the new
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television show coming out which which
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is it's an original show co-wrote all
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the episodes for the episodes
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I'm exhausted I wasn't kidding when I
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read your list of things and I didn't
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even put everything on because at a
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certain point it was like okay enough
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already I mean I know that your writer
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you do all these other things and you're
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a mom and it was interesting when you
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gave me your your you know short little
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bio for me to introduce you it was
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really important for you to put down not
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just once but twice that your mom well
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yeah you know my children are now 24 and
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twin boys for twenty one of the
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prerequisites for being my child was
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that you had to have a business by the
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oh yeah you have to be successful it was
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just about creating an understanding
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that you are in charge of your life yes
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and you can always like my daughter now
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that she was working with Owen and she
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left Owen now she's at the New York
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Times in New York so she just hunted my
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son started a film festival when they
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were 14 but now they are also
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influencers and doing some other things
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but the point of that is is that you
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will never have to wait for anyone to
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when you have learned how to utilize the
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muscles your own muscles to create for
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yourself and that was part of it so my
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kids if I did nothing else right on this
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journey I got that part right
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and I think I actually personally
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believe that being a parent is such an
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important job when people you know
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people used to ask me when I took like
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six months off between having a baby and
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then not going back to work that I
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wasn't working that somehow staying at
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home raising your child was not work I
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think it's one of the most important
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jobs I'm sure you agree exactly you know
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and it is the most important because
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what you are now setting the tone for
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how their lives are going to play out
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and the best thing that I could do for
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myself has have taken my time and put in
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my work so I could parent from my best
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self you know because we come in damaged
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from all the other stuff whatever reason
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but to then transfer that over and not
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have done self word to transfer that
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over on these other beings it's almost
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it's unfair you know so thank you anyway
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you don't just talk your talk you walk
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your talk yeah we do it and you're in
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you're a wonderful example for your kids
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and also people that are around you you
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have a saying that says you are living
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your life bigger better bolder better
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self every day I love that so much that
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I had to put together a scroll for you
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that you're telling people to go out and
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live you're bigger better bolder better
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self every day tell me how you do that
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well you know one of the reasons one of
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the ways is just by not caring and I
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don't mean in a sense that negative I
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mean in the sense that what you think of
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me is none of my business
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yes but when I go out if I want to talk
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to the man over here and not be afraid
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to talk to that person I just do it
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because and and stepping into places
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that I'm uncomfortable you know I might
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be I might be uncomfortable getting up
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and in a karaoke and rapping which I did
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a few months ago anybody up on Sugar
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you know have a good time whatever love
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it you just amaze me did you just do
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anything I'm living my bows itself bowls
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and also figuring out one of the things
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I figured out was what is my color and
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then I realized where my boldness lies
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my colors are oranges reds and very bold
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colors and what I realized that's who I
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I decided to live those colors out in my
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daily life so from that cold it's bad
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and I'm better than I was a month ago
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I'm bigger than I was a month ago and
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yes so that's kind of what it is well
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apparently you and I are in the same
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wavelength almost the same color shirt
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yeah I and I guys I did not call Terra
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and say so Tara what are you wearing
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today this was exactly exactly um you
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mentioned to me before the show that you
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were involved with something called the
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afdc film what is that well a friend of
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mine Niki Crawford who's actually
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starring in a Pulitzer Prize play in a
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Washington right now she's put together
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three additional women herself included
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to come together to be a support system
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and to create and because we're so much
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better in numbers yeah you'd find
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like-minded women yes because this we we
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have so much that we do on a daily basis
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it can almost be impossible to get
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everything done but we work with women
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especially because I think we're really
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great multitaskers amongst other things
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yeah can you find a group of women who
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you can lock in with to take a project
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from a conception to fruition I could
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never say that well foolish I can't say
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so to the end didn't I can't never say
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anyway it has proven to be a great great
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situation for me because I've had a
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couple of other partnerships that didn't
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work out and I was shying away from
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partnering with women or what I realized
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was that it's not partnering with women
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is partnering with women who do what
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they say they're going to do exactly I
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like to say women who inspire women rise
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we we are powerful together I mean I
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said that too even before the show that
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I believe the collaboration is Queen not
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King is Queen and that only together can
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we accomplish great things there are a
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lot of people out there that are in this
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space that are making such a difference
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but when we come together it there's
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nothing we can do right nothing nothing
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and and because so these four women
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Shelley Robertson myself
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Connie Jackson we'll all actresses and
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Micky Crawford but every time we have a
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meeting we get together everything that
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we said is done is done I'm jealous I
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love that I love that yeah oh it
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revitalized my faith in partnering and
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I'm very excited to be a part of this so
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we're working on a project that's coming
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up towards the end of this year plus
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some other things speaking engagements
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and empowering younger women you know so
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and you'll have a book coming out I know
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okay I'll call connecting the dots that
