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Sep 11, 2017
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hello everyone Karen Glasser here and
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welcome to women inspiring women rise
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together I'm so happy to have Mike
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Betsey over here oh this way
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actually over here hey Joey how you
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doing today hi Karen is so great to be
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here today and I love this topic we're
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going to be discussing today cuz you and
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I have talked about this topic quite a
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few times together we have because as
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you like to say word green horse and we
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will go go go we're always go go going
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and so you know when we were talking
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about what should we talk about this
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week it was kind of like a no-brainer
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self care for women so considered a
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luxury not a priority what do you think
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what do you think the challenge is for
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people I just think that everyone worked
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very very young it's just like we're
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taught at a young age that were not the
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priority first especially as women and
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here's the thing depending on where you
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were born I think in the family now I
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was the eldest so I had a lot of
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responsibility early on me too yeah you
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too this way you and I like we can't go
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selling Karen oh we connect on very deep
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levels we get each other we do and it
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you know and I when we started to talk
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about this and we're talking about
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having fun and going out and doing fun
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things and I realize I don't do that
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very often in fact that's the last thing
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that I think about and I don't
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I actually think that it's something
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that I personally need to work on
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because all work and no play makes Karen
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a very dull girl no me too this is this
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is something that I've been conflicting
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with for many many many years well
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working the Hollywood entertainment
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business it's you know that motto is
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work hard play hard right whatever
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self care isn't isn't in there right
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because when you're working hard and
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you're playing hard when are you getting
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a massage when are you doing your
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meditations when are you doing your yoga
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when are you doing your affirmations
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right cuz you're tired you're tired all
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the time in my case what do you know
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when you're going out to have wine
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tasting and eating good food that would
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be my fun I mean I'm not I'm very open
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about this I'm yoga seems too slow for
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me even though I've been told I really
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need to go try it right look and they
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were like for us they didn't compose
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green words but they're like for you
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high-strung you know a types out there
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they're like meditation and yoga are
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your two best friends but you know I
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think there's that but here's something
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to that you know that I wanted to bring
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up in this discussion is what is
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self-care mean in today's marketplace
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right alright what does that even mean
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what's the definition of self-care and
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marketplace now I know we've got some
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great people out there that we run with
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that are watching this right now and I
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would love for them to share their
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definition of self-care so we can all
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learn from each other I'm going to put
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one up there so we have here from Donnie
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yeah when we forego our self-care other
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things start to slip on seeing that in
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quite a few women in business right now
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with whom unconnected failure to take
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care of themselves is affecting their
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ability to show up in their business
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which affects everyone else involved so
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I have a question this is the question
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for you so how do you define self-care
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what would you be doing right yeah
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exactly exactly what what are you gonna
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do so here's what I've done is I've
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literally structured my entire company
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around yoga really yes every single
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thing so basically I've chunked out the
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days and they go to yoga and those times
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nothing can overlap and if I do allow
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myself not to go it is because something
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huge like I'm traveling right it's for
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business I'm traveling for business but
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yeah I've created my entire business
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around my yoga practice best decision I
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made to date and and I guess I really do
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know that because I know that you go in
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the morning and we plan we plan this
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particular live way to happen yoga so
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you know and I do so we're asking all of
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you who are watching either live today
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or even on replay make sure you let us
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know that you're her and we play
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what kind of self-care things are you
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doing for yourself and what does that
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even mean to you as individuals as I was
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joking that means I go wine-tasting
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because that really is relaxing for me
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not your the drinking of the wine but
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actually going out of my house I sit in
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front of my desk all day long so getting
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up and doing that what other suggestions
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do we have for our viewers well you know
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and here's the thing too is is how is
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the self-care how is it actually
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impacting your professional life I
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actually think I believe very deeply
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that since I have incorporate
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these specific self-care rituals of mine
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that my business has thrived more
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because of the self-care that I've
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incorporated now to the outside person I
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do hear a lot from friends and
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colleagues that I work a lot and that's
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because I'm a builder like I'm literally
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like I when I did my personality test
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I'm literally a builder so building is
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fun to me right so I want to be building
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all the time right and they're like you
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work you work your work and I'm like but
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if you stood back for a second you saw
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the way I structured my business you
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would see that a big chunk of my day is
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spent in this particular whether it's
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self-care and another self-care for me
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to use my hair good stirrup okay what
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does that mean I love my hair is part of
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my brand so I get my hair washed all the
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time I go and get my hair trimmed all
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the time yeah all the time
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okay so getting mani-pedis right that
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would be so perfect right reading
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reading turning off the TV and just
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reading in that like zoning out all the
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time another self care act is learning
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for me I love to learn right and a lot
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of times when I'm not self carrying
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Karen I stop the learning process
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because I'm deep because I'm so deep
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underneath my business so in I'm so in
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my business and that's when I know I
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have to be on top of my business again
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so learning is a great self-care act for
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me I really really think that that's
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that's important for me it I thought
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when I do do something I'll take my dogs
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out for a walk it gives me away from my
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desk it gets me to the fresh air it
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gives me a new perspective I also try to
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and I know this sounds ridiculous to
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push away from my desk at lunchtime
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because I sometimes a lot of times
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forget to eat because I never actually
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take care of myself in terms of getting
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the right nutrients into my body because
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I'm so busy looking at my computer
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screen all day long in fact yeah it was
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funny I had a neighbor over for dinner
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the other night and he says I never see
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you outside during the day where are you
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well he says I know you work from
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but where are you I said I'm sitting in
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front of my desk all day long he says is
