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The Road Back To Me!
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Apr 5, 2023
I talk with speaker, singer-songwriter and best selling author Adena Sampson about her debut novel, The Road Back to Me: 9 Principles for Navigating Life’s Unexpected Twists & Turns. We discuss limiting beliefs, how to thrive in the face of adversity and why these principals are a roadmap to recovery and healing. This is a message we all need to hear to keep on going, no matter what life throws your way. #theroadbacktome #limitingbeliefs #roadmaptorecovery #9principals Follow us on Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/carenglasser Follow us on Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/carenglasserlive Follow us on Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/carenglasser
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hello everyone Karen Glasser here and welcome to the author Spotlight make sure to say hi in the comments and tell
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us where you are watching from today we are talking with Adina Sampson she's the
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founder of out loud Productions and the unbreakable Spirit movement she's a gifted speaker singer-songwriter and
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best-selling author receiving the best book off award from American book Fest how cool is that having overcome the
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insurmountable Adina leads by example teaching people how to turn challenges into victories and inspiring them to
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live a more authentic and courageous and passionate life which is what I love so
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welcome to the show with Dina oh Karen thank you so much for having me such a pleasure to be here with you today we're
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gonna have fun you know every time I hear the word passion that just floats my boat that's actually the name of my
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company promote your passion so I love it and we're going to be talking a lot about your journey we're going to talk
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about the book but let's just jump in in in 2008 something happened
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what happened right uh in 2008 a lot of things happened first of course we have
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the uh bit of a financial crisis right and uh top of my aim you know with the
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company back in the day actually I believe it was around the time I may have met you maybe a little after that yeah
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um and everything kind of came crashing down you know the business Came Crashing Down and then I found myself in the
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hospital um literally had six different nurses trying to stick me trying to get an IV
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and they couldn't get one stuck in right um scary as can be I don't say this lightly nobody knew what was going on I
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had no idea high fever uh you know in bed for days that then turned into weeks
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um and I just remember myself being in a very scary place um at the time also needing to leave a
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relationship that of course wasn't healthy that I was participating in
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um and literally found myself on the floor going something's not right I'm not gonna make it wow it's just not
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right what's going on here we've got to do something else because I don't feel like I'm gonna be here that
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had to be really really scary I mean I just hearing you say it the emotions that start bubbling up in me you know
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when you just like how am I actually going to make it so how did you cope with through all of this when it felt
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like everything was falling apart right and again a loaded question so much to be said in the moment I didn't really
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know coping like everyone else does only from what I knew growing up right A lot
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of my coping mechanisms growing up hence codependent relationship I found myself in again at the time I wasn't aware that
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I was contributing to the codependency although I knew something wasn't right and um I just had to choose it was in
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that moment that I had to choose me so really where it comes from is my I've always been a bit of an over Giver right
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uh you know again growing up in an unstable environment grateful thankful
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blessed to my parents they came from broken homes themselves right they did the best they could and then here was me
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is the oldest two younger sisters and you know just just doing our best right
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none of us were unscathed right right of course in my adulthood as I find
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myself in that situation that you've asked I now know a big part of that was was twofold right it wasn't just what
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we're about to share and getting down deeper to what we figured out and what I was dealing with but really
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um how the trauma in my life and how a big part of my mindset is what has allowed me to be here with you today
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um I wouldn't be here if it wasn't for uh the work I've done you know with my mindset in particular along with all the
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other you know medical aspects um I wouldn't be here today so so you know we talk about limiting beliefs and
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that's almost like a buzzword we hear it across the board we hear people talking about but when we say limiting beliefs
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what are we really talking about sure we're talking about any belief that
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isn't truly in alignment with who it is you are now that's a good statement what
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does that mean yeah well you have a lack of authenticity these days right again it's nobody's fault per se we grow up
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with what our parents taught us their parents taught them we go to school in
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environments right where we have teachers and students and everybody's playing their role doing the best that they can and
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um you know between the ages of one and seven as some of us are aware we are sponges right we take in everything we
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see in recents around us so if we see Mom and Dad's relationship playing out right and they're as young as can be my