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has been on my shelf called the computer
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for the last two years but that's
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another thing that was one of those
18:42
other things that you know you do and
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then you put aside because whatever
18:45
reason so it's maybe cuz you're really
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really busy maybe I've been wanting to
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finish it because it goes but buddy you
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know what timing is also key
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it got its call connecting the dots and
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it's really me looking back I did a show
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to meet them you go back I did a short
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film a while ago called blueprint and
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blueprint is about what shapes us
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basically and you know and and how we
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become addicted to behaviors and I had
19:16
to use my own past as a situation of me
19:19
becoming in an addict to
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my situation and how in your brain and
19:25
the chemical and it's almost like a
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craving of something so I did this whole
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short film on that and part of it
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started prompting me to write this book
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as I looked at all of the pieces how the
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pieces came together it was like the
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dots to the tool and to follow this
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whole person well it's a workbook slash
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book called connecting the dots where
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you get to go through different acts in
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your life and connect dots while I'm
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my dog's through the story and and then
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at the very end you just rewrite your
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script you know what script do I want
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now to live out to be my bigger battle
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both of them self I love it
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we're living sprits daily but we think
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almost as if we're living a script that
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somebody's now written for us but we're
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not we're living on we're not we're
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living this Kristen now we've written
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for ourselves which is which is an
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awesome place to be right it's an
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awesome place to activate habit you know
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you you basically say that you can
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pretty much do anything that you're
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trying except swim I think you could
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yeah so how does it manifest no not the
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swimming the fact that you can almost
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fit you believe you can do almost
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anything because I think we all can and
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the only was my can swims because I have
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blocked I'm drunk a young kid and I've
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tried I just let it go
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but anything else you give me that I'm
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not deathly afraid of I believe is
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something I wasn't a songwriter I'm a
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songwriter I'm an ASCAP songwriter I
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wasn't a director I had videos of me
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saying I would never direct oh god no
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that's not you know so I think that when
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we're passionate about something we can
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do anything we can make anything happen
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but it starts with self belief and once
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you don't when you don't have that and
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pretty much forget it you you you're
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defeating yourself but I believe that
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we're capable of flipping some stuff
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around when we really truly watch it I
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so so agree with you if you had one
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thing one message to tell women today
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men today that are watching right now as
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to how to be their bigger badder bolder
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better self every day what would be that
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one thing right now that they can go out
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and express themselves what would you
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suggest if there's anything you've ever
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ever wanted to do and was afraid to do
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take write it out and break it up into
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like bullet points uh-huh then every day
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just tack on one love it accident
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attorney what one step at a time we're
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talking with Tara Bennett Smith today
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living big and living our dreams and
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just basically doing what we want to do
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in this next reincarnation of whatever
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life were in right now I believe wait
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there's a next next it's we don't just
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all of a sudden just stop right we just
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can't we just keep going if you want to
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be a connect with Tara
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you can connect on Instagram at the Tara
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Bennett Smith you can also check her out
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at her website www.jfn.co.jp/toho that
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that maybe we we haven't touched upon we
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always like to leave people wanting more
22:53
so that they're gonna reach out to you I
22:54
really encourage you to go reach out to
22:56
Tara is there something that you would
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like to share with our audience that is
23:01
really near and dear to your heart that
23:02
we haven't already touched upon I think
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we've kind of touched upon everything I
23:08
think that one of the things I always
23:11
say is that why not write why not write
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and so many people ask the question why
23:19
write not why not do I think that if
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people actually ask that question when
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they're standing in front of an
23:27
opportunity or deciding what they want
23:30
to do they should say why not I like to
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say what's the worst-case scenario if I
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can live with it I'm gonna go do it or I
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go and do it and figure it out later
23:39
I mean it sounds like you're that kind
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of woman - yes I adopt it up about two
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seconds I said no this is not because I
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don't want to say no and that's it but
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why not and it forces me to answer why
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not well because I'm afraid that's not
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it that's not a reason I I agree guys as
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you're listening to the conversation and
24:02
we talked about the new show that is
24:04
coming out and that is my sweet life
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it'll be out sometime in the near future
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I want you to put it on your radar so
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there Joseph I - I mean go like our
24:14
Facebook page my sweet light of the
24:16
series and then you can
24:17
keep abreast on what's happening and
24:19
also on Instagram we're slowly building
24:21
it because we're still shooting we're
24:23
still filming some of the episodes right
24:24
now but we're gonna do a full on launch
24:26
and and I would be remiss if I didn't
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say the way we met was through one of my
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very very good friends Joan Ryan who has
24:33
been on the show and Joan's gonna be in
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the show yes Joan plays a friend of mine
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who's a friend of mine I love it right I
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totally love it I want to thank you Tara
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we finally got our acts together today
24:44
to get you on the show and I am so
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delighted that you are on the journey
24:49
that you're on and you're able to share
24:51
this with our audience today I'm gonna
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drop you into the greenroom for just a
24:55
moment as we finish up the show and
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don't go away cuz I'm gonna come back
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and get you later on okay okay no
25:01
problem but bye Tara okay so here guys
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here's the thing you know each each week
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I like to talk about the super boomer
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moment what is that one thing that
25:13
totally just struck my attention and I
25:16
said I I need to do something about this
25:18
and it's I've said it several times
25:20
already in the show because I like
25:21
saying it out loud it actually kind of
25:23
rolls off your tongue you're living
25:25
you're bigger badder both are better
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self every day and that's how I like to
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live my life and I can tell that that's
25:32
exactly how Tara lives her life and I'm
25:35
suggesting that you guys go out and live
25:38
your life that way to whatever is bigger
25:40
for you whatever is badder bolder
25:42
however that shows up in your life just
25:45
do it as Nike says just do it we would
25:48
love to have you follow us on C on
25:50
social media as well you can check us
25:52
out on Twitter at super boomer life
25:55
that's the as close as we could get to
25:57
our name because it does not allow
25:59
anymore character so it's super boomer
26:01
life you can also check us out on
26:03
facebook at the super boomer lifestyle I
26:06
want to thank you we know that you have
26:08
a choice is how you spend your time and
26:10
you chose to spend it with us today I am
26:13
very very appreciative of that I know
26:15
that Tara is as well we want to thank
26:17
you for making that choice and we'll see
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you next week on the next episode of the
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super boomer lifestyle show good