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How to Communicate In Today's World!
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Apr 22, 2020
Host Caren Glasser talks with International Coach/Author Rene Kamstra about how to communicate in today's world. Check out more shows here: http://www.carenglasser.TV Follow us on Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/carenglasser Follow us on Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/carenglasserlive Follow us on Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/carenglasser Visit The Super Boomer Lifestyle store: https://thesuperboomerlifestyle.com/ #superboomer™ #communicateintodaysworld #communication #ReneKamstra #internationalspeaker My Direct Links, Programs and Equipment I use for my Shows and Promotion: BeLive: http://bit.ly/3p7E0DB Get Your Book In Front Of Thousands of Potential Buyers! https://bit.ly/2HJ38Qu Logitech HD Pro Webcam: https://amzn.to/362BuXP Wired Earbuds with Microphone: http://amzn.to/3p1pmOi Lavalier Lapel Microphone: http://amzn.to/3p9EFVo
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the globe who share how they are maneuvering through a world that worships youth and shames the beautiful
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process of aging and today is no exception our guest is international coach and author Rene Kempster and
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friend we are talking about communicating in today's world if you are here live terrific if your heroine
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replay just as terrific make a comment let us know how you got here and share
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share share share we love it when you share so a little information about Rene
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one of the world's top speakers and business person she focuses on communication personal development
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corporate growth and leadership for entrepreneurs and corporate executives she consults and trains a vast range of
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clients located in 28 countries yes I said 28 countries she has helped her
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clients achieve phenomenal success including one of her clients recently accepting a 1 million dollar offer on
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shark tape that's very cool Rene Rene is one of the top closers and sales trainers in the industry personally
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closing over 415 million dollars in sales she works with people at home as
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well that help them communicate without fear and so without further ado I
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welcome Rene to the show how you doing today Aimee Karen I'm so happy to be here
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thank you for inviting me I am excited you've been traveling the world and I know that you just recently
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got home and are staying home so I'm
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really really happy that you made the time to come and join us on this show because you have so much to share I have
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such a great amount of respect for you and I like to start my show by asking
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the question how do you describe a super boomer now I describe super boomers as
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not being defined by their age they are defined by how they show up in life
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fearless with a just watch me attitude fearless now I want you to remember that
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word because we're going to be talking about that so Renee chemstro how do you describe a super boomer to me a super
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boomer is somebody who really creates exactly the life that they want
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and then they go out and make a difference in the world at the same time because to me it's all about people and
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if we can make a difference we've won everything great great
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definition you know I already kind of gave some clues when I was introducing
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you about the topic you know the topic is about communicating in today's world however the world today is a lot
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different than it was a month ago two months ago six months ago and when we first chatted we had a whole nother you
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know direction as to where we are going and so today we're talking about communication and if you're just tuning
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in we've got reneik hamster on and we're talking about how communicating in today's world has changed so how has it
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changed how has communication changed it's really interesting Karen because we have two groups when we look at
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communication today you have the group of entrepreneurs that really do not
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think about fear right now and all they think about is you know what this is a
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time where things can really boom if they look back at recessions from years
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ago they know how to make it work and like yourself who's doing a show like
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this today that is what a lot of super boomers or people do right now which is taking them
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on a different path right they are looking and talking to people who are pretty positive yeah I call in you have
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you're pivoting right and that is extremely important but now you have the
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other group of people that all they can think about is the fear of what is going
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on they are watching news 24/7 you know they might have been maybe fired from
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their work or whatever and so they are sitting and they are not doing anything
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because they are totally stuck where they are and all they can talk about is
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about everything that is wrong where you know when I'm talking about my super
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boomer or what I believe a super boomer is it is somebody who create exactly
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what they want and so yep most people are sitting at
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home I'm going to tell you something that you wouldn't have expected I feel
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extremely healthy and I also feel it's really important for me to do a
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difference and to make a difference and so what did I do I signed up for a company named chip and
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with shift you go and you get groceries for people who are scared to come out of
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the house and I'll delivering groceries well cause that way I'm making a
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difference and instead of saying well you know what in this time which is the
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truth ninety percent of my clients put me on a hold period for right now right I just
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made I made the decision well then income has to come a different way right
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right in hand oh I'm doing doesn't mean that I don't have money it means I
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do whatever it takes and always making a difference so so how do you tell how do
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you help people that way I mean we can tell them that is there a step something
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that they can just take a first step to get out of their own way you know
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absolutely but when you tell people do not listen to news 24/7 it is something
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that they don't always want to accept right and honestly that is the step
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number one yeah it's not to listen to news 24/7 and so I actually have a very
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big rule I take my telephone twice a day for five minutes and that's the only
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time that I actually put it on so I can see what is really happening you know
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for a very long time I just decided I'm not going to watch news I will always
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hear it but because communication has changed
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people are actually not communicating and are becoming extremely lonely in
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these days and and what I have found is if I do that
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two times a day look at what happens I can reach out to others and make a
