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Today We Are Giving Thanks!
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Nov 23, 2022
On this episode, we are discussing gratitude and what the difference is between being grateful and being thankful. We also talk ways to practice giving thanks. @Official Rob Glasser #thankful #grateful #gratitude #thankfulness #givingthanks All interviews are for informational purposes only and are educational in nature. Any health advice discussed in this show/podcast is not intended to treat disease and should be discussed with your doctor prior to implementing. 📌 Subscribe to Caren's Channel: https://YouTube.com/@carenglasser 📌 Subscribe to Rob's Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@officialrobglasser Watch all shows on Spotify: https://spoti.fi/3VStXU3 Follow Caren on Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/carenglasserlive Follow Caren on Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/carenglasser Check out the AlteredUniverseLive store to pick up some cool swag: https://www.altereduniverse.live/shop Don't forget to download a free copy of our eBook "Finding Your Passion": https://www.mindingyourmentalhealth.com
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hello everyone Karen Glasser here and
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welcome to minding your mental health
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I'm here with my co-host Rob Glasser
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I always get that messed up and my son
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he happens to be my son so I call him
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son you call him whatever we talk about
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the topics that shape mental health
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today we're teaching the importance of
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inclusion and share why we should be
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kind like we need an explanation for
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that I don't know so whether you're here
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live or on replay let us know where
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you're tuning in from just say hello
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we'd love to hear from you so today Rob
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we're talking about giving thanks a
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perfect week for that right it's
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Thanksgiving
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so we're just going to jump right in
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about giving thanks so take it away
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all right if you're insist
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um okay our first question that we
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decided to ask ourselves is what is
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gratitude because
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giving thanks is
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I guess similar so very well mind.com
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one of my apparently favorite places
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because everything seems to come from
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them but hey they're a great site they
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have a lot of good information blogs
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phone numbers as well they wrote an
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article about what it is so they wrote
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down gratitude is a positive emotion
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that involves being thankful and
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appreciated and is usually associated
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with several mental and physical health
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benefits When you experience gratitude
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you feel grateful for something or
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someone and respond with feelings of
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things like kindness warmth and other
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forms of generosity
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um basically in general terms according
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to scientists
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something good happens to you something
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you recognize well and that continuously
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or should continuously give you the
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gracious feeling now interesting enough
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and this is the part I love this has
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been going on for decades Millennium
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actually back in ancient times religious
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Scholars and philosophers were always
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into studying this however not until the
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50s that anybody actually sit and write
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it down in a book that's when
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psychologists and sociologists began to
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actually examine what gratitude does to
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groups and individuals but I'm never
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shocked I mean we all think that ancient
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people did nothing but honestly they did
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much more than yeah and if it wasn't for
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them we really wouldn't you know and we
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talk a lot about the whole happiness
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Thing versus gratitude or being grateful
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so you know I think that when we talk
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about being grateful or having gratitude
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it does eventually make us feel happy or
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what we Define as happy right so what it
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what are they telling us to do
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okay well first off they have some signs
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of it
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um a few signs of it spending a few
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moments thinking about things that
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you're grateful for stopping to observe
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and acknowledge the beauty of wonder in
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something that you encounter in a daily
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life uh being thankful for things like
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your health thanking for positive
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influence or thanking someone for a kind
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deed and then generally you know things
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like prayer meditation and
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paying attention to the little things as
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they call it right
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um how do you measure it and this kind
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of goes into what you're saying so
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there's a few questions they can ask
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that you ask yourself
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do you feel you have a lot to be
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thankful for
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um if you made a list of those things
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how long would it be when you look at
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the world uh can you find things that
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again you feel gracious about
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um you know do you feel appreciation for
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your life do you frequently experience
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these moments and lastly do you
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appreciate a wide variety of people as
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well right they say that if you entered
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yes to all or most then gratitude might
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be in the DNA and that goes into the
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three types
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effective which is a trait which means
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that nine times out of ten the person is
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just overall
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grateful no necessity no necessity
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whatsoever most likely that they just
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have that feeling of okay cool
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it can also be a mood which will
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fluctuate but that usually is a period
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of time or as an emotion which is a
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brief moment not as long as a period of
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time but a momentary judgment call I
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guess
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um so what does all that mean as far as
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practicing well
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um again they have quite a few actually
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not that many they have we'll go through
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them observing the moments so this is
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free you look out your window you look
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at the birds you're observing
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that's it no Rhyme or Reason right no no
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no necessary items you're just observing
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number two something you you would do uh
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writing down
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it doesn't matter what it is it could be
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nonsense to anything it could just be a
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bunch of words but you're writing
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something down that in some fashion
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is grateful for you or I think it's what
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you put out is what comes back to you if
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you put out your grateful
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you're going to get that back to you
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gratitude back yeah and while observing
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the moment save her just like you would
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do with a food or maybe a game Savor the
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moment you're in so as as well as
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watching what you're watching or seeing
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what you're saying get into it for a
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minute you know pretend like you are the
