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How do I stop worrying about what others think of me, so I can show up as I am today?
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Aug 9, 2017
On this #LittleWhiteLie Caren talks with 113 Branding founder Joie Gharrity and asks the question "How do I stop worrying about what others think of me, so I can show up as I am today?" Join the conversation Http://www.TheLittleWhiteLie.com I invite you to set up time with me by filling out the form below: http://www.ConnectWithCaren.com My Direct Links, Programs & Equipment I use for my Shows & Promotion: BeLive: http://bit.ly/3p7E0DB Get Your Book In Front Of Thousands of Potential Buyers! https://bit.ly/2HJ38Qu Logitech HD Pro Webcam: https://amzn.to/362BuXP Wired Earbuds with Microphone: http://amzn.to/3p1pmOi Lavalier Lapel Microphone: http://amzn.to/3p9EFVo Blue Yeti USB Mic: https://amzn.to/395hExi ATR2100-USB Cardioid Dynamic Microphone: http://amzn.to/3qzEy5A LED Video Light Kit: http://amzn.to/360Qg1w Neewer Ring Light Kit: http://amzn.to/392bON2 (Some links on this video page may be affiliate links that can result in small commissions & help support the channel, they DO NOT cause you to pay any extra money for an item)
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welcome to the little white lie with
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Karen Glasser the little white lie is
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all about the lies we tell ourselves
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about getting old and how to love the
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age you are in hello everyone karen
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Glasser here and i am so happy that
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you're here welcome to the little white
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talking about this that I look so bright
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because the light is bouncing off my
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head I want to make sure that you visit
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you comment and I hope that you share
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use the hashtag little white lie so
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today the question that we're tackling
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is how do I stop worrying about what
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others think about me so that I can show
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up as I am today and who better to
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address this topic is the amazing Joey
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Garrity she's the founder of 113
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branding she's a brand strategist
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marketer author and speaker maybe not
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all at the same time but she does all
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those things she's worked in the
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entertainment industry for the past 15
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years actually not the past but for 15
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years plus and with companies like ABC
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and Disney and I mean she's she's just
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like the insider that we all need to
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have in our corner and I'm very very
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fortunate to have Joey in my corner so
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let's welcome her in Joey how are you
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today hi hi Karen I'm great thank you
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for having me on sister well I'm just
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delighted that you're here because I
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mean who better than you to talk about
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your it factor but I want to ask you
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before we even start Joey
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what's your little white light okay so
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I've been thinking a lot about this
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today right and everyone out there knows
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that Karen's gonna ask you this question
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so you know my little white lie right
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now is that I'm so uncomfortable right
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now in regards to how much I'm
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stretching and you ever talk more about
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this about moving away from being a
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likeable leader etc that I want to go
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back into my comfort zone that is my
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little white lie so every day it's like
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more yoga or meditation warm mere love
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thank you Lisa Lamont you know etc more
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inner game tools to keep me in this
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uncomfortable zone because you and I
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both know we have to be uncomfortable
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it's a new comfortable rate right there
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oh my gosh I couldn't even say it better
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myself and you're the one who told me to
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get uncomfortable thank you very much
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Joey Garrity welcome I made I understand
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what you're saying because I'm kind of
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like in that uncomfortable space myself
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and it would be really nice and very
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easy just to go back to being
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comfortable but I'm I'm not gonna do it
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I've got you as an accountability
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partner as you have me I'm not there as
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duaa right so you know one of the big
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topics that we've been talking about is
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how to stop worrying about what others
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think of us right so that we can show up
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as we truly are so what's the key tool
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to help someone actually cross that
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bridge sure so what I discovered when
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Karen and I are down the long beach
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we're at the Women's Conference and this
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was I was still very comfortable by the
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way I remember those days very
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comfortable right just got out of my
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annual event right with Karen Glazer and
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I'm glass excuse me and Betty and green
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and we're having a great time what I
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realized was is that in order to stretch
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that I had to move out from being a
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likable leader and I believe that that
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likable leader that that title is given
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to us at a very young age especially for
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women and what is it not to be liked
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scary stuff a very scary place to be but
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what I realize is is that and I had to
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stand on my own leadership spotlight if
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this was going to be a long term journey
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and I'm going to walk my own talk right
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absolutely and it is uncomfortable it
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and you know I've been noticing in the
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last couple of weeks as I'm you know
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launching this whole whatever this is
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that we're launching I have been getting
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more and more uncomfortable because as
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I've gotten older I have those thoughts
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in my head that say do you really want
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to do this at 60 or can you really do
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their 60 maybe that's more the question
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can you really do this at 60 and then I
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have to remind myself I have at least 30
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years ahead of me why not but I'm sure
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this is a common problem if you know
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those of you who are watching comment
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below let us know you know how are you
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stopping this worry about showing up the
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way you are this is it's really there it
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is it's when I decided to leave the
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likeable leader down in Long Beach
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there was a mourning process I mean it
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took me about at least a minimum of four
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weeks to start feeling better because I
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was so in fear model over this right
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especially just with my nature itself
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I've always wanting to be liked and also
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because we're Wiis I call us weeds right
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so we're very supportive encouraging
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that kind of gig so what I had to find
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for myself is a balance and how like I'm
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not going to be the quote unquote
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likeable leader and be the intentional
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leader that I might my life purpose of
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what I'm really here and how was I going
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to move through that and that's when I
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really had to like have more like I had
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to really look at my inner game sister
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and just be like know thyself and you
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have to just realize that we are going
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to push buttons and conflict along the
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way if we are truly sharing our unique
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point of views so do you have any like
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tips when those thoughts start to crowd
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our head I mean I know that Lisa Lamont
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does the whole the mural of and we can
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stand in front of a mirror and we can
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say those things any other tips that you
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might have I mean I talk to myself all
