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How Can I Make Happyness My Go To Every Day State Of Being?
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Aug 9, 2017
Check out all of the shows here: http://www.TheLittleWhiteLie.com On this #LittleWhiteLie we talk with former senior executive at The Walt Disney Company, Mark Jaffe, and ask the question "How Can I Make Happyness My Go To Every Day State Of Being?" www.TheLittleWhiteLie.com My Direct Links, Programs & Equipment I use for my Shows & Promotion: BeLive: http://bit.ly/3p7E0DB Get Your Book In Front Of Thousands of Potential Buyers! https://bit.ly/2HJ38Qu Logitech HD Pro Webcam: https://amzn.to/362BuXP Wired Earbuds with Microphone: http://amzn.to/3p1pmOi Lavalier Lapel Microphone: http://amzn.to/3p9EFVo Blue Yeti USB Mic: https://amzn.to/395hExi ATR2100-USB Cardioid Dynamic Microphone: http://amzn.to/3qzEy5A LED Video Light Kit: http://amzn.to/360Qg1w Neewer Ring Light Kit: http://amzn.to/392bON2 (Some links on this video page may be affiliate links that can result in small commissions & help support the channel, they DO NOT cause you to pay any extra money for an item)
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embracing our little white lie hello
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everyone Karen glutes are here and
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welcome to the show we've got a really
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great one today we're going to be
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talking about happiness happiness with a
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why but we're going to do our
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today we're asking the question how can
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I make happiness my go-to everyday state
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of being how can we make happiness our
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everyday state of being my guest today
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is Marc Jaffe he's a former senior
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executive at the Walt Disney Company
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where he spent many many years creating
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happy moments at a young age he realized
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that his happiest life was not something
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out of reach
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he studied observed cultivated and
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ultimately enjoyed an enduring happiness
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through a singular focus on identifying
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what works and what doesn't so without
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further ado I'm going to bring my
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special guest in how you doing mark I'm
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doing great care and I'm thrilled to be
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here with you well I am just absolutely
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delighted we go way back we go way way
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back back in the we're trying to figure
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out the time just as as we were going
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live probably the late 80s Early 90s
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plan I ended up on the Disney Channel
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five-year anniversary of the Disney
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Channel the music box series and that's
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when we actually connected right it's
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true I was running
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Disney Records back there and and I
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signed your brother Craig to a recording
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contract and Wow what what a great
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wonderful moment that was for all of us
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I know absolutely so I'm just delighted
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that we have reconnected I have a
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question to ask you first what is your
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little white life well I have to say my
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little white light that up because this
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is who I am I just turned it around is
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that I just think it's not getting any
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better I just they come up continually
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on this slow but steady decline so the
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way that I've used that is to realize
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that every moment I have is precious
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that time is the most valuable of all my
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possessions and if I don't enjoy it
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today I may not have a chance to enjoy
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it tomorrow so I really try to squeeze
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every moment I can for its full
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potential to give me joy and happiness
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and fulfillment what a great response I
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mean and it's perfect for you because
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you are the happiness guy in fact you
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have a really great book that's out
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there very very popular doing very very
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well it's called the suitcase of
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happiness and guys I went ahead and put
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a link down in there if you want to go
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pick it up it's a great book and and I
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love that you use the Y in there a
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happiness rather than I you want to give
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us a reason for that yeah well you know
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what we talk about happiness and
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everybody says happiness is so fleeting
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why can't I have more moments of
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happiness and the truth is I believe
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happiness is a go to state that you
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could actually have a state of being
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that is happy now granted of course
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there are moments of unhappiness there's
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tragedies we've all had them in our
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lives but I believe that we could look
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forward and we could look back and say
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we are genuinely happy people so do you
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think that we can all be happy is that
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really what you're saying we can all at
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some point be happy oh absolutely I
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believe what you focus on you find you
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know I was going in or I was traveling
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in the Oregon coast with my friend my
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best friend we were on this little
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adventure and if any of you have lived
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in cold climates you know that when it
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all send the coldness goes away or if
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you live in rainy climates the rain
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it goes away all of a sudden everybody's
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out on the streets and the hormones are
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flying in his electricity and on what
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one day when it was beautiful bright
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warm sunny day in Oregon my friend and I
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are walking down the street and I
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noticed these two beautiful women and as
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they pass I said to him did you see that
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and he said yes and I've noticed that
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the corrosives weather has not affected
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them at all
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that's an odd statement and so he goes
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I'm going in for a closer look
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restrain him and I realize he's not
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walking towards the girls he's walking
