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Have you ever wondered if grey hair makes you look old? Hair stylist, Randy Liu, shares insights and tips on embracing your new normal, caring for grey hair, and making the transition from colored to natural hair.
If you are a grey haired diva you will enjoy the fun stuff :
- The journey to embracing gray hair and the support needed during the transition.
- The impact of hair texture change, skin changes, and mood swings on the concept of the "new normal."
- Expert advice on hair care products, including moisturizing shampoo, argan oil, and purple shampoo for gray hair maintenance.
- The importance of consulting with a trusted hairdresser for guidance on the best hair care and styling options for grey hair.
#goinggrey #greyhairdontcare #greyhair
Time stamps
- 00:01:04: Caren introduces the topic of whether grey hair makes a person look old and introduces her guest, Randy Liu, her hairstylist.
- 00:04:26: Caren and Randy discuss the decision-making process and challenges of transitioning to grey hair, especially for those used to regular coloring.
- 00:08:03: They discuss options for lightening dark hair to ease the transition to grey hair and the importance of caring for the hair during this process.
- 00:09:37: Randy recommends using moisturizing shampoo, argan oil, and purple shampoo to maintain healthy grey hair.
- 00:11:52: They emphasize the importance of using the right products and caring for the hair to maintain its health and appearance.
- 00:13:38: Randy highlights the importance of being ready to embrace the decision to go grey and discuss various options with your hairdresser.
- 00:15:29: Caren discusses the adjustment period of washing hair less frequently and the benefits it brings to hair health.
- 00:17:13: They talk about the frequency of trimming hair based on individual hair growth and hair care routine.
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so today we're going to ask the question
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does my gray hair make me look old how
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many times have you stood in front of
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the mirror and say my gray hair it makes
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me look old or you know my face makes me
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look older the clothes that i'm wearing
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well today we're going to talk about our
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gray hair and does it really make us
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look old
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today my guest is randy lou she's my
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hair stylist right up here in napa she
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works at bernie's a hair salon and it's
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an amazing salon i walked in there that
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almost the first week that i moved up
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here and got to know randy and she has
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held my hand all the way through the
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many years that i've been up here and
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she's the person that actually helped me
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go gray or or at least uncover the
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beautiful gray that i'm in
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and you know it's always nice to have
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somebody help you during the transition
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and so i'm going to introduce and bring
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her into the show right now
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hold on one second as i bring her and
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i'm going to drop off that and this is
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randy lou say hello to everyone hi
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so randy you are awesome i you know i i
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actually um
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i tell everyone that it's because of you
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that this has been such an easy
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transition from me because you really
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helped me and you held my hand and i'm
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going to put some comments up as we're
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doing this um
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but before we jump into the question
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randy i have a question for you i ask
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all of my guests
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what is your little white lie
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my little white lie would be getting
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used to my new normal or owning my new
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normal which i'm
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almost 38 and i've noticed my new normal
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is definitely changed and it's hard to
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own it and get used to it
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so i love when you say that and how many
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of you resonate with that out there that
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those of you who are watching right now
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live or on replay getting used to the
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new normal so in your case are you going
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to divulge what that's what that really
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means randy that would be my hair
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texture going gray so my hair definitely
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has changed texture wise i color it but
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it's changed texture wise my skin is
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completely different body parts are
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completely different
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lots of things hormones yep mood swings
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all of it and it's just my new normal
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and it's been hard to get used to that
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so it's about embracing the new normal
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and go ahead and put some comments down
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there what is what are the things that
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you're embracing what is your new normal
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that you might be bracing out there i'm
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going to put a comment up here betty ann
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says uh i think i get into one new
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normal and then another one pops up
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learning acceptance yeah
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love that comment so let's talk about
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first how we met i walked in i think i
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actually was calling around for
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hairdressers because as i've been saying
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i went to the hairdresser every three
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weeks
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and so i moved up into napa and i went
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oh you know i got to find somebody you
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were the you literally before a doctor
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before favorite restaurants it was i
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gotta find my hairdresser and it's i'm
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sure women out there you understand
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where i'm coming from you you become
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very dependent on on your hair
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so i called up bernie's and you happened
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to answer the phone and i came in and
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it's been a three year love affair i
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come i was coming in every three weeks
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to see you and what would i say to you
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every three weeks randy
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well you would talk about possibly going
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gray it took three years or i don't know
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how long it's been but yeah
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yeah
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and every time i'd say it you'd say well
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you said that last time right yes yes we