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mom had him she was 23. my parents got married when they were 21. but these days that these days it's like wow
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I got you on that I've got you beat on that my mother had me when she was 20. oh my gosh
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and she's still alive and so is my dad I mean so I get that when they're that young it's a whole different environment
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and it's whole different experience right right and they're still growing themselves aren't we right so again
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limiting beliefs we all have them they really just mean that these beliefs that you have are not serving you if we say
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this is what we want and yet we have something plain in the background right that's buried in our subconscious
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somewhere somehow how many years ago and it could be many different variables
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again trauma doesn't just happen as we grow up also of course in our adult life
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um it's just if we're not we do not have the skills or the awareness to deal with that trauma properly it gets stored and
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oftentimes stored in what the physical body in our cellular memory right and so
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um that can be playing out in our adult life and then we're wondering why we can't hold down a relationship why we're
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going going in and out of a job again everybody has their own patterning but
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really limiting beliefs is just a belief that is not serving you and is holding you back from the things that you say
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that you want and I'm sure you would you would tell everyone listening right now that if you think you don't have a
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limiting belief you're wrong yes exactly so so your your journey you
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keep going and and you wrote a book I mean you and this book helped you save your life literally and the book is
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called the road back nine principles for navigating life's unexpected twists and
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turns codependent no more I love that code most of us don't even know they were codependent right
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so there is it so before we even talk about the book guys take out your phone it's really really easy just put the
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phone right so that it's looking on your camera at that little scan code and it's going to take you over don't do it now
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they'll do it later uh and it will take you over to go pick a copy of the book all right so
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what's the book about so couple things I start off with telling and sharing my personal story as
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you had mentioned we just you know touch the tip of the iceberg where it all started uh back in 2008
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um again you knew me when and life seemed like it was going pretty well and was pretty young at the time and then
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everything came falling apart again first my health and then actually it was the business
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right the health and then the relationship boom boom boom a domino effect yeah well I I share my story
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twofold first and foremost I didn't write the book because I thought oh I'm just gonna write a book no it was you're
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gonna write a book I'm gonna what okay so and especially knowing that we've
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just and we're still in this pandemic phase right that for three years uh if
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if people weren't suffering prior people are now and what I mean by suffering is we all have different variances of what
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that means right if you're suffering in any way because again you're unhappy in Life or you feel like you're not making
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the money you want to or having the relationships that you feel like you should again this is all stemming back
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to coming back to ourselves so so the road back to me the title in itself right says it all the road back to me
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oftentimes we feel like we lose ourselves on the journey and oftentimes
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it's because most of us were taught and told right and those of us who really just we feel like thriving means being
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on top of the Mountainside with our arms up going hey I'm there right and no that's that's not what we discuss in the
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book we discussed that we can Thrive through through it all right through the storm it's really turning adversity into
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opportunity living that right being able to talk about the fact that I'm still
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standing after fighting for my life for 12 years and I don't say that lightly right so I tell the story and then uh
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excuse me I I talk about the principles right that have saved my life right and
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there's nine of them right there's nine principles that's correct recovering and healing in your book and I thought it
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would be kind of interesting I mean all of them obviously are very important but I I thought it would be interesting for
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you as the author and as the individual that took this journey with the book
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which two if somebody were you know and they should go pick up the book which I'm assuming number one is probably
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number one the most important right which is absolutely shift your perspective yeah okay so again nine
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principles all of them equally important and one doesn't work without the other meaning they all you know are important
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however if we are to pick them apart for the sake of time and talk about it yes number one shift your perspective the
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reason why it's my number one principle is because that in itself can change
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your life and of course that's what happened with with with mine again a big
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part of me building the courage to thrive Community the event that we just had the tagline is shift your
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perspective change your life oftentimes we make things a lot more complicated than they need to be right and that's a
