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On this episode we tackle the effects of Social Media on our Mental Health. We discuss the evolution of Social Media; How big it has become and the challenges that come along with that. We'll also share some of our favorite tips and social strategies.
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today's episode of minding your mental
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health we talk about mental health the
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importance of inclusion we share why we
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should be kind we hope to see you each
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and every week as we talk about the
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topics that are shaping mental health
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today
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our topic today is about the connection
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between social media and mental health
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so whether you're here live
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or on replay
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let us know where you're tuning in from
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how you doing today rob
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not too bad it hasn't reached 110 yet so
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you are good
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before so
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yeah it's amazing what what becomes okay
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when we say it's only a hundred and it's
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comfortable out there right
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all right um
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we have a this is an important topic
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that we're going to talk about and um
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it's about social media and so we're
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going to start from a historical
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perspective
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so why don't we just jump in and talk
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about um social media and when it
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started i mean
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for those of you who are watching tuning
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in right now and i see we have a couple
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people who are tuning in let us know
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where you're tuning in from
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um when we think when we say social
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media many of us say well that's
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facebook or social media is
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this so rob let's talk about
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historically where where um social media
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started because it didn't just start
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yesterday
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no
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uh well coming at it from a kind of
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hatred against it but i will do the
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kindest i can towards the history um so
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apparently this started back in 1997 so
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do the math
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that is a fairly long time i can't do
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the math so i will let you guys
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um i'm gonna really only do two because
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these are the two that i know most of
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the first one i learned through you
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and through krista
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linkedin so that one came about 2002
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um the numbers on this particular graph
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go
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to
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almost 800 million last year uh from
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09 being at only
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42. so that has jumped quite a bit
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keep in mind however 99 if not 100 of
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the people on there are mostly business
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people uh this is a
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a business platform it's more of a
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platform
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i mean it is cool though because you
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know i've read some articles i get to
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learn some things
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now the second one that i use uh from 06
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is twitter
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um according to this though however it's
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not as hot as it was numbers-wise
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apparently in 2017
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their numbers went from i guess like a
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15 billion to four so they've lost
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um but for those who use it
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um you'll know that it's a
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conversation piece
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um
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and it is
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it's cool for a lot of things you can
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look at pictures you can chat you can
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make new friends if you want right
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um and those are the two that i only do
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now for personal reasons
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but those two are very different but one
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the same because linkedin can also be
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said as a good conversational piece
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if you are connecting
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b2b
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right exactly so let's flesh that out a
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little bit so
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um linkedin as you said is very much
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a business platform and what that means
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is is that if you go over to linkedin
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you're gonna see a lot of business
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owners right they're there whether
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they're entrepreneurs small business
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owners there's corporations people go
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there if they're looking for a job
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they can find it with people that are
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looking for
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people to to staff so that you know that
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a lot of people are just on linkedin
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they don't do any other social media in
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fact i think that there would be some
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that would say that linkedin is not
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technically a social media platform
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right
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um twitter obviously i mean i use that i
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talk i talk about twitter and i made you
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laugh yesterday rob twitter is sort of
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like being at a bar
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and why do i say that well lots of noise
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right a lot of conversations going on
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all around you and you can either jump
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into the conversation
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or step away because it's too noisy we
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also have facebook and we have youtube
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and we have instagram and we have tick
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tock and we have pinterest
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there used to be friendster and krista
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said you know she thinks social media
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she immediately thought of myspace which
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i believe it's still around but i don't
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think it's obviously used as much as
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some of these other platforms and also
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facebook we kind of like want to say
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facebook is kind of like for the older
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people at this point the younger
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generation has moved away
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so
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it's been around for quite a while
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friendster was the very first one so if
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you remember friendster and you're
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tuning in right now or even on replay
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raise your hand and say i remember
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friendster i actually had an account i'm
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not one of them i never had a friendster
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account i think it's interesting though
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so
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let's now kind of dive into this whole
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social media thing and why
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and what we can do to make it healthier
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for for each of us
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so
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the first thing that i want to kind of
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encourage everyone to do is pick the one
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that works for you um are you in it
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because you are
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staying in touch with your family or you
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want to see cute little dog pictures or
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you want everyone to see what you ate
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last night
