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S2:E5 Time to Come Clean - The Lies We Tell Ourselves
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Jul 18, 2019
Caren Glasser talks with founder of Living Live Lynda West on this episode of The Little White Lie! #superboomer http://www.TheSuperBoomerLifestyle.com My Direct Links, Programs & Equipment I use for my Shows & Promotion: BeLive: http://bit.ly/3p7E0DB Get Your Book In Front Of Thousands of Potential Buyers! https://bit.ly/2HJ38Qu Logitech HD Pro Webcam: https://amzn.to/362BuXP Wired Earbuds with Microphone: http://amzn.to/3p1pmOi Lavalier Lapel Microphone: http://amzn.to/3p9EFVo Blue Yeti USB Mic: https://amzn.to/395hExi ATR2100-USB Cardioid Dynamic Microphone: http://amzn.to/3qzEy5A LED Video Light Kit: http://amzn.to/360Qg1w Neewer Ring Light Kit: http://amzn.to/392bON2 (Some links on this video page may be affiliate links that can result in small commissions & help support the channel, they DO NOT cause you to pay any extra money for an item)
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time to come clean the lies we tell
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ourselves and others I discuss this and
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more with my very special guest
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chameleon preneur Linda West on today's
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episode of the little white lie
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hello everyone Karin glass are here I'm
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your livestream host and we have a great
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show for you today welcome to the little
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white lie this is a lifestyle show for
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super boomers and beyond that will
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enhance your lifestyle health
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empowerment and more we have an amazing
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show today guys I am really excited
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about the guests that I'm gonna be
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bringing on in just a moment her name is
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Linda West and she is a chameleon
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preneur as I said I love that word
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chameleon preneur I had to practice at
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several times to make sure I said it
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properly she is the creator of living
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live TV and after working in the
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corporate arena for over 36 years at the
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age of 51
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Linda jumped into the world of
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entrepreneur ISM and as she says you are
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never too old to start and that was back
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in 2014 and she has never looked back
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and she joins us today to tackle the
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topic the lies we tell ourselves so
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without further ado hello miss Linda how
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are you today
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I'm doing great thank you so much Karen
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for having me here I'm so excited to
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talk about this topic I can't wait to
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see what you have in store well I I
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promise not to do anything too shocking
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but we're gonna start right off the bat
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by asking you Linda what is your little
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white lie which one should I tell which
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one should I tell that you know it's
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interesting because I was thinking about
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like little white lie and maybe some
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lies actually they start off as a little
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white lie and then they turn into this
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big lie and that's the one I want to
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share today Ashley is a lie that I had
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been telling not only myself but also my
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husband and it was something that came
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out about money and I was scared to tell
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him about the fact that I was losing
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money in my business because I had this
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fear and I'll tell you what that fear is
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played or when carrier and ask me the
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question I I really love this I mean
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you're being so vulnerable about this
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and I am sure that there are
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a lot of people that are watching the
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show whether they're live or on replay
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that have told that very same lie and
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that they're embarrassed by it or they
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hide it or for whatever reason they
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think they should be doing better and
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they're embarrassed to talk about it so
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we're going to talk about that as well
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and if you have a little white life
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you're watching LIBOR on replay make
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sure you put your little white line
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right down there in the comments and we
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will pop it right up on the screen all
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righty let's see it so we're gonna jump
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in let's jump right into to the lies
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that we tell ourselves so why do you
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think people lie why do you think we lie
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to ourselves well I can't really answer
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for other people Cora myself and one
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thing that I have been doing uh since I
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love my corporate you know in the
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corporate world or this year is I leaped
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entrepreneurship I started on a journey
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of self-discovery I have never taken the
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first 51 years of my life to see who's
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Linda what am I doing here what's my
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purpose and so really as I look back