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bold statement and yet again we can see this uh you know right or wrong a good
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or bad black or white and if we fail to see the variances in between right the
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Grays the colors the different shades then we're really truly missing out on life if we say this this way and we're
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experiencing things this way and we wonder why we're unhappy if we're not willing to just take that step back from
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a higher perspective what else is possible remain curious right right I
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really talk about in the principle in the book Miracles defining what a miracle is right I even uh you know
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speak to the Course in Miracles one of my favorite definitions which is what a
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miracle is is just a shift in perspective I love that that's cool and for me truly it was the little the
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little things in life so oftentimes I think that we're taught that Miracles are something that comes out of nowhere
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Parts the Seas you know it happened overnight it all happened overnight no it didn't it didn't and I I kind of like
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and maybe I'm wrong so you can correct me but perspective also to me is mindset and so that when you shift your
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perspective you're also shifting your mindset and how you approach things because I do know that whatever you put
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out there you're going to get that same thing back and so if your perspective is everything or your mindset is everything
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is negative and negative negative negative then guess what you're going to get more negative coming in is that a
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true statement or am I just making this stuff up absolutely now we do make things up of course now again we're not
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quite there yet but in in the book I do go into again what is truth what is your
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Truth Versus no truth or someone else's truth and again we don't many times
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we're unaware that we're not always in integrity and Alignment which is with
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what we say we want because we've been wearing these masks right we're people
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pleasing I mean how many of you are right uh uh you know procrastinating
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you know what um if you're a people pleaser make sure you put it in the comments we want to
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know if you're a people pleaser and we will come back and respond and maybe Adina will have a helpful hint for you
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if you're a people pleaser we want to know inquiring minds I'm sorry I didn't mean to have drugs I love this I love
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the two-way actually I prefer it this is this is great and like I think it's important because
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um you know twofold here you may or may not be aware that you are and there's no right or wrong in that okay it's not our
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fault however I believe it is our responsibility if we want things to change in our life to stop pointing the
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fingers outside of ourselves and say Okay what is my peace what is my part how am I showing up because here's the
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thing as people who also care about others caregivers again I work with a lot of people who are uh wonderful uh
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and tend to Veer on the codependency side because that's all they knew that
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was what worked growing up that's what kept us safe right right what allowed us to survive and now it's pushing people
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away that we love how many I mean how many times have I pushed people away in my life I gotta I need more more hands
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for this right I think it goes in you know the whole thing about codependency too because most people who are
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codependent don't even know they're codependent correct and some of us it's so subtle I will speak for myself in
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this journey is that it was so subtle I really had no clue right even though I
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come from a history uh in my family of addictions and whatnot again survival in
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my blood in my lineage right it's kind of all I knew I really did not see it I
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couldn't see it for the life of me I was so busy just you know part of my gift is the ability to see the greatness in
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others and that comes with the flip side of the coin that they don't always see
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in themselves and more often than not they're not ready or they're not choosing or they don't want it bad they
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don't want to they don't want to yeah hold on if we flip it back around to how it is it's serving us and where we can
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then shift our perspective it's well wait a second that's not my job to you why do I think it's my job to fix people
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right I think that I want it more for someone than they want it for themselves
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therein lies the pain right right well so so this is such an important
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principle um and the other one that you wanted to talk about today specifically and again guys this is not just the only two that
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we think you should go read and you know skim through it there's nine really good principles but this fifth one is reclaim
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your power so after you've shifted those perspectives there's you know number two number three number four and then we hit
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number five to reclaim your power and how does that look what does that look like
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again um it can show up in many different ways again when we give away our power it
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you'll normally find it in Intimate Relationships okay uh familial relationships again relationships that
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you are attached to in some way shape or form that of course you love you adore you want things to go well and
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oftentimes we overdo it for example um we talked about the people pleasing