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that might be a good place for you to
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join on facebook but
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maybe not right
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if you're there for business then you
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certainly you can use facebook for
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business because there's an ad program
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on there so if you want to promote your
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business and in fact i know a lot of
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businesses myself included that use
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facebook for business and in fact it's
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the only reason why i'm on it to be
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honest same thing for instagram if
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you're a woman
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and you
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uh want to be involved in a social media
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platform you might want to check out
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pinterest pinterest is very female
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centric that means when it first started
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i don't know if anyone's listening right
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now but i remember distinctly going to
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pinterest and looking for
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clothing like what should i wear what's
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a good social you know like a good party
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outfit that kind of thing so there's
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different kinds of social media
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platforms to do different things the
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most important thing though is to figure
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out why you're using it if it's just for
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social then you probably don't even want
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to be on linkedin if it's just for
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social and you just want to engage with
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your relatives and whatever you're
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probably just going to pick one or two i
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mean that that really is the reality of
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it
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so rob you you made a point of saying
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that you use twitter
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and i know you've said to me in the past
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one of the reasons you like about
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twitter is that you can block people you
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don't want to see
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right
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yeah i mean caveats all this i will piss
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off a lot of people i hate social media
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to begin with there's no reason to be
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doing it
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if i had to pick the lesser of both
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evils
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twitter is
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fairly easy
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to use um
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when i see myself scrolling through dog
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pictures as cute as it is
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that's when you put the phone down and
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go do something else
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i love looking at this stuff but at the
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same time
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yeah you know um yeah if i had to pick
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something to use
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i guess that would be twitter
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right and it's funny you know
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obviously we're of different ages you
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know i'm in my 60s 60 i'm going to be 66
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you're in your late 30s or your mid-30s
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and different strokes for different
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folks right you like certain things um i
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like certain things i actually jumped
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into tick-tock
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which i find very funny because um
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i'm not even exactly sure what tick-tock
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does but it's but it has video and i
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happen to be a big huge lover of video
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so i do my stuff over there so what i'm
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going to say right now is do as i say
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not as i do
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that's the first thing because i will
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say you don't have to be on every
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platform
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but i am and i do it though because of
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business and i'm very clear about that
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if i wasn't doing business i would not
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be doing this at all so i'm with you on
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that a hundred percent so let's get some
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tips for our viewers i mean the first
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thing that i always suggest is
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you know schedule your social media time
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literally say i'm going to do social
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media for this half hour in the morning
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and that means i'm going to scroll i'm
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going to put some likes i'm going to put
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some comments and i'm going to do it
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later on set limits for yourself because
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what happens is is that we go down the
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rabbit hole and one minute it's two
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o'clock and the next minute it's five
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o'clock and how did that happen if
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you're tuning in right now has that ever
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happened to you will you go down the
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rabbit hole let us know what some of
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your favorite social media platforms are
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if you have them or let us know if you
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don't use social media clearly you use
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something because you're watching us
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somewhere whether it's on youtube or on
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facebook or wherever but let us know
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what you like and what you tune into
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there are some positive things though
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about social media
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i know that's hard to believe
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but there is because social media helps
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you to build relationships specifically
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in business um twitter when you're on
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twitter rob have you made some
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relationships with other people who are
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interested in the same thing that you're
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interested in
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um
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i was actually going to tag out for this
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one because to be honest with you the
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relationship part
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to me it's everything talking and
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relationship i haven't met anybody that
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i would personally go do anything with
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right but do comment other people's
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posts
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and do that so i don't know if i'm the
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best on this one because
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i i don't care for that at all
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so uh michelle hey michelle nice to see
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you on um
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she only uses them for business i'm with
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you on that i'm with you on that um i
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think it's become a rather big challenge
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at this point um krista says i love the
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idea of setting specific times any down
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time it's like open social media and
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scroll um so yeah i mean i can go down
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the rabbit hole even people that i would
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have sworn would never have done this
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ever they go down the rabbit hole too
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only because you just kind of get stuck
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and you get sucked in
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um but social media and i get it rob i
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mean for you this doesn't work but for
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many people it does make it easy to find
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groups of like-minded people and make
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new friends now that can also be a
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negative thing where you find a group of
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people that you don't want to be
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friendly with
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uh michelle says um yeah very protective
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what i consume and let in a hundred