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bird pretend like you are outside flying
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through the whatever Savor the moment
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that you're in
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um create rituals that'll make you feel
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good whether it's prayer mantras or
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other do something that continuously
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brings it back in and lastly and exactly
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what our title is called give thanks
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um as a person who is more religious now
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than was I thank God daily for what I
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have I thankful for waking up for
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breathing for help for all that it's not
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necessarily anything in particular other
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than I just want to give the feeling
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to the source of whatever that I'm
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thankful for and of course I do it to
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you know to you to Krista to others as
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well who mean uh much and you just do it
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you you there's no particular necessity
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or Reason to do it it's just something
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that you do yeah to let you flow you
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know you do it because you want to and
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because you feel good afterwards you
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know it's fascinating to me that
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um a lot of people struggle with this
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concept they can oh I can meditate I'm
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I'm mindful but when you say what are
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you grateful for literally people will
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sit there and go I don't know and when
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when I will suggest to someone well
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write three things down that you're
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grateful for it doesn't matter what it
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is but it's I will sometimes get back a
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lot of times well what if what if it's I
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can't think of anything other than I'm
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grateful for my house and I'm grateful
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for the food I eat and I'm grateful for
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my puppy so put that down every single
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day because eventually as you sit in
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that gratitude I believe and I think the
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studies show as you sit in gratitude
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you're going to start thinking about
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other things you mentioned Rob being
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outside you know just seeing the birds
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when I take our dog for a walk I really
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make an effort to look around to breathe
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deep to see the birds hopefully to see
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the the tree swing I want to be in the
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moment and it doesn't always work and I
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think the message that I want to give
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everyone at this moment is is that
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figure out what works for you and do
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that do that
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sure and I'll go back to my favorite man
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of the universe the the Dalai Lama and
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all those other who practice Buddhism
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and right the other one I forgot what it
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is off top of my head but it's the same
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thing it's not a matter of what you're
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doing it's why and how if you're doing
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it to your full extent if you're doing
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it for more or less a good reason right
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that's the Gratitude you know there's no
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need to put anything else into it it's
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just the you know and and this go and
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they actually have a list of things that
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help uh better sleep better immunity
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higher self-esteem decreased stress
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lower blood pressure less anxiety and
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depression stronger relationships and
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what do you know higher levels of
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optimism because you're hurting so why
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the hell not right right it goes into
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more and I'm gonna go to the next one in
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a second because the next one kind of it
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goes into it but they go into some ways
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to do it
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um but before we go into some exercises
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we thought of the difference between the
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two because as you mentioned the word
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thank
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ful or thanks and the word grateful I
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guess there is no noun for grateful
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gratitude thanks and gratitude
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um is a um
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there's a difference so life I actually
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didn't realize where this came from but
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it's a chiropractic company which I
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thought was actually really funny just
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now
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um so they wrote down the difference
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between the two and why you need both so
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the textbook definition according to
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them of thankful is being conscious of
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benefits received interesting okay so
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being aware of what you're getting the
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person receiving the benefits has
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awareness of a beneficial gesture and
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responds as related often it's automatic
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like saying thank you
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um giving a hug I added that one or just
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a smile because you know sometimes you
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don't know what to say you just like you
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smile because you're there
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um thankfulness is oftentimes of
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politeness because it's something
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upbringing so thankful is something that
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parents teach is it a response it's a
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response right being thinking yeah
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and say thank you yes it is not
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something that really is a emotion per
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se it is something that usually the
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family teaches you can do it in all
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forms whether it's face to face whether
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it's in an email or even in a phone call
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you are taught how to end start and
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respond
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um thankfulness they say is usually it's
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on that last first short moment again it
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could be longer depends how you use it
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now the definition of grateful for them
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according to dictionary is having a
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sense of thankfulness that comes from
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within rather than the normal response
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being grateful or having gratitude can
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be directed not only people but things
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that you feel have been of great
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assistance
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um a good example uh with Skeeter as a
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quote you know my my emotional support
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dog you don't realize it until you need
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him right how important he is now of
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course he's my dog I've always loved him
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it's not a that hasn't changed right but
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realizing how much support he gives
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without really actually expecting
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anything and that's like that you know
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the thing dogs don't expect anything
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back it's like it's the better that you
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know I think it's a Mark Twain quote the
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more I know people The More I Love My
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Dog
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um
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so could we make an example of if
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somebody gives you a gift
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a thing an actual gift like here's
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here's a book and you say thank you and
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it's in the moment you you're
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appreciative that you received this gift