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had lots of conversations about it
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before you decided to do it
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so do you hear this a lot in the salon
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you have people coming in saying all the
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time so what do they say to you and how
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do you help them
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uh
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most people ask can i color my hair gray
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which
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really no natural way you can't color
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your hair gray it doesn't look natural
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and it's really harsh on your hair um
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people ask does it make me look old is
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it going to make me age me more that's a
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really common and they're just scared to
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do it they you know they're sick of
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being tied down to coloring their hair
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every three to four weeks
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but
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people identify with their hair a lot
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and their dark color or blonde hair or
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whatever color it is and they're scared
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to do it
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yeah the process how long the process is
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because it's definitely a process it
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definitely is a process so i started
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this back in november of 2016. i turned
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60 everyone out here knows my story i
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turned 60 and i think that was like
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the cut off date for me it was like okay
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i'm gonna do it i remember having this
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conversation with you i'm going to go
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buy some hats right yes we thought we
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talked about oh that's scarves headbands
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yeah we talked about all the things that
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i could do to cover the stuff that was
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coming in as it was coming in
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and then very rapidly i realized that
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wasn't going to work it just was so
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uncomfortable but let's talk about how
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we decided what i was going to end okay
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we have a question here
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um from april is it unsafe to color your
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hair every four weeks
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um i don't think it is but i'm not a
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doctor so i wouldn't want to give any
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advice to anybody of course it's
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chemicals you're putting chemicals it's
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not good for your hair but we all do it
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i do it i color my hair every four weeks
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if not more because i'm very gray um i'm
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no doctor so i don't want to say if it's
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safe or not but right
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but tons of people are doing it yeah
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it's a chemical you're putting a
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chemical on your
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hair and your scalp depending on how
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you're coloring your hair and so
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you know but i did it all through
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four pregnancies and all the salon do it
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and haven't had any problems
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so you know and it's interesting so when
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we make these decisions one of the
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decisions could be the reason you're
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going to do it is because you just want
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to stop putting chemicals in your your
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body right that might be one of the
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reasons you do it it might be another
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reason might just be as it was for me i
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don't want to go to the hairdresser
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every three weeks so let's talk about
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the things that we discussed when i made
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that decision that i was going to do
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this one of the things i asked you was
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you know can i just dye my hair blonde
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can i just strip all the color out and
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make it blind and so when the growth
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came in
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it would come in maybe less obvious
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because my hair was so dark and i
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remember you saying to me that
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yeah we could but
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there's some challenges with that right
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well one your hair was quite dark about
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a level four or five which is pretty
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dark brown
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um one bleaching your hair out to blonde
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is very damaging on your hair so
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most blondes that people see do not have
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healthy hair i mean it's just part of it
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and they're fine with that and right
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right right but stripping your color out
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of here is really unhealthy and if you
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want to keep it long
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it's just unhealthy and that's another
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process so either way you do it you're
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going to have a long process you have to
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decide which way you want to go it does
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make the grow out easier because it's
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closer to the gray hair but you still
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have the grow outline
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so my second option because i chose not
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to do that um i i decided that i i had
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been coloring my hair every three weeks
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and to really jump in and just color all
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of it and strip everything out i just
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didn't want to damage my hair but we so
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we did something different though
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because my hair was so dark
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um
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you know almost black
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we did something different you actually
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did a process over my hair
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that slightly lightened my dark hair
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what was that called so we just
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basically did a heavy highlight or some
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people call it a weave just to lighten
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your hair to make it softer the line um
