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hello everyone Karen glasser here and i
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am alexandra and first off we would love
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to tell you that this is a co-creative
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webinar this means we are inviting and
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asking for your participation to
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co-create imbue with us if you're
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watching the slide please make comments
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say hi and get engaged right away
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because we're really co-creating this
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together and if you are seeing this on
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replay we need you input just as much so
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if you're watching right now so please
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go and make comments so this is the
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imbue program welcome to the beautiful
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you but what is imbue what is that
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exactly me imbue is in viewing the
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masses beauty uniquely expressed by you
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so we want you to stay on because that's
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exactly what we're going to be talking
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about today but first i'd like to
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welcome all of you because we know that
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you have a choice as to how to spend
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your time and Alexandra and I are so
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grateful that you chose to spend your
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time with us today because while we are
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all so busy we have so many things going
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on and thank you for sharing it with us
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today we know that you have a choice let
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me introduce you first to my partner
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Alexandra 11 she's the co-founder of the
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back 40 it's a movement a community and
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transformational coaching program which
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support midlife is to see the second
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half of life as an inspiring radical and
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purposeful best half based on the dual
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premises that's the best is yet to come
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and you have yet to do what you came
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here to do she's a business and personal
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coach committed to supporting people in
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playing and winning their own big games
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in life and my beautiful partner Karen
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here is the founder of a sparking
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network a collaborative blue
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logging and media site he is the host of
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an influential web TV show The Passion
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point and most recently she's the
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fascial launched a global movement
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called the little white lie asking women
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to embrace their authentic selves their
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talents and gifts and saying yes to
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embracing their own little white lie how
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we came together is a wonderful story
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for us we actually partnered to support
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each other and support other women in
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imbuing and and allowing and embracing
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our best selves our self expression our
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uniqueness our inner beauty so we had a
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facebook I wasn't going to interrupt you
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and say okay you know you out okay
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counselor and I just wanted to say one
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more time please would love your
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feedback we absolutely will and look
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guys we want you to say to the end of
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this webinar because we have a special
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gift for you the five ways to imbue the
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beautiful you and an opportunity to win
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a kindle version of the new and view
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journal that's going to be coming up
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really really soon alexandra has done an
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amazing job and you want to make sure
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that you get into that you know running
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of maybe getting a free copy of that
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when it comes out on kindle and one more
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thing I forgot to mention we will have
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an opportunity for you to participate in
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a short survey and we'll tell you more
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about it later and our commitment for
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this time together for us is that you
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get and Megan or a nudge or an insight
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in moving you forward to your own
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embracing of your unique you I love a
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nugget and a nudge I'm going to go for
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the nugget okay I'm going to go for the
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nugget but today you are all going to
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learn three important aspects of imbuing
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the beautiful you number one embracing
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your own uniqueness number two
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going beyond your fears and finally
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number three self-love so let's talk
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about embracing your own uniqueness is
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it fair to say that most of us have
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something about ourselves that we just
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don't like about ourselves all that much
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here and I think so and with things that
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we think that is very normal and we find
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that there isn't any person in the world
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man or woman who doesn't have something
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about themselves as they just don't like
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that much I can't embrace ask absolutely
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absolutely but you know before we go on
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I want to put a comment up here so April
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roga just said Oh Andrew where'd this
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subject and nuns I love that N squared
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Thank You April the loveless love and
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love it yes so so we invite you right
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now in the comments section to proclaim
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it here what is that one thing that you
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just don't love about yourself so much
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and hey save loud his proud yes put it
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in the comments down there so for me
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i'll start my mind was the little white
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lie it was my gray hair saying i'm going
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to reveal it again i love revealing it
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and I'm really embracing it but when I
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first decided to do this I had just
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turned 60 back in November and I've been
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coloring my hair for 30 years I mean 30
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years every three weeks i went into the
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hairdresser sat down colored my hair
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because i knew that i was already going
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white my mother is a hundred percent
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white and I just wasn't ready at 30
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years old to have white hair and I
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thought okay how am I going to do this
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and I got kind of nervous and I went out
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and I bought like past all sorts of hats
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i wore them for a little while and it
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was itch my forehead and I was like I I
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don't like this I thought okay I'm just
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I'm just going to step out and I'm going
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to do this and then I went to Las Vegas
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and I know that we told the story
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several weeks ago I did a blog post
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about this about going out while going
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gray in Las Vegas and I went out there
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and I normally would wear my sexy little
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don't ask and this time I like to Vegas
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and I brought jeans and like t-shirts
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and I didn't feel sexy I didn't feel
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like I fit into the whole Las Vegas
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saying I didn't feel like I fit in
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period and I came back and I thought you
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know my mindset needs a shift my mindset
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need to shift Thank You Darryl I realize
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you can't see me ok I'm back on down
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there you go so my mindset really needed
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a shift and I decided that you know what
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I am not my hair I am NOT my gray I am
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me I am Who I am on the inside and once
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I made that shift I went out loud and
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proud just like you said Alexandra I
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went out loud and proud and I am
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embracing it 100% I absolutely love it
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and that's what we're talking about
