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hello everyone Karen Glasser here and
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welcome to minding your mental health I
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am here with my co-host
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Rob my son and we talk about the topics
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that shape mental health today we teach
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the importance of inclusion and share
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why we should be kind so whether you're
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here live or on replay let us know where
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you're tuning in from right below in the
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comments so Rob our topic today is we're
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taking a deep dive into mental health
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yes I was not happy all right I like
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doing the research so this is fun hi so
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as I mentioned on my short on YouTube
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we're going to talk about things that
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have to do with this but may not be the
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norm as far as what you usually learn
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about health so these three topics are
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ways to help you learn but have some fun
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while doing so our articles today
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actually come from the same website
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psychcentral.com which actually has a
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whole list of blogs and other
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um and the first blog that I found was
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medically reviewed by the typical
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Advisory Board as you put out right how
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your pass can help guide your future
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George santiana Ace or a not anymore was
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a Spanish-American philosopher and wrote
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those who cannot remember the past are
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condemned to repeat it
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we've heard that quote many times before
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right uh people like Karl Marx I've said
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the same thing however you people like
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Mark Twain and others who say that it's
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actually not necessarily that I repeats
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but it's what you're doing now and
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that's kind of where this guide comes in
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so they have three parts to
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making the past work for your future or
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for all purposes I guess for your
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present as well right right now you like
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this one this was removing the masks now
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I read through it a few times here it's
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a little odd a little kind of obscure
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wording but I think what they're putting
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out here is do the things that usually
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wouldn't do because you didn't think you
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could now some of their examples are
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taking the time to clean maybe doing a
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task that usually you have to be asked
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to do but you do it on your own
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I don't know if I'd call that the mask
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per se but I do get the correlation I
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think a better term here would be
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retrain you to believe
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if you get my drift I I yeah when I saw
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a mask and when I think of that I think
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of what we hide behind
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um because either we're not confident of
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who we are and so we we just put on this
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this face that we present out there to
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the world whether we're feeling that or
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not so like a happy face like we go out
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there and everything is hunky-dory but
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behind that mask is really how we're
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feeling so it's interesting because I
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would never I wouldn't even have gone in
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that direction so cute interesting
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neither would I not uh the next one I do
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agree with a little bit more taking
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change further so they use Rome's
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expansion in history as their example as
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to do and not to do now we all know the
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Romans were a strange group and we all
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know that they thought they were the
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biggest things in sliced bread and it
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worked for them for a while until it
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didn't and then everybody just you know
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right and that was that so
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it's not to say that you have to
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remember what you did it's to remember
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what works and what doesn't and that
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really is Clues so while history is
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important to learn to an extent you
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don't need to know why or kind of what
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went wrong you just have to remember
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okay well we tried this once again let's
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try something else and actually as funny
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as an example as it is that's actually
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the perfect cultural or age a period of
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time because how many like I'm a big
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History Channel person and every time
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there's a series on Rome or that area
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it's always the worst and best time of
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living they were strong people they had
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a great army they knew how to build they
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were the ones that gave us roads they
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were the ones that gave us water
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filtration however it kind of got to
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their head and they decided to go a
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little crazy and just just try to do
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anything they could so it's not so much
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that you can't it's kind of knowing when
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to stop when to limit or maybe when to
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hold back as to not destroy what you're
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working for towards the future remember
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the article is for the future so even
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past and present both will affect what
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you know you've got to know where you're
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yeah now the last thing on here is
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something we love we talk about the time
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learn from the here and now
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um in this particular thing it's just as
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simple as oops I just did that again
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let's not do that next time but I'm
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going to take it a step further and like
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on the other show we did it's more or
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less focusing on what you're doing you
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can remember what you did has to not do
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it again you can use resources to help
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you either go forward or not but really
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what it comes down to is what you're
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doing now and I think on my show
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yesterday on my ultra Universe show on
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one of the life hacks it was
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asking yourself what are you doing and
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why and if you don't have an answer
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maybe switching what you're doing
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not to say to stop what you're doing but
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it's kind of one of those if you can't
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tell yourself what you're doing
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you might be doing the wrong thing again
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that goes to back to the mental health I
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mean we're going to pull this all back
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to the mental health is that if you if
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if you figured that maybe what you're
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doing isn't working because it's
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affecting you you need to maybe stop
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um you know and see how see how you can
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maybe change what you learned from the
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past so that it will affect your future
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in a more positive way interesting
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so I would say I learned from this is
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I'm not going to let the future shape