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as you grow out
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and and that helped because as my hair
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started to grow out
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um even though you could still see what
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would be roots and even though i would
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still be walking out know that people
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were gonna i would feel this is you know
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this is a mindset that people were
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obviously must be looking at my head and
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they could see that inch of
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you know silver that was growing in
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guess what guys people don't really pay
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attention that much they're not really
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looking at you
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would you agree i mean if this is really
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inside of us we are so focused on what
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we look like oh definitely definitely
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and we had originally planned to even go
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lighter remember we were going to do it
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in different processes i said let's not
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do it all at once because it's really
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harsh on your hair so let's do it a
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little bit lighter and then come back in
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three to four weeks we'll do a little
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bit lighter but you chose not to
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which is probably the better option yeah
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and i think at the time and and
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certainly now it was the better option
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the next thing though that you told me
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is that i had to take care of my hair
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now in a different way because as the
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gray started to grow in and especially
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since you put a weave in it i had to
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protect it in a different way and that
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meant
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shampooing and
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a particular kind of oil that i put in
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my hair in a spray and there are all
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different kinds of products very
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high-end and also not so high-end so
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let's talk a little bit about
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the kind of products that i have used
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and also um some of the products that
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you might suggest that are maybe not
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quite as expensive as some of the other
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products i use a product that you
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recommend called unite
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right yes well i had said you need to
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use moisturizing shampoo a lot of
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moisture on your hair just because we
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had highlighted it and it's damaged now
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that you aren't used to doing you want
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the highlight and damaging hair right
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and to use the argan oil which is a
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unite product that we carry at the salon
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and
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that also is going to help your hair
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texture and health right which is great
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when you have your gray hair too as your
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gray hair grows in it's going to be much
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more healthy so your products are going
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to have to change again exactly you know
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and then you introduced me to something
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that i to this day i actually love it
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but i thought it was the most bizarre
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thing it's purple shampoo
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what is with purple shampoo and why do
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you suggest that people use it and what
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does it do well the purple shampoo or
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violet or silver or blue
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there's different names for it uh to
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help tone out yellow that a lot of gray
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hair can take on
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for your case also it helps keep your
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highlights and that brown hair toned as
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well because they can get brassy since
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we chose not to go lighter
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so but when you go gray a lot of people
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will choose to use a purple
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violet silver whatever product you're
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using they're called different things
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just to keep the yellow
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tinge that happens just naturally with
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the environment environment and stuff to
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gray or silver hair
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so don't don't scare your significant
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other as you're standing in the shower
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washing your hair with a head that looks
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like one big
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purple face on the top of their head
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because you know and i do it like you
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know once every couple of weeks i am one
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of those people that only washes their
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hair maybe once or twice a week now some
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of you may go how can you do that i've
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been doing this for many many years and
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my hair has gotten used to it and i
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think that's probably why it stays as
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healthy as it is i don't know how you
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feel about that definitely washing your
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hair less is good i mean you want to
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keep it clean for your scalp reasons but
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washing your hair less is better
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especially since you have all that
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damage on the ends from highlighting it
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right so you know now when i go and i do
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i wash my hair and again i have it down
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to about one or one and a half times a
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week i will wash my hair i'll condition
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it sometimes i'll use the purple shampoo
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and then when i come out i spray a
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detangler on it because again i want to
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take really good care of my hair and
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then i use the argan oil which is very
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very light it's so light you can
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actually put it on your skin this stuff
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is really amazing it's great stuff and
