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minding your mental health I'm here with
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my son and co-host Rob Glasser good
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morning Rob how are you I'm doing pretty
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good how about you I'm doing great so we
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talk about topics that shape mental
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health today we teach the importance of
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inclusion and share why we should be
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kind so whether you're here live or on
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replay let us know where you are tuning
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in from because we love you today we are
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talking about revamping our selves and
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our lives and so Rob what do you have
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for us
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give me a second I am organizing ha that
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sounded funnier in my head but okay we
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are talking about some skills that are
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going to help you pay off uh big time in
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the future or even right now just want
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to give people a heads up we are going
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to do more interactive so coming soon as
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we go you'll notice some more activities
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some more tags and some more selling as
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well so you have to kind of stick around
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and see what we're going to do because
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we kind of throw that in at the end so
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there it is I just want to throw that
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out there
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first one um of our day these are six
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difficult skills that pay off forever
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and this comes from the medium I
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apologize my voice went out earlier so
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I'm limiting my excitement right now
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number one manage your time uh this is
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where routine and planning comes in it's
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always the hardest thing to do but if
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you can get yourself in a habit and do
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that habit for
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regular daily time frame you are
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managing your time better
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um what managing your time is going to
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mean will Define depend on you however
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if you get yourself a good schedule
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planner whatever you should be able to
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manage number two empathy
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the Dalai Lama says only the development
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of compassion understanding for others
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can bring us the tranquility and
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happiness we all seek gotta love that
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guy if you can learn what it means to
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understand and feel for somebody else
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you too will find the compassion and
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understanding in yourself how does that
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help you in the long run well if you can
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care you can do the more you care the
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more you do the more you know you know
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it sort of seem to like you know do unto
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others as you would like to be done onto
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you it sort of has that same flavor
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right
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um I'm kind of that's what I'm getting
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out of that right now and number three
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positive self-talk
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you're going to empathize for somebody
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else why not do it for yourself as well
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give yourself those positive notes pat
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yourself on the back give yourself a
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high five make sure that you know when
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you do something well or at least tried
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you get that motivation
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number four positive talk it comes with
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honesty you can't be positive
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or honest without the other
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truthfulness
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I don't know why I said that
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truthfulness comes when you actually can
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be open I think it was Mark Twain that
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said if you don't have a lie you won't
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have to remember a single thing so true
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true Mr Twain you don't have to remember
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if you don't have a lie to tell right
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number five focus on the present this
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quote from the Buddha says do not dwell
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in the past do not dream of the future
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concentrate your mind on the present
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moment just as Buddhism and other
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similar religions say focus on what
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you're doing now because that's really
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what's more important you'll get to
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where you want to go you did what you
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had to do why not focus on this minute
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this moment right now
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lastly they say discipline and
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consistency the hardest of the six
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but if you can make yourself get a
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routine if you can learn to empathize if
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you can learn to be honest and speak
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well and positively
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you've already gone the discipline you
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just probably don't know it and the more
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you do
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well
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the better they're gonna feel I think
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it's the hardest one on that list right
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consistency I think that is the biggest
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challenge a lot of us have and um I
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think if we can nail that everything
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else will flow
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very very perfectly said
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now you can't just have the positive
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non-physical skills though I guess some
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of these organizational skills might not
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be physical either
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but apartmenttherapy.com has six things
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to do that all productive and
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highly paid people do
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number one they make lists lists lists
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lists I make less about lists just about
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lists
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um I have a list on my phone and what
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I'm going to talk about I'm upcoming
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videos when we go grocery shopping we
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kind of make a list but you know the
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list is on the screen now so you just
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get to click
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um chores you got to figure out what
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you're doing that day right well
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making a list means you are focusing on
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the specific tasks you might have other
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stuff to do but why not just do a few
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things get them out of the way move on
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to the next well I would even suggest
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having your master list and each day go
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into that Master list and grab a few
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things that you want to get done don't
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you know don't you always have to be an
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overachiever and get all the things on
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your list done just pick a few and put
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them down for that day and you'll be
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much more productive that way
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and next review it because you haven't
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already looked at it multiple times look
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at it once more
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they make sure that what they're doing
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is important they're Crossing off what's
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getting done
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and they more or less have a flow to it
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you do the things in the morning that
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makes sense followed by the afternoon
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well into the evening
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pretty simple right number three hey
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they make their bed I don't know how
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many times we really have to say this we
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have said that multiple times 74 in the
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morning bed makers are happier
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82 percent feel more productive
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I think those numbers speak for
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themselves make your bed takes you all
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with 30 seconds come on number four
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tackle the little things
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um immediately
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people who are in the big business they
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got lots of stuff to do they don't have
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time to maybe gritty pick all that stuff