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let's talk about uh the tendency to control people and or situations most of
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us if we were to say oh you know I'm not a controlling person like Karen you're not a controlling person
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right but you know this now right I know I've played this role and many of us
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would not know that so a lot of my clients and students are unaware that they actually are controlling certain
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pieces of their lives in order to keep the homeostasis okay and that's a big
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part of again being able to reclaim our power first and foremost the first staff can really be okay and be willing to
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shed a light into the darkness we have to go back not to stay stuck
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but to uncover what is holding us back so we can Propel ourselves forward and we cannot do that by spiritual bypassing
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as far as I'm concerned okay which means just okay be positive in everything as
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well yes and it's that's a choice and choosing to reclaim your power means
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okay where am I giving away my power where in my life am I contributing to
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certain uh dynamics that are unhealthy right and we're unaware of that how can
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I choose moment to moment to respond instead of react
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I love this you know and I I you already kind of touched on it at the beginning that if it weren't for these principles
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that you share in the book you wouldn't be today and and that's that's you know to be able to acknowledge that and to
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say that out loud and you know our viewers our listeners whether you're here live or you know on replay have you
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ever felt that way that things are going in a place that if I don't do something
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I'm not going to be here um and that's where this book really comes in and and so is this why you're
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doing this is this why you wrote this book is this why you're sitting here with me today and others and doing your
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events is this your why yes and I say that with every ounce of my being
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so you know I used to think that I was driving the ship I guess is the best way
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to say that right I thought I was the one in charge right until I I learned the hard way and I realized otherwise
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and it's not that I didn't believe in God I always have um it's that how many times have you
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been in a certain circumstance that's repeating over and over and over again to a point where it just doesn't affect
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you physically it affects me neurologically PTSD Right medical gas
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lighting gaslighting all over the place you're questioning yourselves false negatives right there's a lot to learn
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and so um yeah what I learned on my journey is to be able to one trust myself and I
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know and I knew that I had to share this story it was extremely vulnerable took a hell of a lot of courage to share
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my story on levels that most people have no idea about to make sure that you know
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that you are not alone right and and that vulnerability I'm sure was game changer for you embrace your
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vulnerability principle number four absolutely yeah I I I know from personal
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experience I know a lot of people the minute they Embrace that vulnerability it changes I I believe it for me
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personally it changes the trajectory of your life in many respects not just
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personal professional your family relationships everything so uh number
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four is probably the one that I appreciate the most because I've experienced it myself and we're taught
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not to do that right specifically in business right and and that's the thing that's the Catch-22 that's not is that
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the truth that's what we ask ourselves right is it true well and once we're vulnerable those of us that do not know
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how to receive are then able to again it cultivate the ability to receive
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which allows us to manifest that which we say and that's all we know how to do we
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don't realize we are not receiving what people are offering we are not receiving what God the universe wants to bring in
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and we don't realize that we're actually adverse to that and that's a big reason why things aren't working right we have
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to really say what is behind this what am I afraid of do I feel that incoming vulnerability is a weakness most of us
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have been taught that well we have we totally have yeah we totally have money no it's not I mean I tell the story all
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the time about my hair I grew my gray hair out on camera every single week I
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did that and when I first started doing this like oh my gosh you know I'm people
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are not going to want to watch them they're going to be too old all of this stuff that started coming out when I was
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doing it and yet the minute I did that and the minute I showed people that I was just like them and I experienced the
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same things that they did it changed my career I'm I'm curious you know this is
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your first book sure and you mentioned at the very Beginnings I oh yeah I'm going to write a book right what was
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that like I mean here you are you're writing your book did you just sit down and say okay I'm doing it and you just
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started to write did you have writer's block I mean how long will this take okay let me do
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the best to answer that in a short instant uh yes and is always pretty much
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my answer uh because it's normally you know not either or it's both one congratulations again I know you