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you can use it wet or dry also i always
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recommend to my clients like that use it
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before you blow dry or let it dry
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naturally and then use it the next day
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even if you don't wash your hair use it
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on the ends
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yeah i put it in my hair almost every
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day it does not make your hair oily and
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what it does is it takes that frizz and
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that coarseness away and it makes it
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shiny and really i mean look i mean this
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is it makes it an instant fix but also
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when you use it over time it really
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makes your hair healthier right and it's
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it's awesome if we have any questions um
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you know for randy go ahead and put them
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up anything about hair care even if it's
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not about gray it's something that you
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want to ask randy you know we've got a
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captive audience here and i'm sure
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she'll be happy to answer the questions
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so if somebody comes to you and says
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okay randy i'm ready to start i'm going
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to do this you're going to give them
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some of these options and and how do you
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guide them to to making what you really
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believe is the right option for them
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because sometimes people are kind of
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dead set i'm going to do it this way how
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do you guide them um well i like to have
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a lot of consultation about it and uh
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really get to why they want to do it
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and what's important to them
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some people really don't want to have
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that root that you have going on they
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really are really anti-it so
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really your only option is going really
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really light which is going right into
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your hair or get a short haircut so
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they're just getting
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ways to do it and but either way any way
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you choose is a process it's not going
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to happen overnight and i think what in
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your case what we decided to do which
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was interesting because you decided to
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stop lightning it and just let it go
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um you really just owned it yeah and it
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doesn't bother you and so i think that
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is a key you need to really be ready to
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do it
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and really feel like this is what i
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really want to do
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and and i'm so glad you're bringing it
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up guys if you go over to the website
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there are the five steps to deciding to
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go gray and how you're going to do it
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there's an infographic there go get it
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go sign up and exactly what what randy
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is saying the mindset decide why you're
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going to do it how you're going to do it
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so that and then maybe get an
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accountability buddy somebody that you
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can um that can you know be there to
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cheer you on or maybe join a facebook
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group like gray and proud or any of the
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amazing groups that are out there to get
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support from other people because i can
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tell you
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um whether it's me or somebody else
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that's that is growing their hair white
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everyone has their own experience i have
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chosen to own it i almost dare somebody
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to say to me what what's wrong with your
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hair i it's very clear that i am very
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confident in my hair but there are a lot
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of women out there i am sure that that
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are growing their hair out and they're
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feeling invisible they're feeling like
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you know they don't like the way they
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look so is it i think it's a confidence
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thing
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it is and also you know sometimes the
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people around you aren't going to be
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very nice about it maybe a
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sister or a husband or you know i've had
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clients
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say well i think about doing it but then
14:45
i see my friend and she looks so much
14:47
older or you know
14:48
it just really depends and also going
14:50
back to how you should do it i think if
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you have a hairdresser you use regularly
14:54
it would be definitely somebody you
14:55
would want to talk to because they know
14:56
your hair better and they know you
14:58
what's important to you and so it's
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really important to have a good
15:02
conversation with your hairdresser about
15:03
it that's a great great great comment um
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brenda says what do you use to keep
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hair from feeling dirty if not wash off
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and also what about when to use a lot of
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product so i can only say
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it it takes time for your hair to get
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used to not being washed yeah
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and so it's there is going to be a
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breaking in period but once you get past
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that breaking near in um in period
15:27
you're going to feel the difference in
15:28
your hair yes your hair will feel
15:30
amazingly healthy because it's no longer
15:32
being stripped of all the oils because
15:34
you're washing your hair every single
15:35
day i it only took me a couple of weeks
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and within a couple of weeks that was it
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i mean now i i actually have stretched
15:43
it out an entire week and nobody would
15:46
know i mean i come into your store and
15:47
and randy i don't think you've ever
15:49
known whether i've washed the hair
15:50
yesterday or
15:51
before
15:52
but you know it might but that might
15:54
change too as your hair is completely
15:56
grown out
15:57
yes things change your new normal will
15:59
be different yes changes
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yeah the only thing that doesn't change
16:04
is well the other thing it does change
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is changed i guess right i'm looking to
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see if there's any other questions um