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embracing Who real you and that is
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really great care and one particular
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thing you said it just strikes is I am
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NOT my gray hair how often do we all of
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us look at something one of our teachers
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our hair our wrinkles our business or
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anything and things that we are that and
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we're really not and that's part of in
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viewing ourselves is in our uniqueness
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is knowing that who we are is not tied
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to anything external and I will share my
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story so my that one piece that I was
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looking at embracing we're not embracing
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is my wrinkled and mostly a lot of it
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came from my friends and my mom and
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everybody around me continuously telling
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me that I should do something about it
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and that everybody doesn't how come my
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dope and for some reason I don't even
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know why for some reason I was not
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wanting to do anything about it I would
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didn't want to fix it I didn't want to
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hide him and I got one day that every
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single one of my wrinkles is a
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representation of Who I have become the
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learnings of my life the challenges of
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my life the growth and the life well
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and one great example of how I got one
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of my wrinkles is when my there 19 year
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old daughter decided to go to Israel few
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years ago right in the middle of the war
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she was going with a trip of other
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teenagers and more than half of her
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group cancelled and my entire family
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every single person in my family every
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single person I know we're not only
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trying to convince her not to go there
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were telling me that I should interfere
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stop her from going for bid and that I'm
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a bad mother and if anything happens to
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her I will be responsible and there was
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something that that was the process of
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getting several wrinkles because I was
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dealing with do i how do I handle if
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anything happens with being responsible
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for something like that and what am I
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stand for a myosin for my daughter
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living a life of fear and being told
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what to do or am I stand for hating her
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know that she can make her own choices
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and be empowered and I chose that and I
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told her that she gets to chew and then
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I will stand behind whatever choice she
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makes she ended up going she ended up
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falling in love with travel she is now
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after two summer backpacking trips who's
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getting ready for 16 months traveling
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after she graduates and it has them has
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made the biggest biggest impact in her
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life and that's worth getting wrinkles
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for and keeping those wrinkles I love
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that story I totally love the story and
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i think i told you earlier today when we
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were talking about this webinar I woke
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up this morning and I noticed there was
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a wrinkle in my face it was like this
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little indentation I realized it's part
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of my smile I need to smile and I
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literally said to myself what would
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Alexandra do because you know i I've
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been very blessed I don't have a whole
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lot of wrinkles but there it was this
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morning and I think it was a message
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comic amazing you know what we're all
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going to get wrinkles we're all going to
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embrace this one way or another so we
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have a call to action for all of you
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that are on now and even later what is
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one step that you can do right now
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to further embrace your uniqueness we
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want you to put it in the comment what
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is that one step you can do right now
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everyone has their own unique beauty
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that is just waiting to be expressed and
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we invite you to find yours so the next
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thing would like to talk about is what
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happens when your courageously
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courageously stepping into embracing
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your own uniqueness because it does take
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courage because it does take doing
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something that you haven't possibly done
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before and as you courageous we do that
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you might hear voice and you have the
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sense I can't do that I can't let my
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gray hair know I can let my wrinkles
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show I can't do this exercise routine
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and so on the boys is very creative and
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very convincing and it goes on
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loudspeaker every time we get out of our
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comfort zone so I'm going to put myself
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back here on on the on the camera here
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I'm multitasking so I've got to click
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the button over here so um I've
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completely lost my place here you are
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going to talk about what do you like to
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tell people when they come for guidance
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okay so here is what Thank You Alexandra
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thank God so here is what we propose
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that will maybe support you here one of
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my favorite questions that I ask when
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people ask me for guidance they come to
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me and they say so what do you think I
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always say to them what's the worst-case
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scenario and can you live with it what's
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the worst-case scenario and can you live
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with it so what do I mean by that well
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if you have a tough decision to make you
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want to go in your head maybe write it
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down on a piece of paper what is the
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worst thing that could happen if I
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decide to say yes to this scenario when
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you get to all those things on the list
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and you say can I live with it or can I
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not if you can't live with it then that
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is probably you know your inner mind
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saying to you don't do it but if in fact
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you say the worst case scenario is this
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and I can live with it then go ahead and
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do it jump into it embrace it that's
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great so I have my own little trick I
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adapted a phrase if you can't you must
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and anytime I hear myself say oh I can't
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do it and I hear it often because i been
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sipping into all kind of uncharted
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territories without of the box kind of
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thing and if i hear myself if i hear
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myself say that to myself I know that
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what there is to do is to do exactly the
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thing that I think I can't do and
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sometimes I hear it and I know anytime I
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hear myself say that I know that i am
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going to do it it may not be immediate
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it may take a moment it may take a year
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it may take me getting to the point
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where I can go and do it like one time I
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did one time I heard a like would never
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go jump out of the plane and there it
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was I gotta do it so I did it took a
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year and anything like that we just want
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to make sure that we allow ourselves the
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space to consider that if you think we
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can do it we must doing what we think we
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can't do propels us out of our comfort
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zone and straight into the areas of
