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Sep 11, 2017
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everyone Karen glassier and welcome to
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women and spiring women rise together
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and I'm on with my buddy Joey Garrity
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how are you Joey
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I'm good hi everyone so this is going to
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be a really cool I think show because
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it's it's coming off it's something that
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happened this week but before we
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actually move into the topic I want to
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remind you that if you're actually here
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on replay we are so delighted you're
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here on replay make sure you comment
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down there because you're important to
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us and secondly we're just gonna have
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asked you you know shamelessly go ahead
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and share this please share this out to
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your your network and bring people on
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because we love other people to join in
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the conversation so today Joey we're
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talking about disappointment right yes
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yes hot topic hot topic yeah yes he epic
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Karen and I we just but you know here's
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the thing Karen and I we've been
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collaborating on her upcoming show the
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little white lie featuring captain sandy
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yon and we had a little bit of a major
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disappointment to say the least so right
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Karen we've been working on this for
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what two and a half three weeks straight
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yeah yeah straight I mean just nose to
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the grindstone push push push push push
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and then and then Andy Cohen how dare he
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watch what happens live called captain
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sandy on and said you gotta get on a
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plane and so she hopped on a plane and
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this is one of the biggest shows on TV
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right so so but but you know what it did
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for Karen and I really just for a moment
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is it took the wind out of her sails
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yeah I mean I'll be authentic it really
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did right Karen lets me know I'm like
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wow I'm like holy crazy oh my god now
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what I mean when I got that when she
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called me that morning truly and she
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called and she said oh I don't even know
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how to say this but I'm literally in my
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car on the way to the airport and it was
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and she started I think the color
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probably drained out of my face she
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didn't even see me and I went oh my gosh
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now and I think I know what I said
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congratulations I said congratulations
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because how cool is that for her right
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congratulations and we want more women
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at her caliber
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to be on those type of shows right and
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that media right and it's because of
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popularity is going through the roof
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that's exactly what she got the call to
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be on such a major show and Bravo
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but what but getting back to what
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happened for you and I is is that we
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were both felt a little defeated that
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would be probably an understatement
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yep yep felt really defeated and so we
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both made a decision my decision was hey
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listen let's watch her on you know on
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antique own show
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okay let's celebrate another woman who
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is like killing it right now right
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because you know these we love to
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support and encourage and let's let's
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circle back tomorrow let's circle back
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tomorrow after yoga and everything else
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that we do and we did we did and we were
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very authentic with each other about
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first we Benson how how disappointed we
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were because here's the thing Karen is I
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know that you and I were disappointed
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but I think there's something around
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disappointment out there that also comes
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around with shame right I really do I
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think that is a feeling that starts
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getting identified in our body as a Oh
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like you start feeling like as if you
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did something wrong
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right that's an initial feeling right
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right okay that's never the case I mean
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probably 99% of time it's just
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circumstances and that's more right but
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the reality then becomes okay so it's
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not my fault I do nothing I did but know
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what because again we had we had put so
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much time and energy and and I'm sure
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that those who are watching right now
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and watching in the future I'm sure you
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can picture yourself in a situation
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where you you put all of your time your
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energy your soul your heart into
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something and then for no fault of your
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own something happens and it doesn't it
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doesn't work the way you wanted it to
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and then what do you do how do you how
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do you shift that what's the mindset and
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shifting that and getting back up as I
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said you I'm gonna just pick myself up
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and I'm gonna dust myself off and I'm
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gonna probably hit this even harder and
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that's what we discussed right we're
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gonna hit this even harder than we did
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the last time and is that realistic yeah
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and I think the best
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yeah exactly because that's the real key
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because we're professionals right and I
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think it's okay to wallow in something
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for a few minutes and I'm all for that
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because you have to feel your feelings
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but then it's just like okay let's go to
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plan B and I personally feel Plan B
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should be like come out stronger come
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out harder come out more enthusiastic
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than we did the first round right that's
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the way I feel about disappointment and
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I feel and here's another thing to
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having to reach out to everyone that had
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scheduled around this who was planning
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on showing up that's part of the
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disappointment gig is having to say to
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others this is what's going on and
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having to explain Karen I think that's
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part I think that's that think that's
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connecting the dots in regards to them
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feeling the failure for a minute oh I
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had people move to that I felt it I I
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will be honest I mean and we didn't talk
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about it till the next day truly but
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there was a point that went why bother
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you know right why bother well I I can't
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I can't do this again and then you know
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time passed and we talked and I realized
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of course I can of course I can yeah
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yeah and what I think I think the really
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important lesson to take away from all
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this is that just just to know that it's
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I think it's a self blame game around
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failure that we want to take out of the
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equation that's why you and I wanted to
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have this conversation right I think
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it's the first thing that as humans that
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we go to as a south playing game first
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and instead of just going to plan B and
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being in forward motion and just hitting
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it harder I agree I agree Joey we've got
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some comments coming in should I put a
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comment up and see I would love to say
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so Kathleen wrote I'm a definite
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advocate of stepping into conscious
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intentionality when it comes to managing
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supporting and nurturing our state's
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really looking forward to the dialogue
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very very good very very good we love
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thank you and then Amy said Bravo
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getting up may be an invitation to a
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better blessing absolutely so and and
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that is actually how I think we
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eventually we got
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that this is a blessing because look
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she's gonna have all this exposure going
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back to this particular situation she
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was going to have exposure let's look at
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the blessing in this in a way that you
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know was additional blessing and
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different ditional exposure and I can
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leverage that right we can leverage the
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experience and so you know you and I put
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together some really cool posts that
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I've been sharing out there about her
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sliding off the couch you know out off
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of Andy Cohen's couch and sliding back
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onto my couch and how fun is that
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because we took I you know you allowed