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towards houses on the beach oh wow
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because he was building a house and he
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was concerned with the shingles on the
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house and how they survive the corrosive
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salt air and I to this day I don't
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understand how we could have walked down
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the same road I saw beautiful girls and
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he saw a shingle sauna house and he
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hates what I tell that story but it's
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true and wouldn't that that and that's
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kind of an alignment with being happy
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right happiness means different things
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to different people right and what you
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focus on you find and so if you're
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focused on your day in creating happy
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moments and seeing happy moments you
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will find them I mean I believe the only
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that there are happy moments all around
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us and if we're not looking for them
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we'll never see them I never saw the
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shingles on the house but they were
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right there they were just not in my
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line of sight so if somebody wants to
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start on this journey to happiness other
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than going to buy your book which I'm
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going to encourage people to do can how
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do people get started what would be a
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first thing to start to find happiness
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or is that kind of a silly question I
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don't know it's it's actually an easy
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question I mean there's all sorts of
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theory everybody has theories
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I think this sit the simplest easiest
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way to find happiness is to try to say
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yes more often I mean how many times are
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we too cold were too tired were too hot
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or too hungry or whatever and we have
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these opportunities to say yes and we
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choose not to I mean the simplest thing
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is how many times if you unexpectedly
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gone down at
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way back from work or from home and you
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discovered a cute bakery or you got kids
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playing in the park and it brought a
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smile to your face so say yes to
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something different say yes your partner
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more often you don't know the happiness
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that will be on the other side of that
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word yes I love that so we have a
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question um let's see here we're
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actually the wrong question would you
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say that happiness begins with gratitude
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what do you think about that oh yes I
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mean gratitude is such a powerful part
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of happiness I mean you know in the
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roots of happiness is gratitude for that
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happiness and then gratefully or for
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what you have the more you realize that
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you have and I agree with that person
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100% I mean often times I look back at
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when I was younger and we would go
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hiking a lot as a family and my mom
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would all descend stop us on the trail
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and should say mark bottle it which was
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bottle that moment bottle the smell of
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the pine bottle VISTA over that next
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Ridge and when you stop and you bottle
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it which was her version of gratitude it
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crystallizes and every time something
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happens and you stop and you express
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gratitude for being in this moment at
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this time in this place that memory
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crystallizes and it's something you
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could always go back to and smile I am
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really relating to that and but you know
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it's what's interesting is the whole
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thing with happiness is that as you said
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you can choose to be happy or you can
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choose not to be happy and whatever our
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mindset is is is what will will show up
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in front of us but that sometimes really
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really hard especially if you are facing
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life challenges or or lost your job or
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family things so is there is there a way
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that we can just give a tip out there
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right now like a an actual exercise
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maybe that can get people to get out of
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the negative and into the positive yeah
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you know I had a very tragic event
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happen in my life that was so hard for
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me to get past and somebody taught me
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the power of
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sentence and oftentimes when we have
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limitations which as we get older we all
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develop more limitations by accepting
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those limitations we give ourselves
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permission to be happy with what is not
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limited I mean you know god forbid we
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were to lose our sight or our hearing
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it's hard to imagine how we could be
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happy without sight but there are
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millions of people who don't have sight
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who are incredibly happy how is that
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possible it's possible because they've
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accepted the limitation that we have and
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they've embraced those things that are
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not limited and it's easier said than
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done I mean it took me months to get
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past this tragedy but once I did I
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realized that that was the first step in
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giving myself permission to be happy
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again and and I guess it's all a
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perspective right I mean when you have a
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tragedy like that you start counting
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your blessings right and you start
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realizing what you do have and and try
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to stay focused on on that and and