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self-expression and growth and that is
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exactly where miracles happen miracles
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of beauty and so flaws we're getting
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some great comments over here I just
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want to put some on the screen right now
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with Valerie you said I'm totally
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comfortable dying my hair and I'm not at
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all ready to embrace my grave that feels
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very congruent with who and what I am
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and i love that this is available to me
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conversely i love that authenticity for
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you is gray and I embrace that as well
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that is so great that way thank you so
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much for sharing your comment I really
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really appreciate it so that's a great
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cup oh that's a great comment valley and
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that's exactly our point
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we're not saying one thing is right or
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one thing is wrong all we're saying
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whatever it is that is uniquely for you
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embraces run with it love it up
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absolutely this morning I put a post up
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on Facebook that said here I was talking
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about authenticity and I realized that
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what I look like was not who I was on
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the inside and somebody responded to
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that and said well what happens though
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if the way you look on the outside is
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not how you feel on the inside it was so
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interesting it totally turned it upside
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down and I know she would tell it she
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basically said she's embracing the Botox
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right now and so my response to her was
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then go for it do whatever it is that
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you need to do exactly what we're
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talking about here do whatever you want
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to do need to do to make you feel great
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about who you are so who of you have
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found yourself in a situation where you
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said to yourself this is too scary I
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can't do it so here's the next call to
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action what is one thing that you are
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afraid to do what one step are you going
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to take today today to start overcoming
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that fear go ahead and put your comments
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right below and then come back tomorrow
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and let us know how you're doing so what
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is it that you're going to do today to
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start overcoming that fear and the last
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nugget or nudge would like to share with
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you is self-love this right you've got
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to love yourself first and then once you
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love yourself once you embrace yourself
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however you are then you can even more
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inspect a limb easily impact whatever it
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is that you want to impact and make
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changes in and so we really invite you
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to do every day do at least one thing to
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love yourself up bonus points for more
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change it out try different things see
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would work for you best for somebody it
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may be long bad somebody else may not
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have a time of space to take a long bath
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t with quiet time for five minutes in
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the morning does the trick whatever it
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is for you uniquely you love yourself up
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and another thing with love for you to
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do is write it right out 10 things you
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love about yourself of course bonus
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points for more but we played for you
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subscribe with at least 10 get out of
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your notes it now if you can't do it
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after the webinar completes would do it
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and let us know will you come up with so
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here's your next call to action what is
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one thing that you can do today to love
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yourself up I guess we'll every time I
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hear that I just I want to go like this
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love myself up and we want you to put a
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comment right down below and then come
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back tomorrow again and let us know how
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you do there's a pattern your guys right
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where we want you there's call to action
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we want you to do something we want you
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to take action and that action can be
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many many things that can be that list
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attend ten things on the list it can be
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many many things but what we want you to
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do is make a comment below and then come
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back tomorrow don't just put a comment
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come back tomorrow we want to know how
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you're doing okay so we want to wrap
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this up today we talked about three
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things one embracing your own uniqueness
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including that one thing that you wish
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was different we also talked about being
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courageous and doing the one thing you
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think you can do and then finally last
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but not least loving yourself up I just
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have to do that again sorry and keep in
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mind the journey starts with you that's
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why we're we're asking you for for your
19:33
action in your input the journey starts
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with you taking that one first step
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right and then another and then another
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this is not about us this is about us
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and all of you individually new and you
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and you and you embracing your
19:50
uniqueness embracing your your your own
19:53
unique beauty so here's the thing this
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creative process right Alexandra this is
20:01
not just about us it's a co-creative
20:04
process we've offered you some ideas
20:06
that are only part of a program that we
20:09
are building right now but we truly want
20:11
and in fact we need your input so that
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we can build it out for you so right
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above there's a certain there's a little
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link that says take a survey right here
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it's a few questions that you can really
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help us we can really give us the
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information that we need to help you and
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we'll also put the survey link down here
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as well and don't forget to make your
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comments down there and with our
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appreciation for you taking the time to
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everyone right we do yeah we do we want
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thank you we want to thank you you took
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time out of your day we've got so many
21:25
comments going on here I'm going to put
21:29
some of these up here we go it's a
21:33
chance to win up her own Island hahaha
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well I don't know about that April but
21:39
you know what if you want to play a game
21:40
about winning your own Island then that
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is exactly what we're talking about here
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so we can afford the two yeah absent
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absolutely this is again guys this is
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not just about winkles this is not about
21:52
gray hair this is about embracing who we
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really are however it is that we see
21:58
ourselves embracing ourselves any last
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thoughts Alexandra that you want to
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share I just want to make sure so we
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said the opportunity to win the kindle
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version / journal that's good it's a
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kindle version of our church
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no which is in process right now and
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that's again that's why we're asking you
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to take the survey I'm putting up the
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link right here on the screen that is
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the survey link but it's much easier I
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think to go up there and just simply
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click on it I'm going to go ahead and
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remove that thank you again for joining
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us thank you for playing with us today
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right Alexandra we have to time this
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right it's a joy and a pleasure to play
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with you and we thank you have a great
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day everyone and we'll see you next time
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when alexandra and i get back together
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and imbue the beautiful us bye bye