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May 18, 2017
Hello everyone! Caren Glasser here and Welcome to The Little White Lie…. A Movement About Loving The Age You're in! On these weekly FB lives I invite my guests to share their stories, expertise, tools and tips on how we all can embrace our authentic self, talents, and gifts and say YES to embracing our Little White Lie! Let’s connect at http://www.TheLittleWhiteLie.com If you are here on replay… Today’s topic is Lifestyle. We ask the question: How do you want to design your life from this day forth? Joining me today is Darla Claire. Darla is a Lifestyle Architect & Success coach with certifications in TimeLine Therapy, Hypnotherapy and NLP Life Coaching. An entrepreneur with over 30 years working in business, and after ending a 25+yr marriage, she chose to re-invent herself and her lifestyle. She is passionate about inspiring women entrepreneurs and teenage girls on the journey self discovery, Lifestyle Solutions and Success Strategies for Peace, Passion & Prosperity. Some of the things we talk about: 1. How do you want to design your life from this day forth? 2. Can we design our life? 3. What are some of the roadblocks that we hit as we get older and what do we do when we hit them 4. Where does mindset come in You can learn more about Darla here: Website: http://www.Darla-Claire.com LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/darlaclaire Instagram: darlaclaire_lifestylearchitect
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hello everyone karen Glasser here and
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welcome to today's little white lies a
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little white lies and movement about
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loving the age that you're in each week
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experts join join me join me join me so
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time for the reveal everyone because and
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I was just talking to my guest before
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the show I'm having difficulty with my
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lighting because of this so I'm going to
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go ahead and reveal I have this little
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halo thing going on over here and the
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light is bouncing off the top of my head
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so in the next few weeks you're going to
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see me experimenting with lights anyways
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today's topic is lifestyle and we're
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asking the question how do you want to
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design your life from this day forth and
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I'm really happy to invite our special
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guest on today and I'm going to bring
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her on in a second after I introduce her
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her name is Darla Claire she is a
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lifestyle architect I love that I love
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the name lifestyle architect and success
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coach with certifications in timeline
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therapy hypnotherapy and NLP life
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coaching she's an entrepreneur with over
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30 years working in the business and she
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is passionate about inspiring women
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entrepreneurs and teenage girls on the
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journey of self-discovery lifestyle
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solutions and success strategies for
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peace passion and prosperity and so I
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bring in Darla welcome to the show
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thank you Karen so I'm going to go ahead
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and put some comments up here we've got
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some well let's see we've got a happy
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Thursday from Roy
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happy Thursday to you Roy and again we
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want to encourage you to comment in
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there because I'm going to throw your
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comments up here so let's just just jump
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right in the question is how do you want
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to design your life from this day forth
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so it's a question just big for me to
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ask can we actually design our life
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absolutely one of the things that I
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think that happens well most people
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don't even give much thought about
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designing or even lifestyle that was a
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big question for me it's like I didn't
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even think about having a lot of certain
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lifestyle I was just living my life and
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the way it was and then I had a couple
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of big events that happened to me and I
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had to make some new choices and it's
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like what am I going to do and one of
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the things that really had an impact on
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me with which book that was has been out
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for quite a while is before our work
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week with Tim Ferriss oh and love that
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book and I was like oh my gosh what what
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am I have I been doing all this year and
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I've been working or you know raising a
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family just whatever it was and not
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giving any thought to what I wanted to
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do you know and but until I was thrown
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into I had to make some big decisions
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because I got a divorce and in my 50s
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and all of a sudden without a parachute
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having to design a life and and so we
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can we can't design a life I'm proof of
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it
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designing a great lifestyle and not just
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settle not settling for the norm I love
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that so I mean what are some of the
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roadblocks that you think we get hit at
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as as we get older and what do we do
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when we hit the roadblocks
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well the biggest roadblock is our mind
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right 100% is some the way we think and
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what we've been taught and especially
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when you get older and I had to deal
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with the same things like well now on
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too old to get a job or I'm too old for
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somebody to want my services and and
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things like that but you know what
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it's all in our mindset so one of the
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things I have people do is actually
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think about it's kind of like doing any
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motions take the temperature of your
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emotions where are you with your
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emotions what could possibly be stopping
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you from doing the things that you want
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to do and the main five emotions that
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people have that they can maneuver their
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lives around because they don't want to
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deal with them or it lets them affect
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their businesses and what it is that
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they want to do if you don't fear there
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are all sorts of all kinds of fear anger
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hurt sadness sorrow guilt those things
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and limiting and the big one is limiting
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belief about our age and frankly when we
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have the right mindset there's really H
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really doesn't even isn't a faster
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anymore right now it doesn't it's not a
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factor I think that's that's such an
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important important fact that you're
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stating and Nancy Ferrari says amazing
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how big decisions can push us out of our
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comfort zone and then not setting for
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the normal thank you for sharing we are
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never too old and I'm good yeah I'm
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going to put one more comment up because
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they're great it's called thinking
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thinking and jump in the trunk I love it
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I love the trunk in the trunk no
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absolutely and the thinking thinking and
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and the feeling that we're too old you
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know those are so common for people but
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the good news is is that we can we can
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change our mindset it's pretty easy and
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it's and then it's just believing that
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you can have the life that you want
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maybe and I know that for myself I don't
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have the same wants that I wanted 20
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years ago are the same values that I had
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20 years ago might as we get older just
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certain things are more important than
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they used to be so and the key is not to
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beat yourself up and just start actually
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just thinking about it what what kind of
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lifestyle would you like I don't want to
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go skydiving anymore but I would love to
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go to a tea I would go to a trip to
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Italy and right now to where the
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vineyards for Mexico go ahead Mexico
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that's coming up this week for me so
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yeah so if there's kids there if there
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some trick that you can just share with
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the viewers right
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now something that right now they can do
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in terms of their mindset in designing
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their life well one of the things is
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actually just even what I mentioned is
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to kind of take a temperature or I just
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kind of be mindful and think about what
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how do you feel about things it's like
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what what are you telling yourself that