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mentioned that story to me previously and again coming back to just finishing up the embrace your vulnerability why
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that's important again who it is we are shows up in all areas of Our Lives it's not separate though we tend to separate
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it you're just you're going to see the same face right uh personally in your personal relationship like you do in
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your business Until you realize what the lesson is and what that's there to teach you right the fact that you were able to
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be vulnerable and do this no matter what it looks like right in your raw and your realness like my passion right now I
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speak with my hands I'm not for everybody that's okay but then for those who we are for it's
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because people know this is I don't know what I can say here so I'm being mindful although I'm very bad
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here's what take it or leave it like it or you don't right the thing is it's a matter of life and death and making sure
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that people realize they're not alone so that they don't take their life okay that's a big part of my why because I
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was there in the Dark Night of the Soul then so be it and it's been you know again a perfect time so as far as the
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book and how it happened I thought I had missed my boat prior to covet because I was so not well for so long Karen and
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you and I hadn't spoken for so long because I was isolated already taking care of fighting for my life right right
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then I start to feel better right and what not all of a sudden like I said I go through another huge uh breakup right
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as the pandemic was hitting three years ago in March I stayed a lot longer than
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I should have I've done it before I did it again was truly the last time I am so grateful
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for my beloved and what I was shown because that's how the bookstore started
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so literally I had this intuitive hit to reach out to um the school where I had done my
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Master's literally 11 years ago I did not for the life of me through battling
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and fighting for my life over this last you know 12 years plus did I think I'd go back to finish my dissertation
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because I had finished everything but wow I literally called again listened to
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my intuition said hey it's been 11 years is this possible they said our rules have changed if you abide by these and
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you're willing to do this then yes you may wow so no hardly anybody knows this unless I
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read the book that's how it started for me is that I got the hit I followed suit I finished my dissertation realized this
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was my book and then I expanded it from there wow and yes when you talk about
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did it take discipline absolutely waking up early every morning where I was in
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quiet so I could sit and write whether or not I felt like it right whether or not it came
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um did you have a quota did you have a quota of how many words you had to do a day I mean I've talked to authors who
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say I do a thousand words every single day I don't care if it's rubbish I just put a thousand words down and that is my
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routine what is your routine I didn't however I am very good at when I say I'm gonna do something and I know I'm
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supposed to do something let me be clear this is not again where it was rough and I was like still
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doing this and you're getting and it doesn't matter whatever comes up you come back to it you go oh my god look what I wrote I had no idea right and it
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plugs in as you know even as a Creator it's puzzle pieces right they don't all come all at once you have to trust which
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again is what I learned on my journey you have to trust that what you're saying is is is to be I did not have a
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quota I did work with again a company a publishing company uh and I had a nice team around me however my passion here's
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the thing there's a lot of things that I don't do well and as a speaker writer okay singer songwriter words uh have is
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something that does uh you know come easily as far as the way I express myself it's my unique ability uh I will
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tell you this it's kind of cool to look back now when I was younger when I was a kid right you could always find
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somebody's passion and unique abilities back in their childhood um I used to uh create books from
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scratch and I remember having these books I wrote when I was you know in school elementary school I took creative
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writing you know in high school forgot about it for many many years and then all of a sudden here I am writing a book
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so again you know definitely some backstory to it yeah I believe everything happens for a reason which is
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again a big part of what I talk about when we set up shift your perspective right here's the thing you may have
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heard that before a lot of people go yeah yeah yeah so what they may not believe it it's all good nobody's
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pushing you however here's what I would ask if everything happens for a reason and this allows you
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to shift your perspective and Propel your life forward in a way that gives you more courage Clarity and confidence
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right why wouldn't you believe it right why wouldn't you use that yeah true yeah
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and you're always that to your advantage yeah you know and I like I say I agree with you and I say it all the time everything happens for a reason we may
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not know in that particular moment what that reason is but we will eventually
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and I don't know about you but I have found myself you know years later going oh that's why that happened and it may