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so do the little things put away your
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dishes open the mail
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throw out the meal because it's probably
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spam uh pick up some garbage
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um I don't know wash a window whatever
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it is do the little things that take you
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two three minutes and you're done
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guess what you have more time for the
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bigger stuff
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number five they have a landing strip
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everywhere you go you have a place to
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end up they actually use the character
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Monica Geller from friends had that
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secret disorganized closet you all
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remember that episode where they opened
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the door and all the crop falls out well
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that's kind of your Landing Strip now
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you don't necessarily want something
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messy and gross but the idea is you have
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a little safe place to go if you want to
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have your little secret compartment of
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goodies go for it it's your way to bring
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you back to well
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the focus so that way when you are out
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and about doing your things you have
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something to come back to maybe give
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yourself a chocolate for doing such a
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good job
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number six
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let things go again the last thing on
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the list is always the hardest right
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right right this is one of those to each
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their own choices there are things you
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don't want to let go for personal if
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effective reasons however there are
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things that you should let go because
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they probably don't do any well in terms
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of business and let's say technology if
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you screw up once or twice forget about
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it I was going to try to do that voice
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but I can't do that uh The Sopranos
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thing
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um forget about it there you go but if
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you're going to hold on to the things do
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the things that are going to be helpful
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for the future of what you're doing
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um but yeah those are
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again pretty self-explanatory doings
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that anybody can get done and you'll
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notice that these are kind of like
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obscure ideas they're not physical pen
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and paper other than the listing so so
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far we have six skills that will pay off
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and six things that all organized people
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do
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so we figure we're going to follow it up
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with seven tips to stay focused huh we
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got you there didn't we
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focusing is always hard and I will take
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it from me I I guess I can speak for you
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when it comes to the add focusing is not
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your friend but health.com has seven
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ways to help you
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actually according to the experts now
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these are articles written by
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um bloggers but medically reviewed by
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doctors therapists and others
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number one create the distraction free
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environment
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when I'm in the office
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or theoretically even in the bedroom per
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se you only have stuff that you need for
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the time now we do have her phone in
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there as an alarm
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but it's not used for much of anything
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else in the office same thing I keep out
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the things that really have no purpose
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that would distract me and only keep the
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stuff I do
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leave your things that you need in the
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TV room in the game room outside those
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are the places you might not need to be
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distraction free because that's where
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you're already going to be doing it but
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again to each their own of how you do it
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if you are somebody who uses the phone
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24 7 for work
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keep it in your office I get it if
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you're like me and I really just need my
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computer
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I don't need the phone
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yeah personal preference
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number two break down big things into
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bite size as Hometown says it how do you
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eat a whale one bite at a time do things
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in a order that's going to make it easy
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for you to do
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if it turns out the big thing wasn't so
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big
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golf platform yeah but more often than
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not you will probably have one of those
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business plans or assignments I look at
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Christmas plate that's going to take you
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probably a month so break it down do a
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little bit each day by the end of the
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month end of the week whatever you're
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going to realize you've gotten sixty
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percent of it done right it's not so big
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anymore right you've you've chunked it
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down we do it all the time here
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schedule short timeouts put yourself in
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the corner give yourself a few minutes
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to relax
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this could be reading watching TV uh
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watching a video whatever it is you want
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to do
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um
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and do it you know they say give
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yourself five minutes I say give
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yourself whatever time you really need
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if you need 15 minutes to to relax go
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take it throw it into your schedule
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build it into your schedule that you
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know that every time after a certain
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amount of time you're going to get up
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and you're gonna distract yourself go do
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something else and I'll tell you like if
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we're getting ready for something and
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I'm like hey I just need five minutes
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too and I'll be right on the computer
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I'll tell you that it's just kind of a
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way to get set in the in the zone and
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ready to go it's not a bad thing if you
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need more time to prep it just means you
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know take those times use that time and
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make it Worthy
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start a meditation practice
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or have I heard this before so we do it
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here twice a day you do it a couple
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times I know as well
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it could be however you want to do it
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video audio maybe you just sit in a
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stare but give yourself some
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noise free
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backdrop time you know pretend you're in
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the green screen pretend you're in the
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whatever just just sit and just do
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nothing veg I call it veg to sit and
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vegging vegging out there you go forever
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long you can do it because honestly I'm
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not going to give you a time because I
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can't always do it
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Get Physical
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exercise
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um
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walking the dog
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building something hey I mean no wonder
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construction workers are in such good
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shape they're out there lifting crop
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loads of whatever do something to get
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your mind and body working jogging
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walking gym session whatever it is
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physicality is going to help you feel
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better and you know it's going to keep
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you more focused