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difference by giving them just a synopsis but then going over to little
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things they can do so why do I do when I listen to these five minute clips what I
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will do right after is I will immediately switch over not just to look
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or listen to something beautiful or positive I actually go to music and the
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reason for that is very clear when I listen to a good speaker like yourself
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or some of your shows it doesn't mean that my mind will actually go there and
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listen when I listen to music and I
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start singing with it whether I have a good voice or I am off tune it doesn't
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matter I can think about anything else I
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love that you know I listen to classical music because when music that has words
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it actually gets in my way I listen to classical music so I can just deep dive
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right into it and it just it's very soothing I listen to it at night I listen to it in the morning and whenever
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I need something to I listen to classical and you have a beautiful voice
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by the way Rene thank you so do you so we always said we wanted to sing
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together what I come from time right we will so let's let's really do a deep
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dive on fear you know I my introduction about super boomers that were fearless
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and I'm fearless and I have a t-shirt that says I'm fearless I do believe I'm fearless but I don't think that I live
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without fear I think what happens is it's how we approach fear I lean into it
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and if if I'm feeling and I know that you you probably have your your this a similar opinion but much much better
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communication about it because that's your thing but I lean into the fear because that's telling me I need to go
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do it let's talk about fear so fear is always an emotion right fear is
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something that is based on maybe I think that happens in the past and now it kind of is brought back into our
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minds so I am going to actually give you a story that happened to me in Thailand
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that didn't have to do with fear but it's a similar emotion and so I I just
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want people to understand so I was on a nine month actually it was an eleven month we'll
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world tour and a month for I woke up one morning in Thailand and as I woke up
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what was happening was I was so homesick I felt incredibly lonely I felt alone
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and in my mind I was like you know it
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alright just fine and I'm going back home but I know that that's I always
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tell people you never do you don't run emotion so remember what I said fear is
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the emotion so what I did instead is I gave myself some 15 minutes to sulk
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so I literally set my alarm and I said okay for that 15 minutes I can cry I can
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scream I can do what I want but when I'm done I'm going to go to my favorite
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restaurant so that's exactly what I did it so once the alarm went I'm not
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kidding you I mean that snot was dripping I'm sorry for the description
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but it's the truth it was dripping my eyes was crying it was standing wide I put my clothes on
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and I started walking to the restaurant and when I came there it was full of lady boys right they didn't know how to
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handle me right because you can imagine they are so kind and so I sat outside
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and I ordered an omelet now long story short as I was sitting there still
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crying like crazy and just wanting to go home a butterfly came and that butterfly
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landed on the plant right next to me I took a photo of that
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then when my honest came that butterflies flew into my plate and it
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faced out took a photo of that it turned around I took a photo of that and then
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before it gave me notice it went in the middle of my omelet and it spread its
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wings and I have a photo of that so I'm happy to send you these photos if you want to show you okay love it and we'll
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put it in the blog when when the blog comes out please do and so what happened
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in that moment is I look at this butterfly my first thought was am I still eating this omelette right and
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then I'm like yeah it's just little legs but what was fascinating was that it
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looked like that omelette was being absorbed by this well butterfly it
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looked like it was honey to them or a nectar right right but we all know they
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don't eat salty things right and so but what I did is it took me out of my whole
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emotion Annie brought me to the present because all I could see was this
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butterfly right I mean what happened is I was thinking what is the message that
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this butterfly is bringing me and in that moment I actually posted a Facebook
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post and I believe within about 30 minutes I had a hundred and 69 comments
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from all over the world with people telling me what they believed the
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message was for me well now I know in that moment that message to me that was
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what I felt was you are never alone okay so I want to bring the same message to
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our audience in fear you are never alone
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you just have to choose which side of the fear you want to be on I agree I and
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if you decide that look it is a fearful situation without trying to make less of
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it wait however it's not changing anything if we are playing into the emotion of
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fear so we might just as well choose to play the other side yeah and do whatever
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it takes not to stay in that emotion because frankly if you communicate from
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a place of fear you communicate from a place where you do not hear anything I I
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actually I actually experienced that earlier this morning and so I and I'm
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actually feeling it as you're talking but because it is an emotion but it's
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how you decide to respond to it and going to either one side or the other
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this is such an important conversation I'm sure as you're listening out there and and you're looking at that how do
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you feel your fear when you're watching this whether live or on replay go ahead and make a comment down there how do you
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feel your fear how do you respond to fear what Rene just said is that is that
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resonating with you tell us what you think about fear we want to hear from you we want to hear from you so how is
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that so we're talking about fear and communication so obviously from your
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perspective and I can understand why communication is is so important when
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you're feeling that fear right so
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everybody wants to be heard mm-hmm but it always takes a listener in order to
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be heard but if people are fearful they close themselves off to the listening