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that healthy and that was the
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contrasting thing to ask me is that
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healthy hmm maybe not well you know
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here's here's the thing we do have to
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find a balance I mean you'll be an
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entrepreneur and create a thriving brand
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if you're you know if you're unbalanced
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you know really but here's the other
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interesting point about self-care too is
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that if you don't feel good physically
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if you don't feel good like just
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physically from your core doesn't that
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impact your business I think it does how
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you show up I think it does you feel
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looking stressed right yeah even if you
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don't feel good like your clothes don't
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fit right if you're not feeling good
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inside your clothes when you wake up if
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you're like listen a lot of women out
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there the first thing they say there's
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I'm you know I'm you know I eat too much
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I'm too overweight I'm too this I'm too
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that right I'm like oh my god stop stop
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the madness because that's impacting
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every single thing you do just self-care
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and first thing to say to yourself is I
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love myself inside and out
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retha lamont me right now the mirror
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love like just do some mere love you
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know oh I'm sorry no I also say - I was
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just talking to sunshine - this morning
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who is a health trainer and a physical
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trainer and also Isagenix and we were
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talking we were talking about what you
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put in your mouth is part of the
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self-care model right because it's so
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easy to reach for that so I've actually
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cut caffeine and sugar completely out of
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my diet okay you don't want to see this
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then is that what you think hardest
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thing a day but you feel better actually
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a more energy now yeah that's that's
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good right yeah good that's tough and
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another thing for self-care and for
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those of us who work at home and/or work
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in our home office yes that you know
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just because you're not going out to
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your office does not mean that you
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wanna go into your home office stressed
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and I get dressed every day I don't sit
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here in my pajamas
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and you do I really I mean I'm Edworthy
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every day I notice that yeah I do
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I I don't I really try to show up as if
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as if I were going to an outside office
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I take care of myself that way and I'm
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also not one of those people you know
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you were talking about my clothes don't
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fit so hot and I don't look feel so good
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I don't get caught up in the numbers on
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the sizes I wear comfortable clothes and
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I take care of myself that way because
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there's nothing worse than looking at
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yourself in the mirror and saying I
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don't like this and I don't like that I
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don't like the way I look that is just
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such a downer in terms of our mental
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state I think yeah so let's give Susan
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Jacobs a shout out to hear someone else
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that we run with and yeah light loving
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way loving what's in your closet I think
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is a big part of self-care I really do I
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do tell you like when when women go in
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their closet and they're just like ugh
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you know I have nothing to wear I hate
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when I'm wearing today and like that
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puts a big damper on the way you're
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feeling internally and externally don't
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you think and that can we have business
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business and our professional lives in a
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really big way so so it's it's just
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makes sense to get the resources around
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you you know but you got to structure it
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I believe you have to structure it
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personally that I just tell I've built I
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do too
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I mean one of my I don't call them
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resolutions but one of my goals for this
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year was to be better at self care and
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that meant washing my face every night
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because I didn't always do that
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mm-hmm I didn't so what is my face every
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night and and that just that one little
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Act
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made me feel like I was taking so much
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better care of myself but okay I was a
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grown up because I either you know
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little kids they don't wash their face
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all the time and Here I am in see you're
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a woman and I wasn't washing my face on
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a regular basis who kind of makes sense
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and I want to give to Danny and the
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shout out to out there is she's got this
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great book out there okay an Estonian
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can you put it can you put the link into
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the comment section for everyone so I
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did complete blank she actually gave us
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a great comment over there as is but
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it's all about self-care through
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menopause and how to take care of your
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body and she has a glass of red wine on
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the cover in which she's really trying
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to say to people is that you don't self
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care does not mean that you you can't
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have a lifestyle that you can't enjoy
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life
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right because moderation and moderate
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but also to have to eat drink and be
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merry through menopause thank you yeah
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we go thank you
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I loved it I read it from cover to cover
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as soon as I got it off Amazon is that I
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mean the read is like awesome so I read
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it and I actually started integrating a
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bunch of her different you know tips and
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strategies around self-care but again it
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I think it always is going to come back
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to structure so here's what I'm gonna
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suggest everyone out there right eye is
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to calendar or self-care it's a priority
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we got to make yourselves a priority why
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don't we why why should we put our
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self-care as a priority inside of our
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own calendars we put everyone else we
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put everyone puts their kids their pets
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the petrol is in their calendars right
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right or pet their bosses their friends
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their collaboration partners how about
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we put ourselves in there I think that's
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great I think it's great I just put it
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up on the screen I think that's actually
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I live by my calendars that's a great
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idea for me is to put this into my
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calendar and I am gonna actually one of
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these days come up to where you are and
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go to yoga with you because I think oh
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my god I would love it she sure would
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love you and here's the thing about her
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- that's so awesome his reason a picture
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is because at the end she sings to you
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oh she sings Amazing Grace so that you
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feel blessed before you walk out the
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door again so again everyone's got their
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own their own self care rituals out
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there we want to hear about your self
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care ritual like literally put them in
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like on the head out put it out for us
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because that's how we learn from each
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other right Karen is we can't have an
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aha moment unless we're exposed to it
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right absolutely and so put it in the
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comments and then add the hashtag WIW so
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that we can track this we can see it all
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over the place and create this this um
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this movement forward actually of giving
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people ideas on how to do self-care why
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not I think it's a great idea guys Joey
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first of all thank you we I just love
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doing this with you on it on a bi-weekly
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basis and we'll be back a few weeks
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we'll be back in two weeks and we want
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to thank all of you who are joining us
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today live and
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who are here on replay we just so
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appreciate you taking the time to join
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us when you do so go out and have a
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great day and we'll see you next time
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