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anything but I will use the resources
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that make the most sense to make me a
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person going forward and you guys take
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it as you wish I just I feel like
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sometimes maybe we should each say what
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we're learning from it and that's kind
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of what I got from it I thought that you
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know yeah and and I actually I don't
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personally I don't know if this article
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actually speaks to me that way you know
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I I think it's a very interesting set of
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facts uh but it's specifically when you
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talked about the mask you know that that
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seemed a little weird the way they were
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explaining it but but that's okay
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Different Strokes differences there you
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go now another thing that we both have
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um do semi-regularly is breathing
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um the question we're going to ask is
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how it actually helps but before we do
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that I think we should give the viewers
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a little breakdown again for in case
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they missed the last show so mindful
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breathing as they say has many benefits
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for things like Stress and Anxiety and
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just general function in life right so
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what can it help well as we just said
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anxiety and stress along with depression
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chronic pain trauma or PTSD and
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inability to focus so so pretty standard
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things it's things to keep you present
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it seems to keep you in the moment and
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they even say it's a very simple Concept
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in itself it's basically taking a minute
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whether it's 5 10 15 or an hour and just
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sitting and just kind of doing nothing
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to reel yourself back in
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so we all can agree that that's how it
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works right but do we know how you know
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where'd it go oh come on my thing just
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froze there we go do we know how it
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actually works so this is from a 2016
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study measuring brain activity while
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performing tasks found that participants
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who'd practice mindful breathing had
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fewer mistakes the research concluded
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that this is because mindful breeding
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breathing increased brain activity
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associated with tracking errors in
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another study from 2017 they found that
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both CBT and mindful based techniques
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can both help not only those with uh
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dysfunction disorders like autism and
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other but just for people who generally
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have anxiety or depression and they go
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into more you guys can check out more
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details there they talk about borderline
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personality they talk about
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um dialect behavior issues and a whole
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lot more so really the answer the
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question that I that I think and it's
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really right here is if you make your
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brain do the things you're going to do
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them most likely better now I'm not sure
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how they know that the brain has fewer
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mistakes because of it but that's kind
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of a cool little Point yeah doing the
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breathing lessens your
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um any issues you might have it it
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focuses you it gets you back in focus
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and I think um even though it's not
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exactly this we talk about multitasking
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and we talk about people that do 10
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things at one time and I used to be one
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of those people and the studies tell us
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that you don't do anything well when you
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do when you are doing 10 things at the
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same time and in fact what we were all
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told in the beginning you should be a
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good multitasker and and you're going to
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get a lot done in fact is not true
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because you are so all over the place so
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it goes to the point if you can just
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and sit with it you're gonna you're
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gonna do better I think and I and it
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goes to that totally
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and then just for anybody interested
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there are a few different versions
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there's the 478 which you've talked
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about before you breathe in for four
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hold for seven breathe out four eight
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there's also the deep breathing which
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usually comes in form of a guided or a
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listening right and that's basically
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just repeated breathing in and out at
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your own pace while you listen see or do
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whatever right um and then of course you
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have breath awareness which is similar
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anymore Rob don't you do a square uh
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this is the Box breathing so that's
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similar to the four seven eight it's uh
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I think three across three down three
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across three down I forgot what the
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number is but it is it a disrupt it
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actually disrupts whatever your anxiety
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was because you have to really focus on
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I have to yeah I gotta say I liked it
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until I didn't because it was way too
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hard to actually keep my focus on it
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which is why I end up switching over to
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the guided and awareness right strictly
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because you didn't have to do anything
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and it was really just more of a look at
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the pretty pictures listen to the birds
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or if you don't have you know watching
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TV stare at the wall if you choose or
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look at a picture so for me I actually
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switch back to the guided because right
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it was less of a hassle and it was more
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adjustable if you want me to breathe
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do it I mean we breathe generally but
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you know when it comes to meditation if
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you want me to breathe this is how
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you're going to want me to do it because
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it's easier just to kind of let it let
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it happen and let it yes and in a guided
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they're count they will count for you I
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know when I do guided breathing
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exercises it's one they count for you so
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you don't have to count and then they
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drop some of them will yeah they'll say
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they'll say an affirmation they'll go
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one they'll you know yeah
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um even that it depends on how I'm
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feeling I like it but sometimes I just
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kind of like the sound you know the
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sound of the ocean the sound of the you
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know right depends on the mood that I'm
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in when I'm doing it pick what works for
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you guys pick what and I'm curious guys
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put it in in the comments whether you're
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here today right now
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um on live or you're going to see it
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later on tell us what works for you how
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do you get into that quiet mode You
