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Sep 6, 2017
I invite you to set up time with me by filling out the form below: http://www.ConnectWithCaren.com On this #LittleWhiteLie Caren talks with Lifestyle Architect Success coach Darla Claire. The question is: Ok, I've Designed my life, now what? www.TheLittleWhiteLie.com My Direct Links, Programs & Equipment I use for my Shows & Promotion: BeLive: http://bit.ly/3p7E0DB Get Your Book In Front Of Thousands of Potential Buyers! https://bit.ly/2HJ38Qu Logitech HD Pro Webcam: https://amzn.to/362BuXP Wired Earbuds with Microphone: http://amzn.to/3p1pmOi Lavalier Lapel Microphone: http://amzn.to/3p9EFVo Blue Yeti USB Mic: https://amzn.to/395hExi ATR2100-USB Cardioid Dynamic Microphone: http://amzn.to/3qzEy5A LED Video Light Kit: http://amzn.to/360Qg1w Neewer Ring Light Kit: http://amzn.to/392bON2 (Some links on this video page may be affiliate links that can result in small commissions & help support the channel, they DO NOT cause you to pay any extra money for an item)
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welcome to the little white lie digital
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network with Karen Glasser the little
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white lie is all about the lies that we
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over the place okay so today today we
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are asking the question okay I've
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designed my life now what great question
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and we're doing this question cuz I have
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a repeat guest she's back again her name
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is Darla Claire and she's a lifestyle
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architect and success coach with
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certifications in timeline therapy
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hypnotherapy and NLP life coaching Darla
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joined us a several months ago and I
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invited her to come back and join us
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because we had so many people that got
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engaged in this conversation that I knew
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we had to bring her back so without
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further ado welcome Darla how are you
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doing today
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I am great Karen thank you so much for
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having feedback on the show well you
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know what you're back by popular demand
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because literally I was getting requests
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bring Darla back so Darla is back and
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I'm really excited because of the topic
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but Before we jump into the topic I'd
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like to ask everybody on the show what
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is your little white lie so take it away
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Darla thanks Karen
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yeah this is an interesting question I
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wasn't really prepared for this but you
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know what I had a few years back I went
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through a divorce and my little white
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lie was I didn't want anybody to realize
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or even think about me missing a beat as
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far as my life file was concerned and
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the problem with that was is that I
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wasn't sharing with my tribe or certain
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people and so I've learned since then
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just to share and be totally authentic
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because people could see that you're
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struggling anyway right so that was my
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little white lie that I was trying to
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hide and you know what I'm so happy that
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I've come out of that closet so to speak
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without you know I so totally understand
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that so many of us we for whatever
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reason we get embarrassed or we think
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that it makes us look less than or
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whatever it is you are not alone in that
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I know that for a fact has I did that as
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well
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same topic same subject so the question
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that we're doing I'm gonna put it up on
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the screen okay
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I've designed my life now what so Darla
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you know we talked about designing our
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life last time and a lot of people are
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like that's a great topic but what do we
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do how do we do this so now what well I
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mean that's this is a topic that comes
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up a lot a lot of people they will
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design their life they'll put it out
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there what it is that they want to do
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and but there's a lot of people don't
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think about how to really succeed in
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getting to that place where you want to
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succeed and one of the things that I do
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is I help my clients to remove those
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things that can become roadblocks or
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barriers to them succeeding and that
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100% well maybe not 100% but the big
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deal is how we perceive things right so
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if we perceive something that happened
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in our past because of something that
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happened in our past or handed down
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generationally or whatever that could be
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limiting us like a limiting belief
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honestly there's tons of limiting
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beliefs about money especially if you're
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designing your life right and we can get
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a new perspective on what happened or
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where we picked up those beliefs from
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our past it will completely change your
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future so that's one of the big things
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is to take some inventory on what those
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things could be that could be holding
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you back or that that you might have in
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your in your subconscious mind and
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definitely in your conscious mind that
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can be holding you back and then take
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some steps to change your perception
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about that well so that's obviously the
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next question can you give us a couple
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of steps that somebody just stepping
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into this what kind of steps can they
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take well part of it is doing it like an
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inventory right I mean so I say I
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actually use a hypnotherapize type of
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practice for my clients to help to
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facilitate it really quickly but
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honestly we can do it ourselves by just
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you can just write it down what it is
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when this happened and kind of put
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yourself in the observer mode instead of
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being emotional about it and look at it
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as as your as if your watch you're
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looking at it from somebody else's
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perspective and and then you can write
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down this right jot down anything that
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you find that by what you can learn from
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that what can I learn from that event
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that happened to me say when I was 12
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years old about money I'm just gonna
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throw that out there 12 years old about
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money what can I learn about that what
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the things that I had been taught was
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that really true as maybe it was true
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for somebody else but it was really true
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for me and and even if it is true for me
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what can I do to change that you know
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what could I do to change that so just
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going you got to go deep sometimes
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and weight and meditation works great to
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get those answers from our source or
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from our higher self and get those
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answers and the and the answers that we
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should be getting is only only for you
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personally it's not about anybody else
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no matter who else is involved not mom
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and dad's fault it's not you know my
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ex's fault nobody else's fault but the
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learnings are good for you and they're
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only they're positive learning so only
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positive things for your future that you
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can carry those into your future gives
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you a new perspective perspective on
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things and honestly there's like for
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money we're just saying talking about
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that right now there's more than enough
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money to go around in the world there's
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more than enough for everybody
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so that's that's a real good tip to get
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me moving so you don't have those
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roadblocks love it Joey says identifying
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the story is key and helps to release
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perfect absolutely so let's say I carve
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it are people that are watching right
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now as you as you are designing your own
