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Hello everyone! Caren Glasser here and Welcome to The Little White Lie Movement. On these weekly FB lives I invite my guests to share their stories, expertise, tools and tips on how we all can embrace our authentic self, talents, and gifts and say YES to embracing our Little White Lie!
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Today we ask the question: Does the Way You Dress Define Your Age?
Joining me today is Lauren Solomon. Lauren is the trusted image advisor to CEOs, corporations and individuals worldwide, as well as an internationally renowned speaker, author, coach and media personality. Her clients cross every continent and industry, from Disney to AmEx, Bulgari to Pfizer. She is the resident image expert for Career TV and the Lifetime TV series, Remake My Life. She is also the author of Image Matters! and the co-author of #1 Best Seller The Law of Business Attraction and Executive Image Power
Some of the things we discuss
1. One of the big topics online and off is image and how we dress.
2. Let’s talk about Image. What do you believe?
3. How does the media impact that? TV, magazines, articles online
4. So, does the way you dress define your age?
5. Visit Lauren http://www.LaurenSolomon.com
And you can do this too.
So…. What do you think? Does the Way You Dress Define Your Age? Post in the comments. With the Hashtag #LittleWhiteLie
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and no everyone Karen glasser here and
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welcome to the little white line
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movement on these weekly Facebook lives
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I invite my guests to share their
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stories their expertise tools and tips
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on how we can embrace our authentic self
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talents and gifts and say yes to
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embracing our little white lie so don't
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forget to connect with me on the little
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white lie calm you'll see it's right
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there on the screen and make sure you
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post and answer the questions that we
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throw out because we're going to throw
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your comments right up on the screen and
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don't forget to put the hashtag hashtag
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little white lie so that we can track
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this all across social media and we can
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continue to grow this movement so I'm
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really really excited today we're asking
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the question does the way you dress
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define your age does the way you dress
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define your age and who better than
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having an image advisor with me today
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her name is Lawrence Lawrence Solomon
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she is a trusted image advisor of CEOs
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corporations and individuals worldwide
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as well as an internationally renowned
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speaker author coach and media
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personality she's got clients all around
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the world across every continent ranging
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from Disney to American Express bvlgari
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I think I said that right and pfizer she
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is a resident image expert for career TV
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and the Lifetime TV series remake my
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life I think I think I'm going to join
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worn on remaking my life I'm not sure
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she is also the author of image matters
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and the co-author of the number one
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bestseller the law of business
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attraction and the executive image power
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so without further ado I invite Lauren
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into the show Lauren good afternoon how
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are you today I'm terrific thank you
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thank you so much for that lovely
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introduction how are you i am doing i am
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so awesome it ought to be a sinner
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really odd it s in and i want to remind
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people that if you're here on replay we
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love that you're here on replay make
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sure you comment down there too because
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we're going to respond to you we're
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going to make sure that you are loved
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because we love you and as I do every
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time every week I'm going to do my
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reveal so here we go you know is funny
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Lauren I was on a cruise last week and
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I've been posting a couple of pictures
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of me with my white hair and i think i
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was telling you right before the show i
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had several people come up to me and say
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oh my gosh you look amazing which you
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know of course made me feel good but the
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next statement was how do you do that so
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you know i was going to say well you
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become 60 and you start growing your
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hair out so today we're going to be
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talking about this whole image thing
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okay and it does the way you dress to
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find your age so let me just ask you do
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you think the way we dress to find our
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age I think the way we dress reflects
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the way we feel and that's for those of
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us who actually have taken time to think
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about it and to actually make an effort
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in that direction in other cases I think
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the way we dress reflects the way others
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think we should look and how old others
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see us to be so I think there's that two
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sides of the coin is for those who have
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spent some time with it they've made
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efforts to dress and reflect the way
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they feel and the other side is people
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are still dressing in other people's
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images of them so how would you define
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the word image is it a picture is it our
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hair is it our clothes how would you
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define the word image it's so great that
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you asked that because even when I was
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president of the image Association we
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really struggled with the word image the
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word image has a horrible image problem
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and it could use some consultation good
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know as many as many of us have tried
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but for me personally and it is just my
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personal approach is image is a very
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holistic view of who you want to be and
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how you want to be seen in the world so
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image is completely within your control
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so you know I don't think a day goes by
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that I don't open a magazine or a
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newspaper article or something online
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that says or even on facebook social
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media that will say Oh elbow first one
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to put a post up here from Nancy Ferrari
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great insight Lauren about dressing how
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people want us to look Thank You Nancy
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for your share love that the day doesn't
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go by that tells me if you're over 40
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these are the clothes or these are the
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colors or this is what you should be
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wearing you want to speak to that I mean
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what is this what is this thing with the
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media that's going to tell us how we
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should dress well the media is going to
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tell us how we should do everything I
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mean goodness they tell us which fork to
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eat with they tell us which color to
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wear they tell us what shoes to buy they
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tell us what kind of dog is hot right
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now so you know if you don't have the
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hottest you know hybrid dog go get a new
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one I mean that's the media's job when
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you put the media aside and you take
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them out of the conversation because
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they need to sell information they need
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to sell their content newspapers
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magazines blog posts everything is all
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about getting eyeballs and the eyeballs