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through a lot of lies I had been telling
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myself for decades because I had been
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learning my life for others I was a
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people pleaser I spent all my time
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making sure that everybody else was
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happy and I took time from Linda and so
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once I started a journey into
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self-discovery I discovered that there
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are a lot of lies I have been telling
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myself but maybe it's but I love this
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color or I love this job or I love this
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person or I don't like this I you know
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so a lot of lot of little lies that
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rolled into and it ends up being like
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big lies sometimes so what's the danger
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in doing this I mean there there are
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there's a danger in constantly telling
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ourselves lies what's the danger in
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doing this you know I feel that the
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danger in doing that is that it comes
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our reality so it starts off as a little
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lie and we know that's a lie well any
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time you tell any kind of why you know
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it's by and then it comes your reality
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because you start telling the same story
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that lie over and over and over again so
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I'll show what happened in my marriage
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is I got to the point or it was like
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employee and I was I had to tell him
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got to the point after two years of me
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not telling him the truth of what was
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going on that when it came down to I was
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like oh my god it's not going well at
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all I can't hide it anymore so I may
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tell you the story of what I did yes I
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want to know okay inquiry Mele so I had
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a I had kind of like that come-to-jesus
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moment of myself and I said you know
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what I have wrenched the light you know
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got to me it became so real for me that
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I almost did that so then I realized
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that wait a minute what are you doing
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here this is ridiculous at least tell
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him so I just had a moment I said you
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know I need to talk to you and we sat
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down and I said before we got started I
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said let's pray because I wanted to make
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sure that the words the words that came
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on my mouth came out in a way that he
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would be understanding and he was here
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then with an understanding and
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compassion not with anger and seat and
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so so he goes okay so we prayed and then
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first course he asked me he cheating on
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me
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and I said no heck no I'm not cheating
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on you that was his first thought and I
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was like I can handle anything else hold
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him I said I've been lying to you for a
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couple years and I you know the the
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money thing I've been spending money I'm
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not making much money and this is the
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reality this is the truth and he was
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like okay let's work on it let's make
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this let's make this right and what I
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realized in that very moment Karen is
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that if we just would tell the truth
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from the beginning it wouldn't wave off
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into this web of lies oh my gosh and I
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was scared I was scared I wanted to
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divorce him instead of telling him
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because of my fear Wow Wow
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so how many of you have had that same
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exact experience where you made yourself
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actually sick to your stomach and sick
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in body I have I have I I mean I think
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we all have and and I think that it's it
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is nothing to be ashamed of actually I
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think it is it is refreshing and almost
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cathartic to admit it and to come on out
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and say I'm lying but now let's fix it
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let's move forward
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and that's what your husband did so that
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probably was very validating to you it
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was and in addition so it ended up
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helping me to say some other things that
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have been kind of bottled up for years
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and you know one of those was that I
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didn't I didn't feel as if he looking in
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on things now this was actually my own
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fault this wasn't him
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this was something that I felt and so I
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said kay so from this point forward if I
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don't like something I'm gonna tell you
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if I do like something I'm gonna tell