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what's next we have schedule activities
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when you're more alert well
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okay
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I don't know what else to say there but
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if you do better at certain times of the
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day do your big important things
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at that time of the day and I think the
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best way to figure that out is to
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basically track yourselves for several
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days and say okay I know what time I get
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up you know do I tend to be more awake
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at this point and whatever figure out
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because you know don't what's good for
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Rob may not be good for me and it may
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not be good for you and vice versa so
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figure out but the only way you're going
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to figure it out is to actually track
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what you've been doing for a little
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while and then it'll be obvious I do
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much better you know for instance I do
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much better at six in the morning than I
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do at two in the afternoon why because
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I've been up since four and two o'clock
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rolls around and it's time for bed so I
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know what my timing is I know when I
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need to take a nap I need when I get up
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and take a walk so I'm sure you're the
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same way rob you know exactly when your
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better times are yes definitely lastly
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eat those foods that boost cognition
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other than eating balanced meals
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throughout the day make sure to always
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include fruits and vegetables protein
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sources like grains seeds and nuts and
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you might actually find out you like
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them
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um we eat those uh Ritz and cheese
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crackers Sometimes they come from Costco
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pretty good snack pretty yummy uh we
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have fig bars at home figs apparently
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are very good not only for the body but
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also for the brain as well so again
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it's simple things doesn't take too much
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effort to do and
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you know you'll probably kind of never
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know when I'll be more alert I'm pretty
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happy yeah make yourself lots of
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different reason right there that's for
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that's for another show but yeah let me
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put this up here yeah hold on
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oh Christa I'm sorry
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trust me yes
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what I do is I make Trails so I I know
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that almonds are good for us and
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pistachios and raisins and cram you know
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Craisins and things like that I will
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make
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um like a bowl of Trail Mix and I'll
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take a handful of that because I know
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everything that's in there oh maybe some
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chocolate chips too but everything
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that's in there is good for me and it's
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a really healthy snack and it's got
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protein and it's got you know fiber and
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it's got natural sugar all that good
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stuff so that's a really good thing to
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have around uh to keep yourself healthy
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all right so I'm passing over to you now
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but our Tad influencer of the show is
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Miss Marie kondo so what do we got from
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her Okay so I'm going to go ahead and
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bring this up right now
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um if you're not familiar with Marie
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kondo
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um she started this gosh this trend and
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she talks about things that bring you
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Joy and that
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um so this is her very first book that
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she that she came out with it was called
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the life-changing magic of tidying up
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she's got several books out there what's
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really great about this is she really
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encourages people to touch to feel and
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do all those amazing things that um you
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know that makes that remind you why you
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like things and why why things make you
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happy and so when you are becoming more
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minimalistic and when you're cleaning
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out your closets and when you're
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cleaning out your kitchen drawers what
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she suggests you do and I you know I'm
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not sure that I do the whole thing but
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she'll say take it out hold it how does
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it make you feel does it bring you Joy
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now
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I can see where maybe an item of
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clothing that remember you know I
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remember wearing it and there's a memory
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I'm not sure that if I bring out a um a
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wooden spoon out of my kitchen whether I
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should keep it or not whether that
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wooden spoon brings me joy so do what
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works for you but the whole concept
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behind is to keep the things that really
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make you happy so I encourage you to go
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check out a list of items that we put
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together on all about Marie kondo I'm
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putting the link up here right now it
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has all of the books that she's done
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she's got five different books out I
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really suggest you to go take a look at
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it
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um even if it's just to bring a smile to
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your face because again I'm not sure
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that everyone is going to you know buy
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into this that it that you touch it and
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it brings you Joy but it's certainly
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another way to look at
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um creating a minimalistic life so I I
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kind of like that I have the book I
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can't honestly say that I've gone
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through the entire house and said hmm
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does this bring me joy but again it's
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another way
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um to revamp yourself and again it's a
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big we're getting ready for the new year
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right can you believe it's already the
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New Year up oh my gosh so that's why
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we're doing shows like this right now is
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to kind of get you maybe disrupt what
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you're doing in the moment and um do
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something different next year so any
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last thoughts Rob that you have before
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we say goodbye to everyone
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I know I just recommend go grab a couple
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copies of the books
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um
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yeah and as we always do we want to give
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you some resources go to NIMH that's the
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National Institute of Mental Health the
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link is there go check out Nami the
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National Alliance of mental health the
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link is there and again
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um and I'm going to bring this up we do
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this every week 988 is that number that
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you call is it called the short code
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it's like calling 9-1-1 for emergencies
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but 988 is from mental health emergency
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so go ahead and dial that number if
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you're needing some help right now if
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you've never heard of that before we're
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glad that we're able to give you that
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resource
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um go out give somebody an awesome day
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we have one more show this week that
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we're going to be doing together Rob and
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I will be joining you again on Friday
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right before the new year so come and
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join us tell your friends bring them on
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over because we love you so again go out
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and give somebody an awesome day and
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we'll see you next time goodbye everyone