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unfortunately are driven by the
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headlines so those headlines that say 10
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things you can do to look 10 pounds
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slimmer without missing a meal or going
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to the gym right like that's going to
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happen well you know if that's a lion I
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use because truthfully if you dress your
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best you can lose 10 pounds without
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skipping a meal are going to the gym so
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while it's a cool headline unfortunately
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they're not giving you the true answers
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in the article because they have to
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write next week's post that says wait a
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minute we got that one wrong and here
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are 10 different thing and that's what
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else right that's what's that's what's
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is LA Weekly and unfortunately the other
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thing that sells is small sizes so the
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thing about sizing and women sizing more
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than men you know women don't want to
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wear more than a size 10 nobody wants to
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feel like they're big well who decided
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that a 14 was big who decided that a 6
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was okay who decided that a size 0
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should even exist oh my god there are
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other questions I got that mean that's
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that end and you know want to bring up
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the whole sizing thing in the first
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place so I remember back in the day when
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I was still sewing my own clothes
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Simplicity patterns and you
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would buy you know whatever size you
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were in a bi and even and then take that
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into the department stores in a size six
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today is not the same side sick from
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back then right right because the woman
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who's a size 10 wanted to be a size six
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so slowly a six became a chance or at
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least an eight but it still called the
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six and that's why they had to create
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zero because too was no longer truly the
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smallest size they needed something
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smaller there is zero and double zero by
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the way before you get to junior sizing
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so it just goes to show that we okay I
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think we have Lauren has frozen over
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there and I don't think she knows that
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she has frozen and this is such a great
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conversation I am hoping that she will
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know that she's frozen I'm going to ask
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what of one of lauren's friends Amy do
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you want to go text lauren a let her
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know that she's frozen and to come back
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in and join us and here she come okay
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you're back you're back sorry aqua who
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I'm so glad you're back so size 10 are
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now considered size sixes and i'll let
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you continue and the designers and the
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manufacturers are going with that
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because they want people to be happy and
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they want them to buy their clothes so
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they're going to accommodate the mindset
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but again where did that mindset come
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from and why does it matter I love when
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I can cut out the tags of my clients
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clothes and just say we're not looking
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at numbers right now let's just put on
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clothes that fit and look fabulous let's
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see what makes you feel the most amazing
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and let it go with that well that's
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that's what this movement is all about
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that you're inside reflects what you or
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your outside reflects how you feel on
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the inside and vice versa so if somebody
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comes to you and says okay all these
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magazines and to a TV and media they're
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telling me that I need to wear x y&z how
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do you turn that around how do you have
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that conversation with that person has
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come to you so my ladies know better if
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they're coming to me they already know
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that they're going to get you check
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those opinions at the door we're not
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dealing in alternate facts we're dealing
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the reality we're dealing in your life
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your lifestyle your dreams and your
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goals and amazingly if I ask you what
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any of those are no response comes back
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a size 4 no response comes back you know
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a particular garment or maybe as an
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aspiration I would like to be able to
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wear X but there is always always an
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alternative that will work for any body
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and my response is there is nothing
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wrong with your body your body and you
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and your life you're quite perfect now
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we get to use the clothes as a tool to
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reflect that so you can show that to the
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rest of the world and it can help you to
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your point help you feel better inside
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because that's what informs the outside
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and then it's a spiral and in my book I
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write about the fact that you can't
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separate the two you can't address just
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the inside without addressing the
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outside and vice versa especially if you
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want to really be your best you know
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it's so important what you're saying and
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one of the things that I've noticed
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about myself with with this little thing
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going on up here is that I really had to
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become confident I really had to step
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into my own confidence my own power and
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say you know what this is part of me and
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I love it and the minute I actually had
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that mindset shift that I love this I
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mean I still look at myself every so
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often and say oh they look at me it
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looks like I'm wearing a hat on my head
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sometime but it's a matter of confidence
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and would you agree with that but this
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is a matter of one shoe can look at
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yourself and have the inside match the
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outside is that a competent thing that's
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totally a confidence builder because
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then you get to actually see who you are
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instead of looking in the mirror and
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feeling like you have to cover up or
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hide and which is why I so love your
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title little white lie and it's just a
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genius a genius direction for the
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conversations that you bring that I want
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you to look in the mirror and love who
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and what you see and know that that is
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authentically you I don't want you to
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have to think twice about oh do I want
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to tell the world best or do I want to
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tell the world bad
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what am i hiding today or whatever it
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takes the whole idea is for us to live
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this life to the fullest and we can't do
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that if we're manufacturing the parts
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that we want people to see so tell us a