16:11
how do you recommend trimming my hair
16:14
seemed to stall in growth and fullness
16:15
when i was diagnosed with an underactive
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thyroid and it is regulated now
16:21
how often do you recommend well it
16:22
always depends on how how
16:25
fast your hair grows everybody's hair
16:27
grows differently also what type of
16:29
haircut you have people with shorter
16:30
hair typically need to get a cut more
16:32
often to keep it in shape and looking
16:33
nice
16:34
and also
16:35
what you do to your hair are you using
16:37
hot tools on it every day are you blow
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drying it all the time you know things
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like that then typically anywhere
16:42
between six to eight weeks is or four to
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eight weeks i should say depending is a
16:46
good time
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to your hair trend depending on your
16:50
situation
16:51
now i know that i came in a several
16:53
weeks ago because not that i needed
16:55
anything but we felt it was time just to
16:57
cut a couple inches off just to take
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some of the dead ends off and as you can
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see randy it's already grown out
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your hair grows fast because i've
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decided i'm going to be one of those um
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older women with long flowing you know
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white gray hair until i change my mind
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and cut the whole thing off you know
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which i think is beautiful and that's
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another interesting fact is a lot of our
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thing is a lot of people think you
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shouldn't have hair long when it's gray
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i've seen so many women with beautiful
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long
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hair you are hitting upon something that
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we've talked about week after week what
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does the media tell us you get to a
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certain age you can't have long hair you
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can't wear makeup you can't wear high
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heels you can't do this you can't do
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that well i say phooey to the media
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whatever looks the best on you randy
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right i mean you go to your hairdresser
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have you should have a good relationship
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with your hairdresser and i i mean that
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sincerely your hairdresser knows your
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hair even better than you do uh he or
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she is the one that works on your hair
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on a regular basis and knows
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what what is good and what is not good
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um i'm just looking here
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any other questions we got i'm gonna put
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some comments up
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um
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we've got a couple people just gonna
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make some
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we got this one
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well felicia said i love the ombre look
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that you have going on karen taubman
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glasser well this is funny you know
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you've heard me mention before that a
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lot of young people um in their 20s are
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actually what are they doing randy
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they're going out there and i think
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randy you froze i'm gonna have you
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refresh your screen
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okay and come back in
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um a lot of people have said to me i
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love your hair and then they say in the
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next breath how do you do that because
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it almost looks like i have done an
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ombre thing right coming in and there
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goes i'm bringing her in
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and there you go
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okay hi there andy's back
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um
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so again this is there are young people
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that are doing this now
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yes doing this on purpose right instead
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of doing the you know the with the roots
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they're actually dying their hair this
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way i just i find this fun
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it's engaging it's really great to do
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so
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i am going to encourage you if you ever
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come up to napa
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of course you want to come see me okay
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that's number one come see me let me
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know you're coming up to napa but when
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you come up to napa and you want to look
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beautiful i want to go check out bernie
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salon and find randy there because randy
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is the person who will make you
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absolutely more stunning than you
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already are and then you want to have a
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good meal i'm just going to do a
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shameless push for a restaurant that she
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and her husband own in napa called ate
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it's a noodle shop and oh my god the
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food is scrumptious so you have two
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things to do up here when you come up to
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visit me
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visit me go get your hair done and then
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go eat pasta and noodles right that's
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not ramen yeah ramen noodles
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noodles
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i am so appreciative that you came on
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the show today oh i'm good here we got a
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few more um because i can't so nancy
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just said that's where i just came from
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my hairstyle knows what's best for my
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hair absolutely and that is absolutely
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the right comment
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so guys when you go on out there and
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share this and and make comments make
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sure you use the hashtag littlewhitelive
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because that's how i find you out there
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we know that you have
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many places to spend your time every
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single day and we are very appreciative
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you decided to spend it with us randy
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thank you so much for being on the show
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today and we'll see everybody next time
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on the next episode of
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the little white lie goodbye everyone
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