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you and you just have to accept it that
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this is how I feel whether it's good for
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you or bad for you if I don't want to go
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somewhere I'm gonna tell you I don't
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want to go instead of going and being
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there like being so bitter like I wish I
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wasn't here which is what I used to do
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and so he said okay so we had some
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things like have come to a head you know
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but but I say hey you told me that I can
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and you'd not you told me but I told you
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that I need to be able to just voice my
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thought and that's it we don't have I
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love that yeah you know what does the
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things that you lazed it yeah and one of
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the things that I've heard you say on on
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multiple occasions if you are not living
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live you are not living life what does
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that mean for me you know I started this
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that kind of started with doing my
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videos Hill which was about two years
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ago two and a half years ago I started
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doing live videos and I was like you
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know what do you my videos what it's
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done for me is it's really opened up my
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life it's really helped me become more
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confident and because of my confidence
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level and that what you know just
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something so simple as doing like videos
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what it's done for me is helped me to
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live a more rich life it's helped me to
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live my life outwardly it's helped me to
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be more vulnerable so this moment of
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like telling my little lie you know
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that's a vulnerable moment don't ya
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vulnerable moment however I don't see it
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that way because I'm just living my life
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and I just being me I'm being honest and
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open with everything in my life and
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that's what like doing live videos it's
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kind of like what start is that's always
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like if you're not living live you're
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not living life and I totally resonate
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with that as you know I mean I look I
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went I went white I went gray
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on camera live you know and and talk
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about if that's not being vulnerable I
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don't I don't know what is but I
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actually didn't really consider it
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vulnerability except for that very first
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time that I did it was like okay guys
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this is what I look like but after that
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it actually instilled in me some
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confidence that I didn't even know I had
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it it literally set me on fire how about
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you yeah I totally 100% agree with that
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even sometimes you like people take
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selfies and they little get them does
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this one look good does that one you
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know what I take a selfie I post it I
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don't even look at it I figure if if I
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got like this kind of look on you know
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what that's what I looked like in that
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very moment so why why are we so
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judgmental of ourselves well I believe
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is because in society people judge us at
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starting at a young age and then we hold
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on to that that judgment and we allow
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judgment to affect us and that's one
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thing I have learned is that if I can
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just like accept the criticism accept
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the judgment or whatever and then say
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you know what that's not gonna affect me
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then it hasn't touched me and it's such
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a differing different feeling and it's
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very empowering and like I'm powerful
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because you can say whatever you want
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about me right doesn't affect me and it
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just helps to build the confidence level
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so I know that you've had over 49 jobs
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oh my god oh my god so let's talk about
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your why
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what would why would that's a lot of
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jobs I don't even know what yeah I think
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that's a lot of jobs tell us about that
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and what's your wife
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yeah well it's funny because I actually
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counted them because I was being
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interviewed on a show and it was about
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jobs and stuff and I was like you know I
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should just tell how many jobs I had so
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I counted them and I was like dang it I
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should get one more so I can have 50