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life what are you what are those steps
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that you're taking why don't you go
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ahead and put them down there and we'll
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put some of these up on the screen if
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you if you do put them on there and we
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can you know talk about that so what
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about the roadblocks because there are
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always going to be roadblocks and we do
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it to ourselves and you talked a little
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bit about the mindset and you know we do
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put these roadblocks up so do we just
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say we know it's a roadblock it's there
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acknowledge it and step over what do you
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will up well I for I think it's really
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important I'm a strong believer in this
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to be to have what it is you're designed
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your life what it is that you want to do
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is to focus on your game your end game
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right don't look don't focus on the
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things that are behind you you I don't
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believe in being pushed by fear or
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pushed by negative I believe strongly in
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being pulled by those things that we
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want and it's just a tweak of our mind
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to go yes I'm gonna focus on what I want
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versus being focused on what I don't
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want anymore
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you know it's interesting you brought up
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the theater word and I would venture to
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guess
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that there are a lot of us that are
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watching a lot of us that are here right
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in the screen that fear sometimes rears
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its ugly head and it just it stops it
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stops me in my tracks I mean it actually
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I can feel it in my body I can feel it
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in my stomach because that's where I
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feel my fear I am sure I mean ladies and
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gentlemen who are watching right now how
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many of you have to face your fear and
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how are you facing your fear Nancy says
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step aside from a roadblock as if a
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meteor was coming your way
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amen love that and love love that what
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we've got we've got a lot of comments
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coming in I'm just gonna put some of
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them up because you know I can so we got
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Kathleen who see she's looking forward
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to the show today Thank You Kathleen we
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appreciate it and the magazine which
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brings me into the magazine because one
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of our featured guests in the premiere
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issue of the little white life digital
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magazine is you Darla I am so excited
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that you're going to be in this magazine
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you're amongst some amazing people you
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of course are amazing and we want people
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we want you guys out there to go and
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subscribe it's we're not gonna spam you
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we're not gonna overwhelm you with a
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bunch of crap we really aren't so go
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over there go to little white light com
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sign up and you'll get the premier issue
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you're gonna see and you know you're
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gonna see a great show with Darla you're
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gonna see from I'm not even gonna
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mention the other people until I
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mentioned the other people and I also
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want you to put on your calendar October
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4th
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because that is actually the launch of
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the premiere issue and we're gonna do a
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live show with everyone that's in the
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magazine everyone's gonna be joining
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together and we're gonna talk about
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what's in the magazine and I do want to
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give a shout out to Joey Garrity because
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she is well you know she's awesome she's
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our Hollywood insider and she is really
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helping to get the word out so we are
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relying on all of you to help us get the
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word out as well so some of you I'm sure
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are wondering how do I get in touch with
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Darla because she's an awesome awesome
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woman well you can just go over to her
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website - Darla - Claire comm and you
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can connect with her hair there
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can also go to LinkedIn Darla Claire and
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if you want to go check her out in
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Instagram she's got a really cool
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Instagram account I follow her and I
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want you to check her out as well
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you're gonna go to Darla Claire
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underscore lifestyle architect I love
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that by the way let's stop for a second
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how do you define a lifestyle architect
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what does that mean to you well you know
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for me it's actually being conscious
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about designing my life and building it
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in such a way of how I want to go before
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earlier in my life and many many people
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I know they don't even they let life
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happen to them yeah instead of designing
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it and when we design it that's when
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there's so much juice and like when we
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design it and we see that we're getting
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those things that we wanted it's so
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exciting to be able to say hey this is
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what I want in life and watch it unfold
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before you it's really exciting and it
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makes you know makes life worth living
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so I think it's really important to
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design our lives and and that's what
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makes you uniquely qualified to be
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having this conversation because that is
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who and what you are you can also follow
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Darla at Twitter at committed living I
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would normally say I should be committed
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but I'm not going to say that and I'm
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going to go ahead and put the link back
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up for the website we have some people
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requesting how do you find the link to
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the digital magazine you're not gonna
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find the link what you're gonna find is
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a forum just to put your name and email
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in so that when the magazine comes out
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on October 4th you will get that
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magazine sent directly to you any last
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thoughts Darla on this whole you know
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now what now that we're doing this now
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what any last thoughts well I just you
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don't want to say that we can all create
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the life that we want to and if you want
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any if you want help to make those mind
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changes the way you perceive events
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negative emotions limiting beliefs
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contact me I have a you know free 30
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minutes the complimentary Discovery call
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so we can get pin print what it is you
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need quickly to get done and can they
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says that through your website Darla -
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Claire well actually the best one I do
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most of my work on Facebook so it's
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Facebook you're like you're nice there
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it goes I put it up there awesome and
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Joey just wants everyone to know and
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this is a great you know recommendation
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because when when people who have
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already experienced you
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we seem to have some technical
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difficulties we all dropped out I'm
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hoping that Darla will come back in
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before we say goodbye but again thank
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you so much for joining us today we know
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that you have a choice as to where you
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spend your time and we are forever
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grateful that you decided to spend your
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time with us so go out and give somebody
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an awesome day and we will see you next
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time on the little white line goodbye
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everyone
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