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but being grateful is taking it one step
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further and saying I'm really grateful
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or I have gratitude that I have people
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in my life that think about me when
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they're in a bookstore and they saw
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something that I may like well the
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example here actually it sounds kind of
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funny but the more I read it it makes
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sense you can be grateful for having
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your car that got you to and from your
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college in order for you to get your
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degree and at first I read that I think
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that's kind of silly but then I thought
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wait
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you actually can be grateful for the
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transportation because without it you
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would not have been able to get to
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school to get that degree right for your
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job so it's something as even I'm going
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more simple than what you said just even
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a more simple uh right you look at the
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thing or the things or the person or
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whatever and it's just the one moment
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that then fixes the entire thing of what
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goes forward so it's a silly example but
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the more I read it in my mind
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it makes more sense than any other
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example I can think of because that
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literally is the one thing that got you
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to the goal
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and you now have your degree you now
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have a job you know how money you cannot
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buy a house you can have whatever you
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literally now have your life so grateful
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is the idea of
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whatever it is whoever it is whatever
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the idea is of it sinks in so much that
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you will always remember that one time
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right that whatever happened and because
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of that everything flew and then you can
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write it down in your gratitude Journal
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right so they end with why are both
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worthwhile so it's not wrong to be
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thankful and expressive they say random
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acts and kindness as well as intentional
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acts occur every day and it's important
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to express thanks not only because it's
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a polite thing to do but also because it
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gives you a positive feeling so even
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though thankfulness is taught it does
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become a thing that you do because you
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know you just do it because it is so yes
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there is a difference they say and it's
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fine to be thankful but they actually
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feel to go under gratitude more while
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not forgetting what it means to be
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thankful for something so using and you
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know the car example you know be
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thankful for having it but then be
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grateful for what that Transportation
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got you in the long there you go and
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there you go you move it together and so
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it really it's
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it is a weird you know concept and I get
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how some people don't get it but it is
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you know
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I guess it's the own person right but it
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makes sense which it makes sense that
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the differences between the two but they
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all do eventually one begets the other
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and vice versa and I I think I like that
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it is an example yep
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um all right so why don't we end with
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some simple exercises that Inc says even
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the most pessimistic person will become
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happier with these so
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um and most of these are kind of
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abstract so bear with us as we go number
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one identify three things that you feel
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grateful for and appreciate you'll have
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to write it down you don't have to say
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anything just think of three things
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right you know life Health pets
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boom I can keep going I would say you
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know helps I would say having traffic
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you know but yeah just think of three
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things right that's it number two
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identify things that you take for
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granted but you're actually very
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thankful for so the the phrase using
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your resources is how I like to put it
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is a much Kinder way of saying so for
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instance when you knew somebody that was
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in the niche that I needed I would use
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that resource to help it's not taking
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advantage of it it's using the resource
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that I have
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does all the resources come through
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doesn't really matter but it's things
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that somebody might portray as you might
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be taking advantage of but you're
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actually thankful that that person or
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that thing is available and grateful and
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grateful exactly number three identify
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three things you appreciate about you
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huh that's so important
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um for you know for those with uh add
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who don't know what to do or for those
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with anxiety who just don't have a happy
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thought most of the time
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um it could be hard but really again it
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doesn't have to be anything more than
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you know I'm breathing I'm moving and I
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can do my videos there you go I
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appreciate those things right and they
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can change they can stay the same like
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you mentioned at the beginning it
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doesn't matter what it is it's just
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things that you appreciate right about
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you right and I think we talked about
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other videos that the more you do it the
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more you're gonna find and you're gonna
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end up with a list of a thousand things
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because you just keep on right you know
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number four identify three things I see
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there's a theme here it's the number
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three that you feel grateful for about
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your present right now experience these
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guys must have watched our videos
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because the importance of now in your
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presence so three things now like
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example the chair under your legs I am
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thankful for it without the chair I'd be
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really uncomfortable and I'd be on the
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floor right but think about things that
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you're happy about right here right now
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boom so so I'm happy that my internet is
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working because it wasn't this morning I
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am very thankful that the internet is
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working
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um I am thankful that I get to do this
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with you so and I say this all the time
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that I don't know if it's a grateful
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thing or it's a thankful thing I don't
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know how I would Define it but but I'm
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certainly I was thankful in the
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beginning and now I just have a lot of
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gratitude that we continue to do this so
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that's my number two and my number three