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yeah so you know I started off when I
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started working my very first job was a
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very short job it was like a summer job
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you know 16 years old and stuff and then
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as I got into the workforce
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I found that I didn't feel appreciated
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not almost air almost every job I've
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ever had
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I felt underappreciated I felt like my
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what I had to share didn't matter it
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didn't count I was able to help people
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save money on the
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help companies save money but they
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didn't listen to me so I would leave I
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would just go to another job go to
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another job and then about 20 24 years
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ago I made my way into the legal field
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where I became a legal secretary and I
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finally felt like oh good this is great
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I have this job I really like it it's a
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lot of fun that people are amazing and
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then about a year and a half later I
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started you know saying hey how about if
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we try this hey how about we try that
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and they always shot me down I'm going
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to another job and I just kept on
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searching for more like somebody who
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would suddenly would just like listen to
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me I just didn't pay attention to you
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right yeah and I validate that I have
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good ideas you know and so really that's
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what it really was stemming from was the
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fact that I felt underappreciated and so
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I would leap to another job and one job
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only one job ever I was on for six years
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and that was because my my boss realized
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that I needed to be constantly
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stimulated and that I need to feel
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appreciated
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so she constantly gave me a new jobs and
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she appreciated me all the time when she
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left after six years I got bored and I
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left mmm yeah okay so and that led to
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your book right that led to the year of
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fears so let's talk a little bit about
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that because I'm actually fascinated by
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this what is the book about and I know I
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I do know what it's about but I'd like
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you to share it with our audience what
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does that mean a year of fears what did
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you actually do well it was in 2000 and
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so first November of 2014 I made the
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leap from my corporate job and I said
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I'm gonna become an entrepreneur but I
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didn't even know what the word meant you
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know so first I was like on this journey
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to I don't know what and what I realized
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in that moment were though is it wasn't
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so much that what I'm going to do but I
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realized that just blow away I'm not
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going to do any more I'm not going to
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work for preciate me I'm no longer going
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to put up with that so I'm gonna start
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this entrepreneurial journey and
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discover what I'm supposed to do I knew
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that I was here to help people at that
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point but I didn't know how so I made my
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elite you know I left the corporate
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world and then it was January 1st at
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2015 I woke up that morning and I said I
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got to do something different
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I don't do New Year's resolutions
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because I have never been able to keep
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them so I decided that this year I'm
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gonna face a fear every day and I'm
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gonna see what it does and see if it
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helps me change my life and so I did so
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every morning I woke up in 2015 and I
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asked myself what scares me with my
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three words every morning what scares me
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and whatever was the very first thing
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that popped into my head that was the
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thing I did that day so I didn't do
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anything crazy I didn't jump out of
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planes I didn't do you know again like
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that
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yeah that's an idea of what some of
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those fears might have been that you did
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okay and and now some people might say
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well that's ridiculous that's not scary
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but to me they were so here's the thing
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reality is that your fears are real for
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you and so nobody can compare your fears
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to them so I had fears so simple as just
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like walking up to people and saying hi