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absolutely so I have a question for you
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it just it just actually popped into my
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head because I think of Disney and
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Disneyland being the happiest place on
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earth do you think that somehow you
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gravitated to Disney for that reason
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because you've been on this happiness
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journey for longer even than you think
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wow that is a fantastic question I think
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you know what I think consciously and
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subconsciously what we focus on we find
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and it's probably no accident that the
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first half of my career was dedicated to
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children and to the happiness of
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children and while I didn't
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intentionally do that in a conscious way
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I would not be surprised if
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subconsciously I did and and here you
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are now you're not with Disney anymore
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you've written your book tell us a
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little bit about what your journey looks
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like now that you've left the happiest
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place on earth
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well my journey now is actually doing
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the same thing I mean when you think
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about legacy and I believe the search
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for meaning is one of the pathways to
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happiness it's actually one of the ones
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that I've listed in the book and part of
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what people search for when they search
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for lis meaning potentially at our age
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is what is our legacy and my belief is
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that our life
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see is not that we got our name
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inscribed on a building I mean I went to
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UCLA and I still don't know who any of
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those people who are in the resident
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home where but I believe our legacy are
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the people that we touch and those that
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they touch in turn who are in some way
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affected by the impact we had and so our
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impact outlives our name it outlives
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even the things that we did and the
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people that follow us who were affected
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by the things that we did and to me one
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an amazing legacy to know that you've
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touched someone who then fathered or
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mothered hundreds of people and
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generations of people who were then
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affected by what you did for you know
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the first person in that stream I love
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that and it's so guys what we're saying
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is it doesn't matter how old you are how
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young you are you can be happy you can
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find happiness you can work at it
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because anything worthwhile is worth the
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effort putting into it and marks here to
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tell you all about it check out I'm
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gonna go ahead and put another comment
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out love how you share what I call them
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she calls it the ripple effect thanks
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Nancy so true so true so if you would
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like to follow mark I'm gonna put up his
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Twitter handle mark Jaffe you can find
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him on there and tap you know tweet him
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why not tweet him I'm sure he will
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respond I'll respond to everyone there
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you go oh and you know check out the
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book also let them know what you think
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about the book any last thoughts of that
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you'd like to share about happiness in
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the journey well first of all the book
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you could also find out or more
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information at suitcase of happiness
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calm that's where you'd find the book
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but I would encourage you to think about
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all the different pathways with which
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you could get happy and I'll mention one
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more that's just the simplest one and
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that's what it is the magic is
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simplicity just this morning we were
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talking about the weather it's hot
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everywhere in the country except in
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Santa Monica California where it's
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overcast in 65 right but what a joy it
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was this morning when I woke up with my
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window open and a cool breeze literally
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be
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my face it was such a simple nothing
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moment and yet it framed my entire day
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and how often do we let those little
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moments that just happen to us all the
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time just go away and we don't
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appreciate them I mean right now look
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out your window it's probably amazing
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there's something interesting out there
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appreciate the texture of your floor the
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next time you go home and walk barefoot
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I mean there's so many little things you
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could do to engage your senses and
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appreciate the present moment in which
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you're sitting Oh mark thank you so much
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such wise words for our viewers and we
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want to ask our viewers here's the
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question for you and go ahead and post
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it in the comments we'll go back and
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read them later on how can you make
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happiness your go-to everyday everyday
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state of being April already has one
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embrace the simple moments thank you a
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thank you so much April hey guys you
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know what go and check out the site the
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choice as to how to spend your time Marc
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and I want to thank you for spending it
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somebody an awesome day and we will send
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the little white lie good bye everyone
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bye