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percent i i am with you on that 100
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um
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so
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backing up
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make sure you know why you're using it
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right are you using it for business or
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are you using it just to stay connected
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with somebody and if you're just going
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to use it stay connected then find the
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platform that everybody in your social
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community is using and stay on that
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right so
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um
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i think that we want to prioritize our
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real life right because social media i
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don't know about you rob it's not real
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life it's it's not real life it's it's a
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lot i will be happy to take off from
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here um go for it two things that i
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would recommend anything
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social media or whatever
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uh put into perspective what you got to
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get done what should be done
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and leave the rest
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on the sideline um of course every video
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says at the end of the day put it down
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which is obviously
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very good
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but generally that goes into the
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prioritizing um
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pick
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what you got to do now like i do my two
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videos daily so when i'm on youtube
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morning afternoon
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pretty much done
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throughout the day if something crosses
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my mind if i get a good idea i'll scroll
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in pop something in my notes but again
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that's my notes not my social media so
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there's a difference there right um
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but i would say of anything that has
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been said so far it's the priority
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if you can't distinguish
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then you might have a problem
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right
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with what you're doing
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oh my gosh that's like right on
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the nose on that so
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you don't want social media to take away
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your focus from the important important
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parts of your life so one of the things
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you can do and this is a great tip on
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your phone
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on your notifications let's say you have
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apps on your phone for facebook and
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pinterest and youtube whatever it is all
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of those things you can identify how you
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want to be notified so that's number one
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like such an important tip i don't want
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to be notified all day long that
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somebody liked my post or shared my post
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or did something or made a comment so i
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don't have any notifications on my phone
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at all i have to make the effort to go
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in see what's going on and then log
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myself out so i'm going to encourage
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people get those notifications set up
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what works for you now you might be kind
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of person that wants to just have
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notifications one time a day you can do
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that so go ahead and set that up
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um and also
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next create a safe social media space
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for yourself and rob you already said it
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you know
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unfollow those accounts
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that you don't want to be with um you
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know there's a lot of stuff going on in
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social media today as we know and it can
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it can cause a lot of things and a lot
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of uncomfortable feelings that we don't
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want to feel so you know what it's okay
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unfollow somebody and guess what they
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won't know the way these platforms work
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you can unfollow somebody and they'll
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have no idea so if you're one of those
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people that is a pleaser like i am and i
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go oh my gosh if i had friend them
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they're going to not like me anymore
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they're not going to know and it doesn't
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matter and quite frankly it really
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doesn't matter if they're not going to
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like you anymore if you don't want to be
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their friend it doesn't matter if they
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don't want to be your friend either
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so most importantly as you said rob at
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the end of the day put it away
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or in the middle of the day put it away
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social media is not the be all and the
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end all of things uh michelle says yep
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agreed
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oops same for your phone just as
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disruptive as you let it be agreed and
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you also said michelle notifications are
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my gatekeepers i love that
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they are notifications are definitely
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a gatekeeper all right so as we end
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towards the end of our show i want to
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make sure that we let people know how to
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connect with a resource if they're
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having trouble um you can go check out
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nami at
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nami.org that's the national association
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of mental
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illness and you can also check out
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nimh which is a governmental
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organization which is the national
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institute of mental health
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and finally which this is pretty new
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this is actually something that just
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happened within the last couple of
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months and that is nine eight eight if
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you're having some struggles you need to
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talk to somebody
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uh this is actually also for veterans
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too i just learned today that if you're
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a veteran
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98 will actually help you as well so
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that's good to know thanks rob that's
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good to know
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um any last minute thoughts as we get
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ready to say goodbye we're really
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thrilled that you joined us today um you
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can follow i got a comment coming in
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it's great to see you too michelle thank
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you so much for joining us today you can
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follow rob on his website at
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altereduniverse.live you can follow rob
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on linkedin at rob glasser you can
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follow him on youtube at altereduniverse
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and finally on uh twitter altered
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go out give somebody an awesome day and
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next week when you join us we're going
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to be talking about a fulfilling life
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how to have a fulfilling life that's
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going to be a lot of fun we hope that
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you'll join us and on thursday we're
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doing a disney show right we're doing a
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disney tour so if you like disney all
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things disney join us on thursday go out
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give somebody an awesome day and we'll
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see you next time
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