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I'm a very shy person you know even
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though I do these videos and stuff it's
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it's so different than actually walking
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up to a human being
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so I remember this one time in
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particular this is a great one for me is
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that I said this morning okay here what
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I'm scared of is approaching a stranger
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in a coffee shop so I'm gonna approach a
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stranger today in Starbucks and I'm
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gonna have a conversation with them so
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that was my challenge to myself that day
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so I went to the Starbucks and when I
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walked in Everybody was paired up with
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each other nobody was by themselves it
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had to be a stranger by themselves so I
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just waited and waited and then finally
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a gentleman walked in he ordered his
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coffee and he sat down and I was like oh
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my god there he is that's the guy I got
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a code talk dude I was so scared like I
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was probably sweating I was probably
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shaking and so I walked up to him and I
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said excuse me sir I'm facing a fear
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every day yours is taught to talk to a
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stranger do you mind if I have a seat
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for a moment and he was like sure you
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know so I had a seat when we talked we
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talked for like two or three minutes and
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then I said thank you so much you helped
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me through today's fear I really
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appreciate it and I left
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still scared but you did it and and you
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know and just for the you know those of
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you who are watching either on replay or
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live this book is available and we're
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gonna tell you how to get the book in
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the meantime guys if you want to find
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out a little bit more about Linda right
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now if you put if you just put Linda's
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name in the comments
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boom robot is is live today and so boom
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robot will show up and will send you a
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message and give you some links as to
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how to get to know Linda a little bit
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better but in the meantime we're gonna
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just keep on going so what is something
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that people don't know about you well I
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think a lot of people don't know that I
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play bass guitar in a rock band that's
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one of my favorite things I started
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playing bass guitar about seven years
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ago and so we talked about you're never
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too old to start something new so at age
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47 I picked up a bass guitar and I was
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like I want to learn how to play it and
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so you know my husband taught me how to
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play and started playing in a rock band
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that's my favorite what I don't know
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about Linda if he okay well I also know
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that you ran away when you were five so
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I thought that was a brilliant that was
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an interesting for all of us whoever ran
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away from home you didn't just run away
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from home you stayed away for a little
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while didn't you I was gone for an
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entire week and people asked me where
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did you go
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well I only I only went to the
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neighbor's house okay I was gone an
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entire week and here's the things I
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would have stayed gone forever
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had my mom not said okay it's time to
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send Linda home because I grew up in a
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very abusive alcoholic household and it
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wasn't happy there you know I was happy
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at my friend's house and so I went to
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someplace where I was happy I went to my
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happy place which was my neighbor's
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house you know I was gone for an entire
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week yeah and and we're glad you came
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back because you would not be here to
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tell us about this program that you now
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have that you have launched and I'm
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really excited about it that were one of
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the first actually promote this out
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there yeah I'll finish it fast and I'm
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gonna put it up there and yes I know it
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looks silly when I put it up this way
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but let me just show you the program is
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called finish it fast let's talk about
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the program what is this program well
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it's a program that I created you know
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these
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a necessity as the mother of invention