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me to take something that was already
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kind of depressing me is like I was I
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going to do this again and turned it
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upside down on its ear and I think that
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that's a great message that if we can
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find the positive and something it
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changes the outlook yeah it really does
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it really changes the outlook and here's
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a thing to Karen is that the the
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absolute big huge blessing here is that
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there is an amazing woman out there who
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is on reality TV
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who is being honored and respected and
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outside of the norm of what reality TV
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is and so the more exposure she gets the
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better for all of us I mean it
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collective we're all that we're all a
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collective yeah absolutely
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so how about you guys that are that are
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watching right now have you experienced
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things in your life and your business
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personal where you've been disappointed
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maybe you'd like to share with us in the
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comments even for now or for later on
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and we can go back and read letting us
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know how did you turn that upside down
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how did you turn it around if you make
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it a blessing or did you continue along
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the poor me path right right hey I think
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I'm in a really important part about
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this topic is talking about the topic
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mm-hmm right it's so easy to talk about
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well how you fixed it on the other side
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right because you hear that all the time
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keen owners are talking about that or
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you know ager
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prominent figures are talking about that
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but talking about what it's like when
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you're still raw right going through the
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process I think that's how you are
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opening doors for others so that they're
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like you know wait yeah I'm not feeling
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good about this right now this isn't
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working out the way I would hope it to
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yes I know is supposed to be get get
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grateful but I'm allowed to take a
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moment exactly feel these feelings and
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be bummed out and disappointed for a
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second
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it's okay and wallow in it I mean just
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totally like okay just you know grab
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your favorite beverage and just sit and
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just sit in it until you until and if
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you can look at it differently yeah
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exactly I don't think there should be
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any timeline out there because I feel
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like there seems to be a little bit of a
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trend right now going on where it's just
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like we'll just be grateful for
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everything and I'm like you know listen
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sisters and brothers we are like Karen
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and I are very grateful people you know
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but at the same time I think being human
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is actually experience our emotions and
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that's what makes us so spectacular with
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the ups and the downs so true so true
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and in Joey you know you come from a
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background of being in the industry and
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have experienced these kind of
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disappointments so you you have a
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totally I think unique because of where
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you come from way of looking at this it
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was very helpful to me quite frankly in
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terms of you know that things don't
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always turn out the way that you think
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they're gonna turn out no matter how
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much work you put into it and you have
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so really right I mean there was just
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endless times like I'd be so close to
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closing a deal me it was literally on
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the last leg of just getting it over the
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finish line and then my boss one of my
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bosses would call and be like are you
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sitting down and you always do that was
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not a good sign it was not a good ad
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that was not a good way to open up a
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conversation but what it did teach me
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after a while is is that whole the whole
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gig of like take time to really like you
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know honor my emotions and then get back
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and just say okay how can I hit this
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harder exactly
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Lisa little I just put a nice comment up
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it's important to honor your feelings
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absolutely it really is you know this
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whole idea and here's the thing too as
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professionals we honored it for one
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night we could have gone days right but
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as a professional right as professionals
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you know after yoga I called Karen and
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you know and Karen did her routine and
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we both said okay how can we do this you
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know what what are we gonna do next
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right but the thing too is about the
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disappointment feeling is a lot of times
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people want to go back into the shadows
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right right
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you want to go back in the shadows
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because I do believe that there is some
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deeper sense sometimes of what did I do
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wrong
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why didn't I didn't do enough
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affirmations or I didn't do enough
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meditate or whatever it is right you
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know right and it's just like at the end
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of the day sometimes it just has nothing
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to do with you it's just circumstances
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and that's it right absolutely so we you
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know I did we picked ourselves up brush
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ourselves off and we reach the edge with
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the show so we want to let you guys know
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that coming up on this coming Monday on
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June 19th at 3 p.m. Pacific time 6
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o'clock Eastern Time sandy on is gonna
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be sliding on the couch she's gonna be
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joining us and we're going to talk about
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breaking the glass ceiling unless of
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course something happens now we're not
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anticipating anything no shadow up
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nothing's gonna happen sure show up we
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want you to be there and we hope that
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you will be there and join us on that as
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well we do have another comment though
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if that's okay Joe I'm gonna put up here
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and this is from Amy as an example I
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lost a huge job due to cancer and I took
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a long time a long while to scream at
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the beach grateful for everything no way
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for moments in life yes and and that I
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mean Amy thank you for sharing that
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that's very personal thank you for
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sharing that and but that's exactly what
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we're talking about take the time to
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grieve take the time to yell and scream
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take the time to do whatever it is that
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you need to do and then if you can find
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it within yourself jump back up and get
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going yeah just be human allow that's
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why we have our emotions be human any
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last thoughts before we think about you
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know here's a last thought that I was
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having is that around this is that we
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also made a commitment to each other
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that we were gonna be more enthusiastic
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and what that really is is that's a
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discipline and a choice and by setting
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that attention is you have to sometimes
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just dig really deep you got to push
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those feelings aside and just say how
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can I be more excited and more
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enthusiastic than I was the first round
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right and that is how you're gonna drive
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yourself drive yourself into a higher
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vibration of course also to you
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we're fun with it it just have more fun
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and this is not what life's about the
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end of the day it's just like so we're
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excited we're super excited about money
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cannot wait Karen it's gonna be a blast
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and we want to thank everyone for
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joining us today on women inspiring
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women rise together because we do and
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we'll see you next time on the next
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episode next edition and I think that's
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next week
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as a matter of fact we have a special
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but we will definitely see you guys next
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week we want to thank you for being on
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with us because we know you have a
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choice as to where you spend your time
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thank you for spending it with us
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tonight
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see you then bye-bye thank you everyone
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