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you can or can't do so if you if you're
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saying well you know I'm in my 50s
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online my 50s and I want to take a
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holiday but I don't know how I can do it
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you know I can't do it when you start
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telling yourself you can't that's where
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just start taking note of your self-talk
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because that's what that's the beginning
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of being able to change and being able
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to design a life that you want and and
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just like don't settle for being just
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the way things are if you have a passion
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or if there's something that you want to
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do start doing it just you can just
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taking steps one step at a time and
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start doing it and it's amazing what can
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happen when we you know and I don't
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actually think that affirmations really
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help too well so if you've got something
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a fear that's been with you or something
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that's been with you for a really long
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time and some people say go ahead and
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push yourself through it we use that
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fear to push I don't like to use
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anything negative to push me I want to
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have my picture out there in front that
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I'm going after and then it happens but
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when we let think- push us it's pretty
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temporary you know so that's but being
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mindful about how we're thinking and
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just getting to know yourself a lot of
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people just go through life and they
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really don't they believe everything
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they think and question questions your
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limiting beliefs that you have so let's
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ask our viewers even it either on replay
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or later on work that is later on right
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replay is later on is now or replay what
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are you settling for what are you having
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limiting belief that maybe you were
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stopping yourself from moving forward go
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ahead and put them in the comments over
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there because I'd love to hear
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and I'm sure that Darla would love to
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hear it as well so I know you have a
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program that's that you have coming up
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right yes well I'm actually in the
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process of writing up doing an online
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program it's my first one and there's
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just like the the limiting beliefs that
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we have now two years ago or a year even
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a year ago I would not have believed
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that I could do it right yeah you know
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it's like we know what I think I'm
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pretty sure I can do it so I'm working
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on an online program it's called
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it's my signature program is called The
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Saboteur muse project and what it does
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it takes that negative self-talk that we
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have and we turn it so it's not it stops
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there's no negative self-talk anymore we
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and then we end up then with the news
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going after what we want so it's a it's
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it's a project but really basically it's
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a life skills and and that's the one I
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do with teenage girls as well too
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boy would have been nice if I would have
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known how to I got the negative
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self-talk when I was you know you have
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much younger so that's what I'm doing
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and I'm also in the process of writing
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the book saboteur music project I love I
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love it and they can find out more about
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that on your website Darla - Claire comm
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and they can follow you on twitter at I
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love this I can just throw these things
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up they can follow you on twitter at
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committed living and also on facebook at
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your lifestyle architect so tell me a
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little bit out of these the architects
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the word architect come into play on
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your brand I love that oh well this is a
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story from when I was a little girl my
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my father was a custom home builder and
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I would sit on in his lap when he was
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drawing plans it not only helped me to
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visualize but it also he taught me a
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little bit about life and so when we're
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going I was sitting on his lap while
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he's making these plans as an architect
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would I wanted to skip through the
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foundation right I thought was boring to
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me I wanted to get right to the pretty
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house and he made it really clear to me
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that the foundation was the most
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important part and so when I was coming
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up with what I wanted to call myself
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with my work
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it was like architect we need to have a
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strong foundation in our minds you know
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otherwise it's going to crumble it's not
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going to we're not going to be able to
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get to where we want to go so and I'm
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became all about lifestyle once I
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realized so I could have a lifestyle
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right and create my own so lifestyle
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architect that's where it came from
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my dad and you know your students as
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yourself you actually are your own
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student which is which is pretty amazing
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because how many people have you run
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into that talk the talk but don't I know
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that's the problem a lot of people don't
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actually walk the walk right and break
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grass their talk so till that part of it
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that's awesome
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um and Alison's letter says affirmations
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don't work unless or until you align
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your inner vibration inner vibration can
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be witnessed via your active emotional
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state what do you think absolutely
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absolutely I'm all about our emotions
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and our emotions all come out the our
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energy vibes that we're putting out and
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so one of the things that I had to do I
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had to tap into a time in my life that I
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had a fabulous fabulous winds and I was
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on fire so I got into that memory but
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what I did was then I went to how was I
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feeling cuz I know where emotions we are
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like these little energy batteries or
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whatever we're emitting right our
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emotions and then we get that back so
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whatever we're emitting if we're in
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Munich emitting negative stuff or that
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we think we can't do that's what we get
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back that's what get reflects back to us
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so I practice everyday or mindful every
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day throughout the day how my body is
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feeling you know what oh yeah how my
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physical emotions are coming out so and
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it makes a big difference on what you
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attract and what you can do yeah so
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again we ask our viewers and whether
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it's now or later on how do you want to
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design your life from this day on go
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ahead and put your comments in there I
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want to thank you darling for being on
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with us today again letting people know
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how to get in touch with you they go to
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Darla - Claire comm they can
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follow you on twitter and of course come
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and visit me as a little white lie
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check us out we've got so many great
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things going on you guys are awesome
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you're commenting on the post which I
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love because it gives me a chance to
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learn more about you and don't forget
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Darla's thank you again for being with
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us and our viewers we know that you have
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a choice as to where you spend your time
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I want to thank you for spending time
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with Darla and I today we are very
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appreciative and we'll see you next week
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on the next episode up the little white
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