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right now I used to be a tremendous
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procrastinator and I discovered
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throughout my journey this last four
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years why I was procrastinating there
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were many reasons some of it was due to
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fear some of it was because I didn't
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know how to do something some of it was
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because you I judged myself some of it
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was just I didn't want to do it I hated
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it and so I had all these different
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reasons I was procrastinating and I said
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you know what I'm gonna create a program
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or it's like a mastermind type of
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program where we get together once a
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week we meet for three hours and then
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what we do is at the beginning we tell
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what we're gonna get done and then we
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stay with each other and we watch each
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other work for three hours and so at the
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end of three hours we check back in we
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say did you get it done yes I did and
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then we go on with our week the reason I
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did that was because I had been involved
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in so many mastermind programs where we
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get on a call for one hour everybody
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would talk about what they're gonna do
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that week and then nobody would get it
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done no accountability like yeah I was
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not finishing my own stuff let alone
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everybody else so I'm like I'm gonna
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create my own program and I'm gonna make
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it so we finish it fast and so the
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finish it past program was born about
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two and a half years ago and it's a
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great program I finally launched it is a
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paid program I just did it with me and
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my friends I did it for myself it was a
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hundred percent for myself that was why
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I did it but the things I have
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accomplished in the last two-and-a-half
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years are due to that program so it's
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it's been absolutely incredible and so
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my clients also they've done amazing
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stuff with that program so tell us some
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of the things that are gonna happen in
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this program I know it's a a three-month
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it's it can be as longer than three
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months but it's a three month program to
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start out with what are some of the
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things that they're going to get when
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they decide to stop being a
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procrastinator as you say and become an
19:36
action ater it's my own word I'm gonna
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trademark that I think you know action
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ater but what they're gonna get first of
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all is they're gonna finish the stuff
19:47
they've been putting off you how many of
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us have shelf development you know I've
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got these shelves behind me that don't
19:52
have any shelf development on them but
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how often have you attended a seminar a
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webinar a workshop you know an emperor
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and three-day event a five-day event or
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one day whatever that you came home and
20:02
yet all this stuff and you had this
20:04
intention like oh I can't believe this
20:05
is exciting I'm gonna get in there and
20:07
I'm gonna do all this and then my whole
20:08
life is gonna change and then it comes
20:10
the second day and it goes on your
20:12
shopping yeah exactly yeah so that's the
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one thing is this program I'm one of my
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clients the first thing I'll give you
20:19
guys a tip this is a really great tip is
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one of my clients had I told her I said
20:23
I want you to count how many programs
20:25
you actually have on the shelf and she
20:28
had 13 13 programs she paid for that she
20:32
wasn't doing 13 and how many do you have
20:35
I want you guys go check go check and
20:37
see how many you actually have that you
20:39
pay for that are sitting in your inbox
20:41
on your computer we're sitting on your
20:43
shelf at home count them up and they're
20:47
winning right I want you to write down
20:49
the list like actually write down a list
20:50
and then I want you to pour through that
20:53
list and say is this going to help me
20:55
better my business yes or no if the
20:58
answer is no I want you to just throw it
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away don't worry that you spent $1,000
21:04
on it because if you're not using it
21:06
that thousand dollars is weighing you
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down
21:10
and I love addenda sleep so I want you
21:12
just toss it or give it to somebody else
21:14
is gonna let it become shelf development
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for them you know shelf development I
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just love that you've got the coining
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some great phrases here shelf
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development that is that's that's
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awesome
21:24
and I know that we have this program
21:26
available for our listeners and we have
21:28
a special Karen code that when they go
21:32
to boomer lifestyle the boomer lifestyle
21:34
which is the the store it's actually
21:36
sitting in the store right now guys and
21:38
we'll talk a little bit about that but
21:39
if you go there you're gonna click on
21:40
the finish it fast button and you're
21:42
gonna get 10% off just like that
21:44
you're gonna put more jargon just like
21:46
that put my name in there and Thank You
21:49
Linda for giving me that code because
21:50
the quarter even what you're doing and I
21:52
think that we have a lot of
21:54
procrastinators out there you know I on