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Wanna Know inquiring minds want to know
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all right so finally and you know me if
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you watch me regularly I love quotes
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quotes on anything I did a great one on
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animals the other day I love quotes So
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we figured another good way to feel
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better is find that saying that you like
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now we picked motivational you can also
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call them inspirational or maybe it's a
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funny one maybe it is a quote on animals
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there's so many quotes out there you
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pick what you like we just picked three
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of each so we're gonna go back and forth
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now and kind of decide I'm going to
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start backwards online and start with my
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and I picked him for a couple reasons
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because a obviously one of the biggest
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authors we've ever had Huckleberry Finn
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all that stuff but he is actually a
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really funny guy who liked to kind of
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jab at the system in a way that you
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wouldn't know he's jabbing at you
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because he's so fluent in his words so
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the quote from him I picked and this is
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a great one the two most important days
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in your life are the day you're born and
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the day you find out why
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and it's the last part that really
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actually got me to pick this quote
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because that I think is super deep and
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um obviously you know you always say the
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the Miracle of Life the great debuting
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board but you never really think about
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the day you figure out what you want to
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do is almost as important if not just as
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important because that's when you find
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out at least in my mind who you are and
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what your goal is and you know I thought
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it was off screen after going through so
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many different things and doing the
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things I've now sort of come into my own
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of what I want to be what my purpose of
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being here is to do and I will tell you
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guys it's the biggest you know light
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bulb moment what it's really like this
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kind of like cry because you're so happy
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but you're just like wow so I had to
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pick that one I don't know if you like
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I like it a lot I actually
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um there's another quote that it's
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called the dash and so they go so far as
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to say that the day you were born and
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the day you died but it's what happens
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in between that Journey yeah from birth
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all the way to death so it's sort of
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like this but not really and what I
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really like about this one when it says
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when you find out your why in business
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you know we talk about what is your why
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why are you actually doing this why are
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you doing this particular work right so
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I love this quote I I would have used it
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myself but you had already taken it so
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oh well what are you gonna do absolutely
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um and so I'm gonna do one by Ben Stein
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and he says the indispensable first step
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to getting the things you want out of
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life is this decide what you want I love
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so many people you know they have
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literally no clue as to what they want
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but they don't understand why they're
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not getting it you know whatever it is
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so I love this what do you think
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you know well it's funny because when I
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saw who it was I'd go back to the Ferris
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Bueller movie and I just think of him in
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that but he actually is an economist by
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trade so yeah and I think he's worked on
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CNN and stuff as well so he knows what
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he's talking about I mean when it comes
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to whether it's business or life yeah
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you you can't really do anything until
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you actually know what you're doing so
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it's kind of like why start if you don't
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know where you're going you know it kind
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of connects with the Mark Twain you know
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Discovery why you know and also what
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right what exactly what is it that you
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actually want okay what's your next one
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all right so again this guy I did not
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realize how funny this man was but I did
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a whole video on him as well Albert
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Einstein obviously the the birth person
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of everything but I love it because I
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was watching a show and he made a joke
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where he came to America once and they
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asked him you know are you happy to be
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here he goes as long as you have the
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wine I'm good and it was like you know
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one of those things where you don't
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expect this brilliant scientist to be
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funny but this particular one I think
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I've heard multiple times before but he
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said life is like riding a bike to keep
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your balance you got to keep moving yep
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pretty straight forward and standard you
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know there's no Rhyme or Reason doesn't
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get very deep it's just simply if you've
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got it if you've got to keep straight
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what you're doing you got to keep going
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with it and again you know personal
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experience as well until you know you
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are kind of at a stop and you are kind
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of at a standstone you're kind of just
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once you figure it out you can't help
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but continue the biking because you're
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you know pun intended but you're on the
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roll and you literally are going so I
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just and again coming from a guy like
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that yeah he's very in-depth but to say
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something so simple you're like really
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that's an Einstein quote like so that
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just gave me the feels I'm like wow
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that's really that's great I really like
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it and I and I actually I agree just
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keep on keep on keeping on
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um I'm I'm fangirling over her right now
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Mel Robbins for those of you who have
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follow her this woman is pretty pretty
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amazing and she also suffers from mental
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um issues anxiety in particular but she
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says there will always be someone who
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can't see your worth don't let it be you
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that is like a right we wake up in the
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morning and you need to feel worthy you
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need to realize that you have worth you
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are worthwhile don't let you know there
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are going to be people out there that
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are are gonna you know slam you or or
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not say nice things or whatever but
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don't let it be you don't wake up in the
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morning and say oh I'm I'm terrible I'm
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crappy I can't do this I love this what