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little bit about your media experience I
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mean I know that we played when I
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introduce you I talked about the shows
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that you do what do you do with them
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exactly with the shows yea though
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historically I've been a repeat guests
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on a number of shows Fox good day New
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York and when I was in New York and also
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a lifetime program called our home so in
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that capacity I could be the etiquette
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expert I could be the image expert we
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could talk about chipping we could talk
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about pointy toe shoes talk about
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whatever we wanted to whatever they
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wanted us to talk about in the realm of
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image life lifestyle so its image life
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and style that's how I I describe it so
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however this impacts your life to
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whatever degree and now currently I
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co-host a program that's privately owned
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here in Southern California called good
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day orange county and we do it's also a
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lifestyle segments type of segment
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driven show and my no surprise to anyone
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my segments are beauty fashion cooking
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because I just love to be in the kitchen
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unfortunately my co-host of Smaug
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because not everything you cook too we
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do so it's cooking without cooking I've
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learned that it's called compilation
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compilation in the kitchen we don't have
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a heat source so it's either a blender
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or a food processor and I bring
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everything pre-prepared and my favorite
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apparently who knew I was such a pudding
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girl I just talked about a life I seem
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to like all kinds of we treats that are
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healthy heart healthy low glycemic so we
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did the first one we did was avocado
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chocolate mousse have you ever had it no
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and I guess ah ok I'm not even sure what
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to say absolutely it's so the beauty of
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avocado is that a perfectly ripe avocado
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will take on the flavors that you give
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it and it has that moosie
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creaminess that when you throw it into a
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blender your contribution oh no no but
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it's delicious and even the crew even
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the crew loved it so all right a
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question Lauren you can what channel is
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your show on in Orange County the show
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is oh sorry the show is on where'd we go
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there we go let me show it show is on a
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private with on channel 6 it's privately
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owned by laguna woods the community of
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laguna woods and ultimately we're going
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to take it and push it out through
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youtube so there with you just if you go
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on to youtube and you google good day
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Orange County you'll find some of the
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segment's up there already from previous
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shows we've since moved into a beautiful
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new studio and its really upgraded and
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it's a fabulous show so it will become
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public in a bigger way right now on this
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private it's very fun eighteen thousand
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homes no oh now you've run down that's
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amazing so you know have you ever felt I
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mean here you're and this is what you do
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for a living you you are in the image
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arena have you ever felt yourself when
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you get on these you know they all these
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different things have you looked at the
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other person sitting next to you and say
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hmm I mean how does are you are you able
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to have the right mindset when you get
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on what I'm guess I'm well so the beauty
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is growing growing up on the East Coast
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and mostly from New York City I grew up
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in New Jersey and lived most of my life
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in Manhattan you know you learn to turn
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it off you learn to lose your own
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opinions until you're getting paid for
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them so I don't actually get to have an
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opinion unless i am directly asked and
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even then i think two or three times
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before i answer i'll always answered
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kindly but not always completely if I
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think I'm in danger so I am careful
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about that the one thing the one thing
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that I I have absolutely learned is is
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that everyone is doing their best let
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everyone know I don't know a soul who
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wakes up and says how can I make this a
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really crappy day and how can I let my
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worst hopefully nobody i know this is
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that that we
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I dad actually and I know like millions
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of people that I've come in contact with
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and no one has ever said that to me but
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if what they do say is I do want to do
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my best and these are all the tools I
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have to work with and as always I can
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provide more tools then I can be of
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greater value and you know interestingly
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of course i have my own meltdown days we
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all do and it's really hard when you're
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in my business so there was there was a
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period of time where I was very sick and
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the only thing that I had gained over
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night I had gained an enormous amount of
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weight and the only thing thats it were
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yoga pants and t-shirts and of course I
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wouldn't leave the house thank God fresh
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direct and you know everybody else
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delivers but I went through that my own
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that thing that my clients go through
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and it happens periodically that says I
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want to be my best what am I going to do
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well I could get on facebook i could get
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online I could you know be on camera
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with just this little bit showing and I
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could I could make it work most people
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don't have that kind of control they
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have to get up and get dressed and get
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out to work every day and so my job and
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my responsibility as I see it is to set
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you up for your greatest success like
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let's let's just talk about your hair
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for a second because I love it so much
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and i'm jealous and i'm not ready yet
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and i'm working my way toward it and
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you're an inspiration but the last about
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a month or so ago i had i was scheduled
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my parents were visiting me I had hair
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color scheduled for 8am I was supposed
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to take them to the airport by
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ten-thirty then I was supposed to get to
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the studio for a shoot of the show right
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this is the hair salon no stylist no
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stylist til 830 no word nothing he's
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sick he's sick he's in bed he's been up
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all night I find out at eight-thirty I'm