21:57
occasion have been one but I am much
22:00
more an action ATAR at this point so I
22:01
want people to be like you and me and to
22:03
take action and actually do it so the
22:06
way to go do that is to go to the Boomer
22:08
lifestyle
22:10
right there the bloomer lifestyle calm
22:12
and you'll see very at the very top of
22:13
the page is gonna be Linda's picture you
22:15
can't miss her she's there and then
22:17
there's a little button finish it fast
22:19
you can also pick up her book in there
22:20
as well
22:22
the your fears you can pick up the book
22:23
as well if you'd like to get in touch
22:26
with Linda I'm gonna put some of her
22:28
contact information right now you can go
22:30
check out her website at
22:33
www.lazyguycooking.com
22:44
and you just grew that page of over
22:47
14,000 friends and failures on that page
22:50
already check it out facebook.com
22:52
forward slash living live dot TV and
22:56
finally is that right no the Facebook
22:59
one is Facebook slash living live show
23:03
living live show I oh here we go
23:06
I that's the right one sorry that guy I
23:08
have both their doors put that one
23:10
that's the right one guys also an
23:12
Instagram you can check her out at
23:14
living live TV and on Twitter you can
23:18
check her out at Linda M West on Twitter
23:22
oh my gosh so much information so yes
23:27
let's do some last thoughts what do you
23:28
want to leave the audience with before
23:30
we say goodbye what can you tell them
23:32
right now that's going to just change
23:34
their life right now okay one thing is
23:38
they say that you're a reflection of the
23:39
five people you hang out with the most
23:41
so I want you to look at your your
23:42
people that you're hanging out with and
23:44
see do you like those people if you
23:45
really like those people keep hanging
23:47
out with them but you know what if you
23:48
don't you want to find a different
23:50
circle and that is actually what helped
23:52
me to grow me as personal as a personal
23:55
person as well as grow my business
23:56
because I started hanging out with the
23:58
people who were winners the people who
24:00
were taking action and realized that you
24:03
know I'm actually a reflection of them
24:05
because they're doing it and I'm doing
24:07
it too so just make sure you look at
24:10
your circle see who it is that you're
24:11
hanging out with it do you want to be
24:12
hanging out with those people and
24:14
they're over there you got to go over
24:15
there otherwise it's not going to happen
24:17
so Linda it begs the question I know
24:19
you're hanging out with some pretty
24:21
incredible people right now tell us
24:22
goodnight
24:23
drop a little bit who are you hanging
24:24
out with these days thank you it's kind
24:27
of embarrassing like to name-drop you
24:28
know they worked hard at this name do I
24:33
have I have oh my gosh I had privilege
24:35
you know spending lunch with Jack
24:37
Canfield one day while I was at the
24:39
Academy Awards after-party I was one of
24:42
the correspondents on the floor
24:43
interviewing stars and you know this was
24:46
all because of the circle I hang out
24:48
with Les Brown you know Les Brown called
24:50
me up one day and he's like Linda you're
24:52
a great
24:52
you're a great servant and I want to
24:54
give back to you make sure when I'm in
24:56
town that you meet up with me because
24:57
I'm going to help you learn how to
24:59
leverage me and I'm like you know what
25:01
an incredible incredible man right the
25:04
creator and the co-founder of the
25:06
make-a-wish Foundation Frank shank Woods
25:08
is a dear friend of mine and this is
25:10
because again because of the circle I'm
25:12
in the founder of UGG boots you know
25:14
Brian Smith you know he's a another
25:17
friend of mine he lives actually not far
25:18
from where I am right now and you know
25:21
these people have just all been part of
25:23
my circle I interviewed ex-president of
25:25
Mexico Vicente politiques ago my
25:30
goodness yeah well you know and I wanna
25:33
share what that really quick is because
25:34
you know why these things happened is
25:36
because I learned who Linda is and I
25:38
started living as Linda because prior to
25:40
that again you I was a people pleaser
25:43
and I was always trying to be what other
25:44
people what I thought other people
25:46
wanted me to be so I spent a lot of time
25:48
discovering who is Linda what are my
25:51
likes what are my dislikes and living my
25:53
life as that person the person I really
25:56
am and that's when all these doors
25:58
started opening when I started meeting
26:00
these people when I sat down with Jack
26:01
Kemp build the very first thing I said
26:03
to him was Jack I am NOT here to take
26:05
anything from you I'm here simply to
26:08
spend time with you and so we were at
26:10
lunch for two hours it was absolutely
26:12
I'll tell you this story really I don't
26:13
know as time we have left but just
26:14
really really uncle that story really
26:16
really quick so I'm at the Academy
26:18
Awards after-party and I walk in and
26:20
it's lunchtime everybody was at lunch
26:22
except for Jack and he was talking to a
26:24
couple people so I stood there like I'm
26:27
honking I'm gonna be a picture of it
26:28
Jack Canfield I was so excited you know
26:30
and I was just standing there patiently
26:31
and about three minutes went by when the
26:34
conversation started ending and the
26:36
the people he was talking to went that
26:38
way and Jack turned towards me and he
26:40
said I'm hungry I'm gonna get lunch he
26:44
was just talking to himself but now the
26:46
old the old Linda would have said ah
26:49
darn it I you know I can't get a picture
26:50
with him
26:51
but the Newland I said I grabbed his arm
26:53
and I said I'm gonna take you to lunch
26:55
that's how I got again just like that
26:58
and he's like okay so he went to lunch
27:01
together you know it show the
27:04
opportunity so amazing yes there was
27:07
right there's opportunity there's
27:08
opportunity around us all the time and
27:11
so often we don't see that opportunity
27:14
because we have a closed mind and we're
27:15
not living you know authentically as
27:17
ourselves so my mind said what I really
27:19
want is I want to take him to lunch so I
27:22
took him to lunch here was the fun part
27:24
is I didn't know this because I showed
27:27
up at the event late he had spoken that
27:29
morning and when he spoke they actually
27:32
auctioned him off for $14,000 for lunch
27:36
with Jack Canfield oh my goodness my
27:39
lunch was thirty $38 high five
27:43
girlfriend that is awesome
27:44
that is awesome okay guys you heard it
27:48
here you heard it here first and that is
27:51
you got to face your fears you just have
27:53
to step into it and go check out the
27:55
finish at fast program you can find it
27:57
at the Boomer lifestyle calm Linda thank
28:00
you thank you thank you for being on the
28:01
show today I'm going to drop in here
28:02
ring room as I do some ending pieces of
28:06
the show and I'll talk to you afterwards
28:07
thank you so much hi everybody so now is
28:13
the time that we do the the super Boomer
28:15
moment I'm gonna bring that up I brought
28:17
the wrong card in oops you know this is
28:20
the time that we talk about something
28:21
that really struck me during the show
28:23
and I want to share it with you a
28:25
personal thing that I want to want to
28:27
share with all of you and that is you
28:29
have to stop telling yourself that you
28:31
can't and start telling yourself that
28:33
you can because when you do that when
28:37
you do that the opportunities arrive and
28:39
what a perfect story that Linda told us
28:42
at the end of how she just did it I mean
28:45
she could have turned around and walked
28:46
away but she didn't she faced her
28:48
she walked right into it and said I'm
28:50
taking you to lunch and amazing things
28:53
happen Wow thank you thank you thank you
28:56
you know I want to thank I want to thank
28:58
all of you who are watching today
28:59
whether you're here today live or
29:01
whether you're on replay we know that
29:02
you have a choice as to how to spend
29:04
your time and you chose to spend it with
29:06
me and Linda today we are eternally
29:09
grateful we want to thank you and we
29:10
want you to go out and tell a friend to
29:12
join you next week on the next episode
29:15
of the little white lie good bye
29:18
everyone