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do you think about this Rob
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it's like you read my life yeah well
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obviously you wouldn't know me but no
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but no this actually this is anybody
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anxiety thought I mean and I will tell
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you and I say it before you know you do
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put yourself down because it's easy to
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do and you shouldn't but when you do it
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or when you do it so often it just kind
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of comes to happen so yeah the last
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person that should be saying anything
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bad is you right you know it's similar
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to like why you shouldn't say bad things
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about somebody else you know they don't
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like it so why are you supposed to like
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it if you say it to yourself so yeah I
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mean it's and it is tough because you
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you can't just stop doing it you know
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you've got to kind of like rehab it but
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yeah the the last person on Earth that
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needs to give you a bad time is you your
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brain you know because your brains
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because if you put that out there and
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this is all about manifestation and all
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about other things if you put out there
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that you don't think you're worthy or
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I'm not going to raise my hand and ask
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you know answer a question because I
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just don't know what I'm talking about
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well you probably do and know your worth
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know that what you have to say is
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important so this one really speaks to
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me I used it the other day
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um you know put it out there as a quote
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because again I do what you do I love
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quotes I love waking up in the morning
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and finding something that speaks to me
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that sort of starts the day off
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um I'm like fine two or three more later
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on that continues today but this one I
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actually posted the other day and it was
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how I started my day and I had people
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commenting because it is a challenge for
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people it's not even going and say even
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if you've done the answer still maybe
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raise your hand because of the least
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you're gonna learn something exactly
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all right so my last one here you know
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him all we love him all as I act as if I
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know him he's actually one of those guys
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that if I could meet him I would meet
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him so of course the Dalai Lama always
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on the top of my list from our reading
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said just one just one small positive
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thought in the morning can change your
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whole day must be a Buddhist monk thing
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right now and I say that joke a little
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bit seriously because we talked about
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the other guy as well but in the
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Buddhist tradition the most important
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thing you're learning is it's what you
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do is going to affect what happens
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nothing else really does yeah natural
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disaster whatever that can all change
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what goes down but it's you that changes
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what's gonna go so if you want it to be
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good it's up to you it's not on somebody
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else it's not up to the TV it's not up
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to whatever it's up to you right
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um to do it and the best time to do it
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is right from the start so the first
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thing in your mind should be something
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and that'll affect your whole day we
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talk about gratitude journals yeah
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exactly yeah when you and we're we'll
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share some you know journals in a few
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seconds but when when I I you know I've
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talked I've said this when I wake up in
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the morning I write down at least three
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things that I'm grateful for it might be
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the same three things every day because
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I really feel that way and when you do
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that guys literally the rest of your day
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is change because you're showing
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gratitude I just I love these these
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quotes are amazing you know I picked
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this last one because it actually fits
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the entire thing that we're talking
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about and this is from Saint Francis de
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Sales and he said half an hour's
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meditation each day is essential except
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when you are busy then a full hour is
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needed I laughed when I first read it
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but it's true because go for me it's
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true go back to what works for you right
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what works for you so I don't know about
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you I don't know if I could do a full
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um but when I'm busy and I'm going crazy
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I will sometimes sit down and just
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veg out with my earphones on you know
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and listen to a guided meditation how
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about you when you're when you're
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stressed or when you're busy do you tend
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to want to go sit for an hour or do or
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well I looked them up because I didn't
22:07
actually know who that was but he was a
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Catholic uh Bishop so obviously faith
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and religion were a big part of his
22:14
daily thing so it seems like that maybe
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came from more of a spiritual comment
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than anything else because I kind of I
22:22
want to get the context to see so right
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that actually kind of makes a little
22:25
more sense to me that he said you know
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when you do get too busy you need a
22:29
little bit more and yeah he's right you
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know you that's you don't want to do
22:34
more when you're already crazy you kind
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of want to like and that's you feeling
22:39
yourself that's literally helping
22:40
yourself I think it's a reminder I think
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really what this is I don't think it's
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specifically are you gonna sit for an
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hour I think really the reminder here is
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is that if you find yourself busy and
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you need some help stop just stop and
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meditate or breathe or do whatever or
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just sit there and just like stare at
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any last minute thoughts Rob before we
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give some call to actions on how to get
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some support and help
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um yeah I mean you know I think all
24:35
these articles were great if you guys
24:36
weren't able to read them all now catch
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them there psychentral.com has a lot of
24:41
good information there as well
24:43
um but we'll do some more deep Dives um
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if you watch our other shows we always
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have portions of it where we do the
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24:52
some research you know make sure it's
24:53
healthy research not the word stuff but
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you know do your thing if you have if
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you want to learn something more go
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25:00
talk to people who are in the business
25:02
talk to people who you know you know
25:04
medical providers whatever talk to
25:06
anybody who might have the answers
25:07
that's the easiest way to figure it out
25:09
and then see how it can be implemented
25:12
um yeah what works for you if you are
25:16
right now watching or you know somebody
25:18
who is triggered and needs some support
25:21
first of all there are lots of online
25:23
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25:28
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nammy.org and finally if you are right
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