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the time
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out loud I've literally say Karen why
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are you doing this this is ridiculous
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you know you're the good are there any
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tips that you want to share yeah so
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there's a couple key components here one
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is is identifying your it factor your if
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factors really your life purpose is your
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birthright of what you are going to do
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and it has nothing to do with your last
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name the money you grew up with the
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money or vacation you have going on for
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yourself right now it's about being at
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ease with yourself and back in your body
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and that means standing in your
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spotlight but that's with intention so
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you got to first get really quiet and
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you gotta start identifying her for
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yourself what kind of leader are you
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gonna be you know just you gotta just
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put it out there and then from there you
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can start taking the steps the next step
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of that I really encourage people to do
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is you got to stand in it you got to
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walk your talk so literally sharing that
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type of leader that you are in the
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marketplace openly and like I'm I'm just
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gonna ask everyone out there right now
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like scream it from the mountaintops it
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will reinforce for you that that is
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where that is your birthright to stand
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in it and it's going to be scary at
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first but with time it will it will be
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more at ease for you and then it will
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feel like you're it's just a second skin
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as Angie says yes at ease with intention
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news maven awesome thank you so much hi
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Angie I mean these are really good
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really good tips I want to let people
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know how they can get in touch with you
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Joey today and go check out your website
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at 1:13 branding comm you also have a
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quite a few quite a few you actually do
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Facebook pages and groups and things
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that you lead where should we send them
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should we send them to the 113 Brandt or
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the branding for professional where
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should we send them
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sure so branding some professional
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business women is a group that I created
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and it is a weak group and when I mean
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the definition of a we is that people
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are interactive they're supportive
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they're encouraging their collaborate
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collaborating with each other right so
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if that's what you're looking for that
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would be a great group I also had just
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launched what I called the Hollywood
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spotlight series and here's a thing this
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was a big intention for me to get back
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to the type of leadership that I was
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born to be an away from the likeable
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leader going back to
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Hollywood ray it's been a mature my
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adult life they're going back to
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Hollywood and asking Hollywood insiders
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to come on my show right that was a leap
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of faith sister does everything up will
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he be comfortable again maybe you know
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what everyone has said yes they've all
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said yes because they know I'm
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intentional like I'm standing in my own
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in factor right but doing that the
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Hollywood spotlight because I believe
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that we can learn from masters in all
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different fields so we can all elevate
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together and not just be in our own
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backyard if you like we have to push out
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of our own backyards and sometimes you
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just have to ask for it as you said you
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have to ask because if you don't ask and
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you don't let the universe know that
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this is what you're going to be doing
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you're not going to get an answer back
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it's just that's just the way it works
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you don't ask you don't get an answer we
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have a Mary that says screaming it will
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liberate you I agree I totally get that
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Dianna says yes yes full circle if we
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ask most people will say yes I I really
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am beginning to believe that I used to
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not ask and now I'm definitely asking
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about it
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so along those lines I am going to do
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and ask for our community right now
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because I'm getting so excited we're
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about getting ready to launch the little
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white light digital magazine how cool is
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that Joey and I'm really excited cuz I
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have Joey Joey in my corner and you know
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she's going to be doing all the
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marketing for this and I want you this
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is the ask I'm asking you to go over to
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the little white like um I'm going to
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put it up there and make sure you opt-in
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what that means is there's a little
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thing right there to put your email in
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your name
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I don't spam I don't do anything like
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that I want you to do this for a reason
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because when you do that you're gonna
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get the very first issue sent to your
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email box the very first premiere issue
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it's coming out in October you're going
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to get it right in your email box and
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you're going to get a complimentary
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subscription to the quarterly magazine
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that will start right after that so
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that's my ask and I hope that you say
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yes and I've got Mary saying your tribe
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totally has your back jump so Mary is
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telling you go over to the little white
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and put your name in there so that you
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can get the issue any last thoughts Joey
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before we say goodbye yeah I just I
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really want to encourage particularly
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women out there to take a look at that
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leadership and it's just I mean we were
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very encouraged as young girls to always
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have to be light and that likability
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leader it's exhausting it's exhausting
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put her on the Shelf like just put her
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away create the intentional leader that
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you're meant to be it literally is your
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birthright it is the game changer you
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will be uncomfortable from sunrise until
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sunset but you know what life's so much
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more exciting now sister since I made
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that decision for myself I mean doors
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have just been blowing open for me this
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it's just it's just it is in alignment
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and when we're in alignment that's what
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things just like rock and roll that's
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when things happen I so agree I really
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want to thank all of you who come every
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single week to watch the show whether
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you're live or on replay we know that
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you have a choice as to how you spend
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your time and I am thrilled that you
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decided to spend it with us today so go
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out and give somebody an awesome day and
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we'll see you next week on the next
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episode of the little white line
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goodbye everyone