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is I am grateful that your father is
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getting better and I am very thankful
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for that what would be one of the things
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that you're either grateful or thankful
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for in the present moment right now well
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that I am healthy that um
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I have the you know Krista in my life
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and
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the pets the pets no a lot of them are
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the same but hey that's okay it's okay
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um number five identify three people who
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had a significant and positive
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experience in your life they say it
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could be anything from a coach or a
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mentor to your boss family member or
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just the person at the supermarket who
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bags your groceries
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again doesn't matter what they did who
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they are you may never see them again
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but if they had a positive experience
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identifying right all right a couple
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more here create a thank you message to
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those three so again if it's somebody
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you see regularly send them an email
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call them say hello if it's something
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you'll never see again you know actually
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and actually I think it's funny because
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I think I've seen people walk into
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grocery stores and give like a holiday
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card to somebody and be like can you
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make sure this person because it's
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always their teller or it's all over the
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bank it's the bank can you make sure
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this teller gets this because she's
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always my teller well it's that time of
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year right it's that time of year and I
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I actually have trouble with the whole
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idea that it's that time of the year
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somehow we're supposed to save all our
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thanks for
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this week right
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um and even if it's being putting a
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smile on your face I always ask no
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matter where I am in the checkout stand
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or if I'm going for fast food I always
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ask the person that's helping me how are
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you today how's your day going and that
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because I'm thankful that they're there
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taking care of me right that moment and
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I only I'm always fascinated that they
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always have one of two reactions shop
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that somebody actually asked how their
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day was or thank you my day is going
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well how are you and so now it's
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reciprocal right and I I believe it
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feels better to give than to receive but
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when you get both at the same time how
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cool is that
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there you go the last one on the list
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here is of your entire list pick the one
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thing you are most appreciative of and
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feel it in your heart this one I would
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say give yourself time to decide because
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you probably have written down a list of
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30 50 100 things pick the one thing you
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are most appreciative of and throughout
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the year or maybe it changes month to
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month whatever you focus on that thing
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um you know it's like when I had a we
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took it down because we're moving but I
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have you know the word focus on my uh
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wall with a Pokemon next to it of course
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of course because
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um it was just the word but you look at
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the word focus and you think what am I
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focusing on what is the thing to do so
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focus on the one thing you're most
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appreciative of maybe if it's an
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overslew of everything maybe just like
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generally life is what you preaching I
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would say life I'd say appreciative life
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ability of everything that I can do
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in my day-to-day I most appreciative
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generally
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um but it's pretty cool if you guys want
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to check it out the link is up there
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maybe it's something you want to print
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out put it on your wall
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um they're all very you don't even
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really need any utensils for it I mean
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if you want to write them down you can
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but really it's just a matter of looking
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at them and thinking and just or put
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them on your put them on your um screen
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saver literally on your computer I have
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I will I always put stuff right now I
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have something that says Integrity is
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everything
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um because that's a really important
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thing in my life and I like it and I'm
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thankful when I see it another so that's
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the word that I'm looking at Rob we have
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some really cool swag right we are
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encouraging people always so they should
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go over to the altered Universe dot live
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forward slash shop in addition to the
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journals the importance of Now find your
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passion love yourself all the things
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we're literally just talking about
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there's all sorts of other things
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t-shirts and water bottles and what else
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is there Rob um uh we got hoodies we
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have an apron for the chef in the house
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and we're gonna have so many more uh
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things to come as well so everyone
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clicking on the link and you'll probably
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see something new in the next week or so
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so absolutely absolutely and of course
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we tell you every single week we also
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have our free ebook our passion ebook
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it's free guys go figure out how to find
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your passion and to be grateful and
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thankful for what you have go to minding
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your mentalhealth.com and you'll find it
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there as we do every single week we talk
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about the different organ organizations
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if you are feeling right now that you
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need some assistance some support or
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you're being triggered you want to go
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check out some of these uh resources
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nimh.nih.gov it's the governmental uh
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body also nami.org all of these
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organizations will help you and finally
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if you are suffering right now and you
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need some help don't wait there are
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people out there that want to hear you
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and want to listen to you and can help
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you dial 988 and you will be sent to the
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the person or persons that you need so
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you're listening to minding your mental
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health today with Rob and I I hope that
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you've enjoyed the show any last minute
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thoughts Rob that you want to share
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um now uh go out and be grateful for go
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out
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thanks for all of this
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see you next time on minding your mental
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health goodbye everyone
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