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almost ready to have a stroke because my
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day is scheduled minute a minute and I
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literally I could feel the tears running
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down my face just because of all the
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things that had to fall into place and
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here I did everything I could and then I
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thought to myself you are out of your
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mind but you're really out of your mind
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go to the dry bar get a blow dry they
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have the color powder fill in your roots
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you know
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get to the studio do the stupid show
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keep moving right and that's something
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that I teach my women to do all the time
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is that this stuff it's just stuff and
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you know if I if I'm ready or anyone is
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ready to start doing hair and letting it
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grow in you're doing it very publicly
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publicly in a very bold way but if we
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were working together I would have said
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early on let's chop it up and make it so
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cute and let's make the gray part of the
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style as opposed to you know what you're
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doing not because for shame but because
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we're most of us don't have we don't
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have your inner strength my dear and and
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I really do appreciate what you're
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saying and you know I am fortunate the
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colors is coming in actually quite
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pretty it's I have the silver thing
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going on and and that and I understand
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that that most people are not going to
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have the guts to do what I'm doing and I
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don't expect them to in any way shape or
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form but I did think that I needed to
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make a huge statement by doing it in
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this public way and I guess you would
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agree that that's exactly what exactly
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what I've done so guys those of you that
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are listening and I know we have viewers
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on and I said I'm thrilled you're
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putting your comments down there answer
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the question please does the way you
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dress define your age are you put off by
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thinking that you have to dress a
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certain way please comment down there
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because we would love to get your your
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input and and the information that you
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have and I also would love to have you
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visit lauren over at schedule appear
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there we go at more in Solomon com you
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can get to know Lauren much better over
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there she's got all sorts of stuff going
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on in her sight and I don't know if
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you're actually working with new clients
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right now Lauren but I'm sure if you are
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you'll there's a way for them to reach
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out to you oh here we got a comment here
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let's put it up here this is from Cheryl
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who says no I don't feel I have to dress
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a certain way here here good for you
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Cheryl I'm really glad to hear that and
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here's another one I am 44 and just like
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I'm 64 I
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with see now April I'm not sure what a
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54 year old dresses like I'm 60 and I
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don't I don't know what that actually
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means but that but that's a great
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comment and any set know any fashion
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experts who want to make / volunteer
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we've got another comment from Amy who
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says for me it depends where I'm going I
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am very much a jeans girl when relaxing
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these are great comments thank you so
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much for sharing them don't forget to
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put a hashtag little white lie because
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we want to track this more in any last
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thoughts that you want to share with us
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I think the biggest thing is that as we
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go through life and we achieve certain
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things we also achieve the
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responsibility to show up more as more
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of who we truly are I think when were
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younger and we're still in that
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discovery stage we're willing to take
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the marketing messages and we're willing
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to try them and we're willing to do a
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lot of things that when you get past 40
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and certainly past 50 I know for me I
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think 50 was kind of the turning point
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that said oh I'm just done with that and
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I'm in the business but I'm very
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discerning about who and how I want to
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show up and how I believe you know women
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can be their best at every stage and if
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it means that you don't want to wear
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Spanx anymore then let's find a way that
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you don't have to if you've been wearing
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them all this behind not just going to
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the gym 10 hours a day and let's figure
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out what actually works in our lives
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from where we are because no matter what
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we do the best we can do is be the best
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we can be and that requires comfort amen
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amen I mean how wonderful would it be if
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you could wake up every single morning
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put on those clothes that make you feel
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amazing and comfortable and make you
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feel however you want to feel and be
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able to go out and face the day that's
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what you need a Lauren solid like a
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chance to it that way I think I need a
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warrant Solomon for I get confused with
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the cameras here because it's because
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you know sometimes we can't do it alone
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and we need some help go check her out
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go check her out I'm going to put it up
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one more time a tangle of element com
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Lauren I want to thank you for taking
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time today to be with us I'm so
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appreciative
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you know I have so many amazing people
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that I can call friends in my network
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and it's because of you and people like
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you that I'm able to create this little
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white like movement I couldn't I can't
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do this by myself I do it with the
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greater greater community so want to say
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you again and I want to thank our
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viewers don't forget to make comments
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and keep it going the conversation is
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going to keep on going i know the lauren
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will go back in there and make some
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comments i definitely will go back there
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and make some comments and look for the
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blog post next week on this show and go
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check out the little white wine calm
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because all my blog posts are there
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answer the questions get involved
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because this is a community you are the
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community it's not me it's us so we'll
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see you next time on the next episode of
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the little white lie to buy everyone
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