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take that long and so you have to trust the process right you have to trust the process and now so you have a giveaway
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it's a freebie um it's the five steps to reclaiming your power which of course we talked
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about in Step number five um and so I encourage you scan this code go pick this up it's absolutely free
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while you're over there check out all the other things that are going on over at and I'm going to put your website out
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right now just because I can uh adenasampson.com check that out as well
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um all right so a couple more things so you have
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been painting this picture about the free PDF and you know here's what's important and different is that again we
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love to hear what we can do and some things take time like you mentioned and other things we want in the moment
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what's a tool we can use today as we go through our day because let's be honest here's the here's the misperception I
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see when I work with people and this is why I put this PDF together uh again we often think that we make a shift and
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then everything's okay and that we remain that way no it doesn't matter who you are how far along on the journey you
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are it's a choice and it's a daily choice and to go a little a little further it's a moment-to-moment choice
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so what can we do in the moment when we're triggered when we are more apt to
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um react versus respond this is where I brought the five steps so that we can use that whether you're in the car and
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somebody's riding your you know what okay and you're thinking you've got to be kidding me and all of a sudden you're going into what again I I you know a
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moment of uh rage okay how many okay I need more hands than this this was once
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me on a regular basis yep yep um and this has saved my life so I I no longer
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feel that way because I've been able to say okay pause observe you know what I love about this
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Adina is that we're we all are very similar in this we have the same things
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that happen to us and if you think you're alone and somehow you know why is this happening to me and what is these
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things happen to everyone in different degrees and different it might look differently but the the foundation of it
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it's the same it is totally the same and this is why this is so important and this is why I felt it was necessary to
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have you on the show because this is what we talk about and this is what I want my world my network my viewers my
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listeners to hear somebody like you talk about not just talk about it but you've
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experienced it this came out of your own experience and I think that's how we learn the best and and again taking
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responsibility for that and that's a big part of the human condition that most of us avoid because we know once we take
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responsibility things will and must change and even though we say we want it
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the big fear is oh we're going to lose people in the process right there's underlying fears that we're not your
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peeps if you're new people they're not your peeps there you go you're not your peeps I
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want to encourage everyone to go check out your website again at dinasampson.com and you are on social everywhere at Adena Samson they can find
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you on LinkedIn right they can find you on where Instagram and Facebook yeah
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YouTube you're all over the place um and you've got really great content out there I'm going to encourage people
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to go check it out we're coming to the end of the show woof I feel like we just very fast
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um I what have we not talked about right now that that you really want our
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viewers to hear you know I must say Karen uh grateful that I've been on many different platforms and and appreciative
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you are truly phenomenal in just going boom boom boom boom boom love it and not
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always easy to do right with the depth of what it is we're discussing um if I was to just impart anything to
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anyone who is just watching this because so many people are in transition right now right and rightfully so
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um is really just to say again you are not alone do yourself the um privilege of committing to your uh personal growth
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right prioritizing your well-being we often so are used to prioritizing the
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prioritizing everyone else's well-being right especially if you're a mother right a wife again of course I work with
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men and women uh you know on both platforms whether you're going through a divorce you name it
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um just be gentle with yourself okay and find yourself a community of other
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like-minded individuals and those who are traversing what you're currently going through so that one you know
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you're not alone that's I believe the first step and that there's support out there for you check out Edina go check out her
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website check out her courses check out he's got a lot of stuff going on check her out and don't forget to follow me on
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social Karen Glasser Everywhere YouTube Instagram Facebook LinkedIn Pinterest
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Twitter you name it on there and make sure you follow so you get the updates and know when we're going to be doing
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another show Adina thank you so much for sharing your Brilliance today I am so
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appreciative I know that our viewers are appreciative I want all of you guys to go out give somebody an awesome day
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and we'll see you next time on the next author Spotlight goodbye everyone thank you Karen
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