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part and they all want to give their opinion but we need to remember it's
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always an opinion it's nothing more than that yes yes right when your friend all
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these things then is out there about right now we are in the middle of a virus right we are sitting at home and
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we you and I spoke about that but the point of the matter is they have never
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experienced something like this before and so everything that is coming out is
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a matter of opinion and opinion changes day by day which we're seeing
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and we're seeing every day something else this is unchartered territory even
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talking to my parents about this because they were born just at the time of the
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depression just at the time so they're don't remember it because they were they were babies right so even they didn't
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experience so not even in their lifetime have they experienced this none of us
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would we ever have woken up one morning and said oh I think we're going to experience something a pandemic or
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something that affects the entire world it almost doesn't even make sense right but I love that what you were saying
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it's uncharted territory so you know it's the same term when it comes to
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communication anything that you communicate unless it's something that
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you have said over and over because you don't listen will always be uncharted
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territory because like you and I are communicating right now if I'm not present I cannot answer what you have to
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say or what you ask and you couldn't talk with me right and so if we can see
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communication as uncharted territory we really want to listen and we want to
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hear deeper what somebody else say you know what will happen hey you're going
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to have better relationships B you're going to have way better sales because
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you will understand what somebody wants and need right C you will really have a
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bigger family dynamic right cause people will feel important right right whereas
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if you always have the world or the world so to speak you make everybody
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else less important than your thought thought process yeah you know you use a
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saying be the eye of the storm what does that mean well think about it if you
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have a tornado going right you have all this stuff flying around but the eye of
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the storm is that one space that is so calm yeah it's calm
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right and so when you actually produce this show right everybody around you
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might be like oh I don't know if I can do this what can I say how can I do this and if you are not the eye of the storm
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in less interviews right there's just no way this this could go well so you are a
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perfect example and in the eye of the storm and it's interesting because I bring my guests on a half-an-hour before
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for that very reason to make sure that the guest you know not not every you've
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been in front of lots of cameras not but you even had you come on a half an hour before we could talk so we could
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communicate so by the time the show went live we're just continuing the conversation right and so very true and
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that's I'm so that's interesting use me as an example because I guess I am the eye of the storm I their honor so why do
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you do what you do I love people these a
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few things I love people I love traveling and to me my whole purpose on
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this endoscope is to make a difference to create a shift and unless I create a
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shift even if it's 1% it is just no way
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that I could live my purpose so that's exactly what I do what I do I love that
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so Karen cup who's on live with us right now when we I asked the question about Farrah she said I stop and tell myself
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that my purpose is bigger than my fear Karen thank you so much for participating in being here live your
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thoughts and apparent opinions are very very important to us so I want to thank you for that so do you have a tip you
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want to share now let me preface this so when I originally sent you some thoughts about this you responded with with this
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I'm actually going to say what your tip was and I don't mean about this before the show I find it ironic because here
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we are months later because this is we booked this months ago you said when times become tough I say to myself
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things always work out better than expected you had no idea when you were
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this that when times get we are in tough times right here we are in tough times
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and you still believe that things work out better than expected
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you know it's saying that I have started probably ten years ago so it's a quote
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that I have everywhere and I absolutely believe it but I also believe if I keep
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on telling myself while I'm in fear that things always work out better than expected then that's exactly what's
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going to happen because whatever we focus on will expand and when I'm in
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fear I cannot take myself from this side of the spectrum to this side of the
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spectrum in one minute so those people that tell me to become positive you know it's just not happening right fighting
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fire right so but in that moment if I say things who work out better than
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expected it is something that I can live with and as I progress it becomes even
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better than that so I can give you another example right before this or
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illness pandemic I was all over the world right and the date that I decided
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to come back I was in Australia we were going to have seven events they were all canceled and instead they had one
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luncheon that I had a very big presentation and I in that moment decided I'm just going to stay in
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Australia I mean beautiful Gold Coast I'm about one mile away from Tom Hanks
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and his wife that's why I was in there just location right and I think I'm just
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going to stay here and then one of my beeps literally said to me Renee but
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what if you get it and they have to choose between you and an Australian and
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that's what made me come home so why am i bringing that up is in that moment I
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booked a plane ticket I got to the airport I was going to fly to New
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Zealand and then from there get on in Airlines to come back home when I
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checked in New Zealand in that moment decided they closed the airport for
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transit people oh right I am two hours away from flying sorry they won't take
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me on a plane so here I am and yes I had
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fear because now I'm sitting I can't even go back to Queensland because Queensland closed its border with Sydney
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so what did you do so I started saying you know everything always works out
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better than expected but I didn't just sit there and say this I obviously win and stand in line so
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that I could buy another ticket because there were two more Qantas flights that would come back to America oh there he
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and so I stood in line and the lady before me had the option to buy the last
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ticket so I said these words to myself almost loud and she couldn't make the decision
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and so she phoned her husband and her husband was going back and forth so I said if you don't take it I will take it
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and the lady in front of the tool and she said I cannot wait anymore I've been
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waiting five minutes on you she sold me the last speaker well that last ticket
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so I came home so you know I had now the choice am I going to feel bad because I
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stole somebody's ticket or am I feeling happy because it was my it was just for
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me right you know and you said sitting in the airport you used you recited the
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phrase but you didn't just sit there you went and took action that's like I'm sure you've heard people say when
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Napoleon Hill wrote Think and Grow Rich really we're supposed to think it and we're just going to be rich no of not
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it's the same kind of thing it's what you put inside what you believe in and
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then the actions that hey great to manifest that slowly yeah
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so good so I want to just say you safely actions when that that gut feeling is
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talking to you to me it's not the actions that your brain tells you
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because in communication I just want to bring this point out the brain is a very small part of your body everything that
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takes action is actually your arms your legs your heart your throat it's part of
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the action right and so I just want to make sure that we preface this because
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people think they're going to make it happen and many times that's when you
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bump your head a thousand times right however what you can't see or
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perceive you can conceive oh what is the same maybe you know whatever you can
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think about it anyway you can make happen and so when that feeling comes up
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that is when you move forward and that's what happens and well and I for one I'm
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happy that it happens that you were able to come back so that we would have a you know the ability to do the show with
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with decent internet connection Paulo from Brazil he just made a comment I put
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it up on the screen so along those lines of intuition um you knew that I was gonna ask you
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this question what is your superpower and young you asked me you said well what do you think your superpower your
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superpower is and I said I said to you that I thought your superpower was listening correct and hearing the words
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not just not just you know the words coming at you but actually hearing and internalizing them and you said your
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superpower I said my superpower is listening but combine that with you know
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whatever is coming through me into it oh my intuition my gut feeling because
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frankly that is what made my clients millions and millions of dollars because
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many times will I coach I don't even what's coming out of my mouth but I
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trust it I love that and I'm sure that many times when you coach you may not even be an expert in that particular
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field but you're able to look at the much bigger picture and be able to just let it come out so I that's one of the
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things that you are so so so so good at I you know you've spoken on my stage before you have you have been on other
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shows that I think business bantam you've been on on different things you don't say no to anything you you just
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put yourself out there and I'm grateful for that because you said yes to us I am sure that our viewers are saying huh I
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need to get me some Renee chemstro and so we're going to tell them how they can find you they can first find you on your
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website which is www.hyken.com
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it is at Renee chemstro and on LinkedIn guess again it is at Renee cancer so you
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want to make sure that I know you I know you want to I mean because what is what Renee is done for so many people not
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just these big corporations or the ones that are making millions and millions of dollars she does it for people like me
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and people like others who who need her intuition need her listening need her
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gut to tell you and to help you take that next vote net next step forward
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Renee I want to thank you the time yeah I didn't believe how fast this went I want to thank you for coming in to the
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show today I'm gonna drop you into the green room I have my super boomer moment I actually was writing it down as you
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were talking because I liked it I liked
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what you said you combine something that I said with with something that you said so it's kind of a joint thing so I'm
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going to drop you under the show and don't go away I will be back there in a second
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all right whoops not in green you back in again hold it sorry about that sorry about that all right so my super
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boomer moment of the week and I do this every week I listen I listen to our
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conversations I internalize it and then I try to bring something together and
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you said communication is unchartered territory I love that expression I think
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it should be a quote I think that we should tweet that out because it is it
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is definitely uncharted territory because it changes every single day it changes every single day so Rene thank
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you for that that is a learning piece for me today and I also want to bring up something else so and it's all on line
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mate with with fear and I I can only imagine that there are a lot of us that
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are sitting in our homes that that are worried that have a great amount of anxiety they're lonely they're it maybe
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they're all by themselves because they don't have anybody that they were living with and now they are literally all by
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themselves and they're suffering from anxiety there's meditation all sorts of things this book in particular is the
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book that I've read the worry here seven steps to stop worry from stopping you we
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have that book in the super boomer lifestyle store so go and check it out
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it's a great book it gives you actual steps on how to stop worry from stopping
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you so do check it out all right finally I want to thank you
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you have you you have made a difference in my life
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Rene and all of you have made a difference in my life as well you made a
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decision today to tune in to this show and for that I am eternally grateful and I want to make sure that you join us
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next week for the next episode of the super boomer lifestyle show have a great
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day everyone bye bye
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